When did you know you were ready to have children? If you became pregnant without planning...?

Question

how did you decide you were ready to keep the child? How did you become ready?

Answer 1

my first child, we were not ready, my husband had just been laid off, and while we were emotionally ready, we were not financially. I was seriously stressed, even called a birthright center # I got off an ad on the bus - my hubby got a new better job in 4 days, and I had all the support and info I never dreamed was available, even 24 free litres of milk each month (offered to all expectant mothers in alberta)
my sister felt I should have aborted her, being financially unstable, but I couldn't even consider it (what, poor people can't even have kids?)
Now we are fairly well off, and have 2, our daughter is 2 and a half, and a 3 month old son. I couldn't imagine life without my kids, Molly made my life worth living, I am so grateful, no matter how tired or frustrated I get.

Answer 2

I knew I was ready to have children at the age of 29. I had accomplished a lot of the dreams I had and "sowed my oats" lol. I was tired of coming home to emptiness and going out and partying--there simply had to have more. I was stable in my career and financially ready---but it was also something I had thought about for years. I did the unconventional and started having children before finding the "perfect" man to settle down with, marry and have offspring with. After I became pregnant, I read a lot of books and watched all the TV shows about pregnancy and children I could. It's always scary though--you never truly know what to expect until you have your first child. I did, before this moment in life, get pregnant and decide not to continue the pregnancies because I really knew I truly wasn't ready. It can be no one decisions except your own.

Answer 3

There are two types of people - those that try to get pregnant and those of us that try to avoid it at all costs. (ha ha) no seriously, my husband can just look at me and I get knocked up. I was in college and unmarried when I found out I was pregnant with my now 14 year old. I in no way shape or form was ready for a baby but I knew in my heart I was in even less of a way ready to kill my child. It was very cut and dry with me when I took that fateful pregnancy test. A positive changed my life forever, but I felt deep down that I will have to answer for my actions someday when I die and I didn't want the abortion of my child to be something I had to justify. Honestly, even the most planned pregnancies are full of chaos. You get ready to be a mom by being one. period. You can read all the books, go to all the classes, and do everything right - but until you are completely responsible for a child - you can never be ready enough. Just by asking these questions, I think you are in the right place. It is all trial and error. Chances are you won't kill your baby by doing something horribly wrong. They are pretty strong little creatures. Good luck

Answer 4

These are questions that can’t be answered over the internet like this. I urge you to look up a local free pregnancy clinic or talk to someone you can trust in person, especially if you are underage. The sooner the better. By the wording of your question, I can tell your thinking of abortion, and yes that is an option, and no one has the right to tell you otherwise. But remember that you also have the option of adoption if you’re really feel you can’t handle the responsibilities that come with a child, but have decided that abortion isn’t the answer. There are programs out there for people who come to that decision, people who will work with you throughout the pregnancy as well as insure a good home for the child after your part is done. That way, your mistake can become someone else’s gift. If that is the case though, then it shows that you can't handle the responsibilities that come with having sex, either.

Answer 5

I worked hard on my career, put myself through college. Got a great job. Met Mr Right........quit that job to move to his town and get married (he owned a house and had been at his nob 13 years). I found an even better job than the one I quit. After being very happily married for about a year, we decided that it was time to go off the pill. God was smiling on us, because we got pregnant the first month we tried......I got maternity leave from work and have been at the same great job going on three years. We are even more happy now that we have the baby. And we both have good jobs so this baby does not want for anything. Now baby #2 is being discussed..........

Answer 6

I don't know that I ever felt ready... for us it just happened. When I was 18 my now husband and I got pregnant and had an abortion. At that time I just knew that it wasn't the right time. We had only been dating for a 6months and really weren't financially stable. (There were days that we didn't eat bc there wasn't enough money to feed us.) Now nearly 6yrs later we have a beautiful 18month old. The second time I got pregnant, although it was unplanned, I just knew that everything was going to be okay.

Answer 7

well we didn't plan my daughter's birth, but there was NEVER a question of keeping her or not! we became ready as soon as i found out!! at the end of our apartment lease, we bought a house, did the nursey, and i shopped for baby clothes!! I believe that good people will be ready when ever it happens. and fortunately both of us had good jobs and could afford to spoil that child rotten!!!

Answer 8

if u become pregnant it means God thinks you are ready and you cannot question his will..... if u have a baby it is a gift from God
God Bless You