I don't really know what my problem is. I used to really be interested in getting a girlfriend. I tried getting a girlfriend, but I got rejected once. That was enough to make me not jump into getting a girlfriend. I didn't want to embarass myself again. I have always had the thought I am too goofy looking, but tough to be around any girl. Now, I think I almost hate love. I get bitter when I hear about all this romance crap, especially about Valentine's Day. I hate love most of the time, but sometimes I want love, but I make myself hate love again. I think I am going to join the military. I am an unemotional guy, and I also am staying from getting a girlfriend because I would hate doing things, like giving flowers, etc. It would make me feel embarassed and weak. I consider myself a soldier, not a romantic guy.
2007-02-10 12:20:14 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I also have an attitude almost all the time.
2007-02-10 12:21:19 · update #1
I don't hate girls. I have some girls that are friends, not girlfriends. so I don't hate girls.
2007-02-10 12:28:52 · update #2
Your finding yourself once you do that a girlfriend will follow. At this time you are not ready for one.
2007-02-10 12:23:33 · answer #1 · answered by Frank R 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you care since you call it a 'problem' and if you care about not having feelings, then you do!! I am sort of like you, i might seem indiferent to so many things, mostly about all that has to do with couples and marriage and babies, but I think its because I feel sad that I dont have any of that and sometimes I think I wont ever have them.. that makes me block it, not want to talk about it and try not to think about it so I dont feel sad. I have been rejected too, more than I would have liked.. and Im afraid to meet someone and feel something.. but I have found that once that happen, Im a sensible person, it just takes the right person to let it all out... that has caused me some problems, when I meet a guy I'm cold and mean and hard to get.. when I start feeling something I become sweet and lovely and they dont seem to like it..
I've decided Im going to be who I am from day 1 when it comes to be with a guy, if he doesnt like it, so be it..
Its ok if you dont feel you're a romantic guy, most of the guys arent.. but that doesnt mean you cant meet girls and try to start relationships with them, I do think all those games of the guy chasing, sending flowers to get a girl and then not calling to make it more interesting, etc.. are all crap... but according to a psycotherapist its one of the stages you have to pass (the 'role playing') to get to the next level when it comes to couples.. good luck!
and NO, you dont have a problem
2007-02-13 03:33:11 · answer #2 · answered by Gabba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we all feel pretty much the same, in some point in our lives, sometimes some of us last longer with this feeling, and the more we are rejected, the more hate we come to feel. I know it shouldnt be this way, but it happens. I myself hate valentines day, and all the couples in love i see in public, make me feel awkward and uncomfortable. I guess i'll admit maybe a little jealous too. But you see the more we are afraid of being rejected, and the more we hate, the more we close ourselves up to being capable of loving and being loved. We then meet people that want to love us, and be near us, and we shut them down because we rather not feel the pain of being rejected sooner or later. And so we miss the oppertunities of never knowing if someone out there truely cared for us, we were just to blind to see it, or give them the chance. So we wind up being alone and wasting years of our life feeling lonely, and bitter.
So, one thing we need to do, to start loving again, is to start by loving ourselves first. Work on something of ourselves that makes us uncomfortable. Once we truely find the way to love ourselves, then everything else will come easier... and so will love for someone else.
if you think that the military will give you the dicipline and structure you need, that is another story, but by all means do it if that is what you wish. But dont do it because of a love issue you have with yourself. IF your young as i suspect you are.. all of this will pass.. i promise!
2007-02-10 12:33:10 · answer #3 · answered by MOON13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let one bad experience ruin it. Just give it time. It doesn't really matter what one girl thought. There are more girls out there who will mostlikly think you are amazing. Keep trying.....and don't become bitter. Love is bitter sweet sometimes. But it's worth it. Good luck hun!
2007-02-10 12:29:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first rejection is always painful, especially if it was your first time asking but you can't let that drag on you. if u have the feeling keep looking for that girl
2007-02-10 12:26:26 · answer #5 · answered by pizzamanpspfreak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most romantic men I've known were also the strongest. I don't mean physically, either. Maybe you should seek counseling.
2007-02-10 12:24:07 · answer #6 · answered by linka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to b nice to girls(flirt) then mayb ull fall in love and ull like love
but i dont kno im just in middle school and have no bf (not really into that kind of stuffyet)
2007-02-10 12:33:10 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet n' Sour 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you r going thru those i hate girls years like we did when we were kids. it is just a phase. go do what you want, and it will come back to you. trust me.
2007-02-10 12:25:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a hobby and then you will meet people you like through that hobby. don't look for the love, it will find you my man.
2007-02-10 12:23:53 · answer #9 · answered by Spicoli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋