3 year old's still not into potty training. Advice?

Question

Until recently, I didn't know that my daycare's been potty training my 3 year old for over a year now. They didn't tell me! To save $ on daycare, my husband wants our son to start kindergarten this year. He thinks I should force the potty issue. I strongly disagree on forceful potty training (sitting our son down & making him use the potty). Freud had a theory to back me up on this one. Advice?

Answer 1

Boys are harder to train than girls. That is a fact. 3 is too young for Kindergarten, isn't it? When he is ready he'll go potty. My son was almost 4 when he started to go.

Answer 2

Your husband is nuts. Kindergarten does not start in the US until 5 years old. Pre-K begins at 4 years. You cannot force him with the potty issue it will just set him back. He is 3 years old with a budding personality, No will become his favorite word which will just add to the frustration level.
To ease the potty training issue, here are a few suggestions, it worked for my son and he was potty trained in 10 days.
1)Get Pullups especially for the nighttime my son liked the Cool Alerts it really helped him realize when he was wet and started to recognize the urge to go #1
2)Go to any dollar store and get a book with stickers.
3) Let him know every time he goes to the potty,and uses it, he will get a special sticker from the book. He can choose it.
4) Important- make sure that every time he attempts it, congratulate him but do not give him a sticker. He has to recognize it is a reward
5) The very first time he does go potty, make a big production out of it, if you have a noise maker use it and then let him choose the sticker.
6) Make sure that you have "big" boy underwear for him so that would be the ultimate reward and let him help you pick them out

Answer 3

Don't force him to use the potty. Some people will tell you boys are harder to train than girl but I feel it depends on the child my oldest boy was completely potty trained by age 2 and my youngest who is almost 4 wanted nothing to do with the potty at all until he was a like 3 years 4 months. We tried getting him to go on the potty and he just got stubborn and would pee on the floor so we just let him be and a few months later he started going on his own.

Answer 4

All children should be at least introduced to "the potty" around the time of their second birthday. That is the window of opportunity. They haven't gotten to the point that they will tell you "no."
I work in a daycare in the toddler room(ages 16 mos. to age 3)
These children HAVE to be trained before going to the 3-4 year old room and it IS possible to have most children trained by 2 1/2 and we do have them trained before they move on.
If your son isn't wantoing to do it, put him in underwear. Yeah, it's messy, but he'll "get it" sooner than you think.

Answer 5

Some friends of mine have a little guy who wasn't 'getting it' either. He has Apraxia too so they were anxious to potty-train him so that he could go to a pre-school to help with his language issues. They did some research and found a theory that worked for them. You need to be home for 3-4 days. Ok to 'cheat' and put diapers on at night but during the day, the little guy did not wear any bottoms. He was taken to his potty several times an hour. When he urinated in the potty they had a 'party' . . . bells, whistles, M & M's, etc. REALLY celebrated. By the end of the second day he was basically trained. Oh, he still has accidents and #2 was harder for him though he's just about got that whipped also. They tried not using diapers at night but grew tired of accidents, midnight sheet changes, etc. It totally destroyed their sleep - all of them. So, good luck . . . little boys march to their own drums . . . the main thing about this is to not scold for accidents, praise for proper elimination, encourage them to go often by asking 'do you have to go?' because kids get involved in other things and then it's too late ...they don't have the control that we do. Use the 20 minute rule . . . 20 minutes after drinking, 20 minutes after the last urination, 20 minutes after a meal ...

I liked this method because it is so positive - and fun if you are having a party everytime your kid goes pee! Good luck ...

Answer 6

Don't force it! You'll have more problems down the road. And kindergarten???? Dang your husband is in a hurry. I don't think most kindergartens will take a 3 yo. Pre school maybe. You can introduce potty training to your child, but don't force it. The child will let you know when they are ready. My older daughter was 4 before her stubborn nature let her give in and do it.

Answer 7

Freud is dead and he was an idiot. You obviously are not in America because you can't start Kindergarten until age 5 in America. As for the 3 year old not being "into" potty training, it sounds like you are neglecting his training if you weren't trying to potty train him when most 2 year olds are being potty trained. Most daycares would not take a 3 year old that still had diapers. You strongly disagree on teaching a child not to crap on himself? Yeah, that's really good for his self image now isn't it!? HEllllllloooo it's bad for him emotionally and physically. Get a grip and take care of your child.

Answer 8

well i don't really think you should force it when they are ready they are ready and suposidly if you send them to school not trained they learn really fast my son is almost 2 though and i just found this website and its elmo talking about the potty maybe you could put it on for him also my son will only go in the potty if he's naked maybe while your at home you could leave him naked obviously that won't work other places but it might help him get into the habit anyways here the website http://www.sesameworkshop.org/sesamestreet/games/pottytime/flash.php?contentId=16805504 it fun and it doesn't really required you to stay right there and oush the buttons if you have something to do he can stay there by himself and feel like a big boy good luck

Answer 9

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Answer 10

I agree with first person who answered. I think should take some time for to be potty trained. All though I do remember one of my kid cousins were potty at that age or so.