taking pictures, pet names, celebrating holidays/bdays, never saying the L-word...
2007-02-10 12:44:46 · 7 answers · asked by Noodles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
There are many different ways a guy can show he cares for you and loves you. He doesn't have to say he loves you three times a day, or call you pet names, etc.
Its making you laugh, being there for you when you are sad, leaves you alone when you are mad but ready to be a sounding board when you are ready to talk. Its him completing a collage because you don't have time to do it, finishing the laundry because the dryer sucks. Its saving the last peanut butter cup for you... So many different things to show his feelings.
2007-02-11 01:14:25 · answer #1 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there are guys like this. Often they grew up in home environments that also weren't very "touchy-feely" or sentimental, so that's all they know.
There are two important points here.
First -- you can't change him. It's too ingrained in his being, and he will likely always be this way. So don't try to change it -- accept it.
Second -- the only person you can control in this situation is YOU. That means deciding whether you can continue to tolerate this type of guy. If it doesn't bother you that much, you could have a great relationship with no problems. But if romance and traditional relationship things are important to you, you might want to consider where this relationship is going and whether you can really be fulfilled with this man. Chances are if you are a hopeless romantic you will only remain unhappy in the long term.
My advice is to search for the other ways he shows his love. Some guys just don't "get" romance and show it in other ways that we women often take for granted. For example, my FH doesn't get me cards or flowers, but when I'm being lazy and want him to get me a drink from the kitchen, or turn the heater up, he'll do it without complaining every time. And when I have events at school that I need help with, he'll come help out when he gets nothing in return. I used to take those things for granted, but now I realize that that is how he shows his love and support for me. Maybe you have a similar situation too!
2007-02-10 21:02:50 · answer #2 · answered by Morgan H 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Anything is possible, but why would you want to put yourself through the negligence of special moments and occasions? I can't function without at least some of the mushy stuff. If he doesn't want to say "I love you" three times a day, every day of week that's OK, but just remember actions speak louder than words.
On the other hand, if you're one of those abnormal relationship etiquette junkies too, you might have a tough time finding a guy like that. Regardless to some it may sound like a dream come true not to have to worry about the mushy sentimental stuff, they will sooner or later break down and need some kind of lovin.
2007-02-10 20:58:55 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, there are men like that, but women have so much hatred and ridicule for them, that they are a dying breed.
I mean, you are a rare woman if you actually want those things. Most women want the insensitive, unattentive guy who is a "challenge", so she can complain to her friends about what a struggle it is. She thinks it's fun.
2007-02-10 21:18:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you got you a zero, girl. Dump him and find a hero. They are out there ya know.
2007-02-10 20:47:42 · answer #5 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sure
2007-02-10 20:47:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't get it, what do you mean?
2007-02-10 20:50:50 · answer #7 · answered by piano_man_969 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋