Okay so whenever I ask my mom something and she says no she always yells. I tell her that she shouldnt yell and that she can tell me in a normal voice but then she gets more angry and gets mad at me again. I love her and all but she makes me soo angry.
What should I do and dont say talk to her cause it doesnt work...i have tried.
2007-02-10 12:18:50 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hi someone,
Sorry about what is happening with you. I know it can be pretty degrading, upsetting as if you feel that no matter what you are a bug and in the way... At least for some part. Sometimes, knowing more about the situation as to what it is that is happening at the moment with her..Maybe her mood or busy with something.. Regardless, there really is no reason to yell at no one... Would you yell at your friends??? Then, why is it OK to yell at your family???
Sometimes, it's just trying to put yourself in their shoes and assess the situation and how you can better address the problem..
We tend to sometimes attack the person when we are angry at something that was said or done... I find it better to analyze it from a different angle, assess the problem, how to talk about the problem and not the person ( as the problem is the problem and not the person). I tend to ATTACK THE PROBLEM AND NOT THE PERSON>>> If you were them, how would you like for me to address you.. Do you respect when your mom says something to you??? or do you come back again and again to ask over and over...
Respect is also a two way street.. Also explain all these things to your mom, and both work on something to improve the situation for both of you..You are both very important and you both matter very much,,, Don't let this go, you are both worth it..
Don't give up Bud, as nothing comes out of that but negative vibes.
Katt.
2007-02-15 10:18:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there an adult you can talk to that can talk to your mom? Does she just yell the word no, or say no, and everything else she says after that on the topic she yells about? Is she busy when you are asking these questions? Is this a change in her behavior? Did she not use to yell? Maybe she is feeling stress about her job or something. Sounds like she has something on her mind. And, while she is busy thniking about it, you ask a question ('cause you can't read her mind), and she yells. If it's something new-and she hasn't been feeling good. maybe she could go to the doctor to see what is going on. Otherwise, I personally right now can't think of anything to tell you other than just accept her no with no other comments. If this yelling is something new, I am concerend about her health. I wish you the best. Take care.
2007-02-10 12:27:49 · answer #2 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might yell at you because she's projecting her stress or anger onto you. It is wrong of her to do, but it does happen, especially since she has to raise two daughters on her own. Listen to what she's yelling at you about, and if there's something to prevent the yelling. Yelling back is only adding wood to the fire. What about your sister, does she yell at her? Talk to your sister and mother about it over dinner or something. In your mother's day card to your mother, tell her how much she hurts you when she does things like this, but let her know that you love her and just want a better relationship with her.
2016-05-25 06:19:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom doesnt really yell at me. But she and my siblings always fought. It helps if you talk to her, when she isn't already kinda angry about her yelling. Ask her to listen to you, and then just calmly explain what is wrong. If this doesn't help, i'm sorry. I tried tho.
2007-02-10 12:24:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I yell at my kids too, so I wanted to say sorry to you. I love my kids and sometimes I am just over whelmed with my life and responsibility. When I tell my kids no, they plead and begg until I am just plain tired of them and when I yell they back off. I guess look at her life see whats going on, what kinds of stress is she going threw jobs, kids, money, put your self in her shoes, you will be there soon enough... Be happy.
2007-02-10 12:54:30 · answer #5 · answered by Grandma of six 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm.. my parents are like that sometimes. i think the best thing to do is let her.. dont take it too personally and just let her have her say and dont fight back, that will just make things worse because it'll give her more of a reason to fight back and defend herself and well, technically she has more "power" because she's your mum and she wont really admit she's wrong and bascially she'll win either way (even if u know ur right) so just let her have her moment and go on with life.
my dad tends to yell alot. someitmes i cant even tell if hes yelling or not because his "normal" voice is well.. LOUD and if i tell him not to shout he tells me im just making excuses and that it's how he talks and if i dont like it then why am i here blah blah blah.. ive learnt that the best way for him NOT to say that is if i just stand there and let him say what he wants.. in one ear and out the other.. they usually rant on about stuff uve heard before so just let them.. dont let it hit u because that's what they want.. just agree, or even just nod ur head or admit u did something wrong and let them be happy.. after all they are our parents.. and they're getting older.. sometimes they have too much on their minds and need to let it all out and they just let it out on their kids.. we gotta learn to accept it coz one day, we're gonna be like them too =P
so yes.. dont take it too personally.. listen but dont necessarily mean u need to act. one day she's gonna realise what she's doing and that its hurting you and then thats the time you two can talk about it.. right now it seems she doesnt want to listen, but the day will come when she will.. just wait and it'll be good. ur a great person for still having enough respect for your mum to love her and want to fix it!! keep it up, ur a great person =]
2007-02-10 13:00:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
really and truly i don't know what you should do but for some reason my mom is the same way and i cant stand her so i just stay away from her and i am going to file for the judge at family court to emancipate me so that i don't have to deal with her nonsense and be away fro her but the good part is that i haven't told her my plans and i just going to give her the court order and i cant wait to see the look on her face i know I'm going to love it.
2007-02-10 12:27:35 · answer #7 · answered by dabestofemall_09 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't respond at all to her yelling. Ignore her completely when she starts doing that. If she has a brain in her head, she'll figure it out.
2007-02-10 12:29:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh tell me about it! My mom is Bipolar and she cant talk to anyone "Normally" I would distance yourself away from her becasue you could "inherit" this kind of behavior.
2007-02-16 01:36:43 · answer #9 · answered by I Like Grapes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋