2007-02-10 13:15:34 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
and your in grade-school??
Talk to her, who ever she is. Discuss it and comprise. Post in the right topic
2007-02-10 13:18:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have found that often women want another kid after they have their last more for nostalgic reasons than for actual wanting of a child. Talk to her to find out why she wants another kid--will it make her feel young? Does she miss having a baby in the house? Those reasons are not really good reasons for having another child. My mother in law has 4 kids and 2 grandchildren, and she wants to adopt, and I can see how that is a BAD idea.
Plus, YOU will resent it when you have to do diaper duty or take an active role in the child's life when you feel you should have been free from that stage in life. See if she won't consider your feelings. Foster children are good, too. Be an emergency placement only. They need good homes where people will treat them like family, but they usually aren't permanent if you are a temporary home (I am NOT advocating you take them in long term until you or your wife gets sick of them--just until their home situation improves or they find another placement with family or whatever). Then you get to be a parent without the forever commitment. If your wife says no to this, I would question if she truly wants to be a parent or if she has some other more self oriented reasons in mind.
2007-02-11 00:40:27 · answer #2 · answered by mountain_laurel1183 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm unclear as to what you need help with. Do you want to talk her out of having more kids? Are you completly against more kids? Is she really good with the ones you have, and do you think she can handle more? If you don't want more and she really does, you need to tell her WHY you don't want more kids. You both really need to communicate. Good luck!
2007-02-10 23:14:43 · answer #3 · answered by misskenjr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it if you can afford it. Lot's of kids would be great. Our Prime minister put it.
1 for the mum
1 for the dad
and one for the country.
Wow did that stir up a controversy LOL
I would love a big family.
2007-02-11 01:03:26 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you want more? and how many more? Raising children is not easy. Please think throughly and weigh the gains and lost. If a extra kid is pain and stress to you, the kid won't be happy because the parents are not happy. In that case, you are doing harm to yourself and others.
2007-02-10 21:54:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom cried when my dad said they should stop having kids after my brother. They ended up having four and she wanted six. Try to compromise.
Why not adopt?
2007-02-10 21:50:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to put a child through college 18 years from now it will cost a fortune.
Can she afford it? what life style is she willing to forgo? will she go back to work at age 60 and work until she is 80 to help you pay off the debts?
2007-02-11 00:09:07 · answer #7 · answered by Truth be Told 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the question is you both have to agree on the nos. of how many and also if you can afford it as they grow older and start going to school!
2007-02-10 23:10:14 · answer #8 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the question is do you want more?
2007-02-10 21:22:42 · answer #9 · answered by jayk795 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if one of you does and the other doesn't then don't! please do not bring children into this world who are unwanted.
2007-02-10 21:52:27 · answer #10 · answered by Ella727 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋