So I like this girl, but am havin problems just doin the simple thing of asking her out....We talk almost everyday, but i just dont know when to do it, if i should do it in person or through IM or somthin.
Any helps is appreciated!
2007-02-10 13:32:08 · 21 answers · asked by takestime01 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YOU GUYS ARE MY HEROS, haha. but rly, thanks for the advice.=)
2007-02-10 13:41:18 · update #1
The only thing that can be done over IM is argue. It's easier to misunderstand people's points and views over IM. Don't do it over the phone either, for all you know, her mother might be sitting right beside her, knitting or something.
I say that you need to step up, take in a deep breath, sit her down, and ask her if she likes you, and before she asnwers, tell her that you like her, the question might sound like "Just wondering.... do you like me at all? You see..... i've liked you for a while........." (don't use that), but something like that.
My boyfriend is very outgoing, but extremely shy when he's with me. He says he gets really nervous. Nervousness is ok in guys, and it flatters us girls like crazy.
Ask her, man. Ask her before some one else snatches your princess away.
2007-02-10 13:42:57 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ Cute T ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, try to do things she likes to do. see her at these places (in example) sports events, library, etc., get close to her by speaking with her. Tell her your dislikes and your likes, and bring up conversations about the activity. That way she wont reject communication about any activity. Themore interest you show in her, the more she will notice you. If she does like you then, your both on a good start to becoming friends. Please be creative when you feel its the right time to let her know you like her. Some girls are turned off by pushy boys, I think most girls or women like romance. You can say, " I like the way you play this, or that, or you do that pretty good." You know, to see how she reacts to your praises and compliments. Then, after a positive feedback from her, say, what you feel for her, maybe give her a gift when you speak your heart. You have to get your foot going in the right direction. you will learn, it is better to test the waters than to jump head in. You have every right to be afraid to tell her how you feel if she barely knows you. Most people are intimidated by rejection, plus it hurts. Just know that it if she doesnt like you, its probably not you, just the time she may not be looking for anybody, or a dozen other reasons. Still you would be an acquaintance at the social events, and you could try later. If she is worth telling her once, she is worth trying again. good luck.
2016-05-25 07:04:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask her in person. If she talks to you every day it means she may be waiting for you to ask her out or she might be someone who does not have many friends and is shy like you and is using you. The way to find out is asking in person. Do it in a nice way,don't come out of the blue with the question. Offer to take her out when she wants to and where she'd like to go with you.
2007-02-10 13:49:14 · answer #3 · answered by DAGIM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way dont do it thru im...seriously...cuz like if you ask her in person, itll show her that you arent afraid to show ur feelings and you are strong in that sense...then also youll catch her off gaurd with a nice surprise, and she should most likely say yes...if you ask her on im...she may think ur a wus, and may end up sayin no cuz she has more tiem to think about her answer and may get scared or sumpin silly....so totally ask her in person, and think of a rele cute way to say it...to win her over...girls love charm, adn this is sure to reel her in, just remember that being shy gets you no where, once you step past that wall of fear, you make more friends and have more relationships, and a better experience! hope this hleps!!
2007-02-10 13:38:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it in person. Its the best way to do it. If you ask her out through IM she may think its a joke. Never get a friend to do it.
Girls like it more when guys ask them out face to face.
Well atleast I do.
And if she says no then atleast you know she isnt interested and you can move on.
Good luck.
Hopefully She says yes:D
2007-02-10 13:36:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was you, I would talk to her on IM, this will give her chance to think and respond. Whereas if you ask her in person she will have to instantly answer and that may be a problem becuase she wont get enough time to think.
2007-02-10 13:36:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay it depeneds on the girl if she is shy DONT DO IT IN PERSON she might say no because she is emberassed. And if you do do it in person DONT DO IT IN FRONT OF HER FRIENDS. Okay in email is fine and texting is cool but if you have asked her out alot dont do it every other day give it time
good luck to ya.
2007-02-10 13:41:15 · answer #7 · answered by Kaysee A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well tell this girl when shes in a good mood talking to you. tell her, "what would you say if you go out with me" and she will respond to that, maybe try to give her time to think about that question. if she sais no well just give it up or just be honest and tell her that you really like her. but do it in person, using IM would think ure lying or playing around with her. GOOD LUCK!
2007-02-10 13:37:13 · answer #8 · answered by emme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a girl and trust me unless she is the kind of techno geek person girls like it is person. doing it on the internet just shows your afraid. You should ask her when your alone and dont try to do all that cheesy stuff just say what you truly feel. HOPE EVERYTHING WORKS OUT!!!!!
2007-02-10 13:38:09 · answer #9 · answered by best answer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In person means you care alot and if a guy works up the confidence to do it in person then she shouldn't say no. Also, do it on Valentines day with chocolates!
2007-02-10 13:34:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋