My Girlfriend - Breakup - Gift? or Space? Some advice would be nice?

Question

I had a girlfriend and now we kind of broke up. She did something that wasn’t going to be easy to tell me. It was considered a bad thing and she was scared of telling it to my face and decided to leave me a message instead. I am still texting her (being nice about it) but she stopped texting me. (I think she is scared of me or something) So, I have decided to give her a gift; one day before Valentines Day. (P.S. - she hates Valentines Day) I want this gift to have a memory of me and her and our time together in a nice way. I believe that if this trouble wasn’t to take place and we were still together then I would have gotten her something of course, but now I think she is with a different guy. I am a nice person towards everyone and her parents really respect me for who I am. (She says she does, but in reality doesn’t show it at all- it’s sad) I believe, that since she is doing this to me (staying quiet), her parents are probably mad at her for reacting like this, and her parents are

probably feeling bad for me. Should I be giving her some time and space? I will not ever do anything mean or bad against her…. For I am not like that. What type of gift should I get her? BUT, I do not want to get her a gift, and leave her mad. That is possible, but I don’t know, that’s why I need some advice. If a gift, then what. Or just some advice would be nice.

Thank You so much!

Answer 1

if she were to continue talking to you(even as a friend) then i would say give her a gift that means alot to both of you something that will make her think ya know? but if she isnt talking to you then i would just say give her some time and space--this is one of the hardest things to do for an ex but this is like your own gift (in someway) to them and sometimes even though it hurts you so much this is actually the best gift you can give them,someday exes will realize the grass isnt always greener on the other side maybe she just needs to make her own mistakes and figure things out for herself...it takes alot to suddenly give an ex some space it could break you down but you have to keep fighting and if its meant to be its meant to be dont wait for her get on with your life but if she suddenly pops back in it make her fight for you and your relationship...

Answer 2

Think that the gift thing would be appreciated and doing it the day before Valentines day is simply a nice touch by showing her that you listen to her and know that she hates Valentines day. What concerns me is that you think she has another guy in her life. If she does then what are you going to do? I think that you should try going to see her face to face and work things out if you have forgiven her. If you haven't then it altogether doesn't make sense you should just declare friendship.
On the other hand if you have forgiven her then I would advice that you fight and never give up. If you really want to win her heart get her something or do something that she always wanted even an imitation of it should work. If not then I would advice you to get the biggest rock that you could afford because all women like the ice (diamonds).
I know because I am a woman. Go get your woman! Just don;t forget to make a quick stop at the jewelry store.

Answer 3

Thats sad but I know how that can be...depends on what and how the realtionship has been with this girl...I wouldn't go thinking the worst...if you love her don't let her go...I am not saying call her...giver her her space but let her know that you are three for her if and when she is ready to talk. Sometimes us women do not make the best decissions and don't want to tell the ones we love...not because we are afraid they will hurt us but more because we are afraid of letting those we love down. Sometimes in life things happen and some women feel the need to take care of the issue on their own so as not to hurt the man more or get him involved in something that could be messy....I know it sounds confussing and I know it sucks but in a weird way I can relate to her and I don't even know what is going on....
Give her the gift and attach a note that you are there to listen anytime day or night....
Good luck

Answer 4

I'm sorry to say this, but personally I don't think you should get her a gift. I don't doubt it that you are a nice person, don't get me wrong. I think you are very nice and sweet for thinking of her. But she does need space, and I think she would feel a little awkward if you got her one. I mean this in the best of ways. Maybe it's a bit soon, so just wave in the halls and act friendly. Good luck. Also, I do not think you are mean and I know you would never do anything mean to this girl, as she is obviouisly very special to you. But maybe it's a bit soon, don't you think?

Answer 5

My honest opinion is that you probably should wait a while longer. Stop texting her and trying to contact her. Leave her at least 2 weeks space and see if she contacts you. In the meantime that gives you time to really think if you want to give her something and what it would be. Make some plans, hang out with your buddies and enjoy your life in the meantime.

Answer 6

Ok I am a little confused but i will give it a try. If she hasn't said that she is with another guy but u think she is then you should sit ask her in person if she will just talk with u about what u think and say that if it isn't true ur sorry but u didn't want there 2 be weird space between you both. Hope I helped with ur prob.

Answer 7

just let her be, man~if you guys are broken up, you dont wan tto send the wrong message by giving her a present, like a reward or something, you know? And if she IS with another guy, then you definitely don't need to be giving her anything. Just give it some time, as tough as that sounds, and wait and see what happens. Don't jump the gun and see where the pieces land.

Answer 8

that is really sweet that you would give her a gift. i say give her a card, not really a gift but a card (because in reality i dont think she deserves sh*t). just write down how you feel and how this COULD have worked but she ruined it. and tell her your real feelings about the whole thing. i mean to have the guts to break up with someone but not even be respectful enough to tell them why is messed up. that is like breaking up with someone on a post-it note (sorry i cant, please dont hate me) that is lame.

Answer 9

Give her some space and see if she comes around and if she doesn't then move on. It won't be a very good idea to give her a gift right now.

Answer 10

My advice is to forget her and move on, she is going to think you are a nutcase getting her a gift the day before valentines........don't stalk, just walk