I like a girl with low self esteem?

Question

She's very shy. It's hard to have a conversation with her a lot, and she rarely laughs. I'm pretty funny too.

What could I do to win her over? I've tried being funny and being her friend, it's not really working to get her. Could a special Valentine show her i want to go out with her?

Answer 1

Yes, it would be sweet to give her a special Valentine to show that you are serious. Since she has low self esteem she might figure that you are making fun of her when you flirt. I think it would be a good idea to give her something special so she can see that you thought enough of her to make an effort. You don't have to spend a lot, but do something thoughtful.

Maybe some pretty flowers and a card that you made would be a good idea. Good luck! :)

Answer 2

I think it is nice that you are so interested in showing this girl how you feel. I have low self esteem too, even though people say I am pretty, funny and smart From experience, I can say that she probably does not feel worthy of having a great guy and so she doesn't want to let you in. Also, if low self esteem is indeed the issue, she may not like herself very much or have much confidence in her ability to attract and keep a great man, so she is probalby afraid that you are not sincere and by the time she opens up to you, you will be gone. My advice is to remain as consistent as possible. The process of getting her to open up may take awhile, but you may find it to be worth it if you can be patient. Show her that you are there for her and want to understand how she feels. And be patient if she opens up sometimes and seems to be closed off at others. Someone with low self esteem has personal issues to tackle, but, as I said, in my experience and with me personally, I have opened up to people that I have trusted. And for your idea of a special gift - do some research and find out what she likes and give her a gift pertaining to that. For instance, I am a big supported of my local humane society. Most guys never pay attention to this, so if someone gave a donation in my name to my charity, I would definitely see that as very thoughtful and sincere. Find out what is important to her and show her you were thinking about that when you give your gift.

Answer 3

I think you have a great idea. Sending her a Special Valentine would definitely make her feel special and boost her self esteem. I would suggest a single red rose, Stuffed animal, balloon, and/or card. If you decided to go with the card I would write a simple but sweet message letting her know how you feel. Good Luck!

Answer 4

Dude run as fast as you can. She has some deeper issues that aren't ready to hit the surface and when it does it usually comes out as a full blown psychosis. My ex wife was the shy type. I won her heart with lots of persistence and dedication but when I found the route of her inner evils it was a big big crisis. Especially when it finally surfaced.

I am not saying all women who are shy are like this but I think I can safely say... Find out whats in her mind deep down inside. People who know her well will have an inside clue perhaps, or her own family like a brother or sister. I hope your emotionally a strong man and can handle what your about to embark upon.

Answer 5

Just the same things you have been doing. Some people aren't used to being as outgoing as you are, and will take longer to 'break' their shell. Just keep going at it, and eventually she'll loosen up. But doing a little extra on Valentine's Day won't hurt, ;)