I wanna have only one but my boyfriend wanna have 2 or 3, Do you think the only child in the family will get lonely?
2007-02-10 12:10:10 · 12 answers · asked by Jade 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
An only child is very spoiled. I would comprise with your b/f on the #.
I want an even number of kids, I'm not sure why though.
2007-02-10 12:12:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I only have one child so far. He is five years old and sometimes he does ask for a baby sister or brother and yes it makes me feel bad but i am not sure if i want anymore or not. I have done made up my mind though i am going to get my tubes tied when i turn 30 and i am 27 right now so if i haven't made up my mind by then oh well i am so happy with just one child. I grew up with 5 sisters and one brother and even though i was never lonely now that i am grown we are ever hardly around one another. You know how it goes when you grow up and have your own family you just don't see your own family as much as you did before you had kids. We do talk on the phone and get together from time to time. I think one child is enough and 2 is plenty. It is up to you and only you if you want another. My husband has been wanting me to have another one since our son turned 3 but i can't make up my mind.
Good luck to you.
2007-02-10 23:27:20 · answer #2 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that most people should have any.
I was an only child, and while it was fine for what it was, I always have missed the friendship of having someone else there. I was lonely, definitely, and it molded my personality into what it is--kind of reserved, independent, quiet. Not that there is anything wrong with that at all.
Also, I was not spoiled. I don't know where this stereotype comes from, but I was pretty much the exact opposite of spoiled. As long as you parent effectively, and set limits, your child will be just fine.
I think it's just instinct, when deciding on how many children to have. Once you've hit your personal limit, you'll know.
2007-02-10 20:23:53 · answer #3 · answered by Morning Glory 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree my experience with only children is selfishness. IT is hard for me to imagine life without siblings. My fiance has one daughter and when i met her 4 and half yrs ago she was the most spoiled brat i had ever met since then she S has became generous most of the time. I bring my bros 3 kids around her alot it helps her keep a handle on it isn't all about her. even though her grandma likes to think it does she is also an only child. I would want at least two i would hope for twins out the gate because with the other one that is 3 and that is enough.
2007-02-10 20:58:39 · answer #4 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a person should have as many children as they want and are able to parent well. The number is not the same for everyone, even people married to each other. I think you and your boyfriend should leave it up for discussion and see how you both feel after having one child. You may find you really want another child. He may decide that one is enough. You may find yourselves in a different place in life altogether.
I know only children who were very glad to be the only child and have wonderful relationships with their parents, other family, and friends. I know others that wish they had a sibling. Good luck with everything.
2007-02-10 20:19:42 · answer #5 · answered by numinous 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am pregnant with my first child and honestly I think I want to only have one child because I want to financially be able to support him the way I think he should be taken care of and the more children I have the less likely I will be able to do that. My husband and I want to pay for our son to go to college in full and that is very expensive and we couldn't afford to do that if we had several kids. We might someday decide we want another child but as of now we are done after this one. I was an only child and it wasn't bad at all and I wasn't spoiled either, I just kept busy and I was fine.
2007-02-10 20:24:16 · answer #6 · answered by Sakora 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've known lots of people that were only children, that never felt lonely. If you are scared of your child feeling lonely then you can always make playdates for him. I do this with my children now(even though I have two) because their ages are so differant, for A LONG time it was just my son, so I always had play dates for him, it can give you a little break every once and awhile too, but be sure, to have the kids with you sometimes!
Good Luck! I hope this helped!
2007-02-10 20:17:46 · answer #7 · answered by Thia K 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In general, there will be some psychological and dominating problems if you have 2 or 1 children. In my opinion, one must have 3 (three) children. However taking into consideration about the increasing population, financial problems, personal inconvenience and stress, you can have 2 children. Above all this, fate is there, we will have children according to our samskaras.
2007-02-10 23:11:26 · answer #8 · answered by durga v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why have kids without the sanctity of marriage? not that I'm against you having children. you win, whoever says no first wins, because...why have another child with which one of the parents might resent? if you think one is enough, then one is enough. If you have friends and/or family with same age kids probably not. If they can have friends in school/preschool..etc probably not. if both parents spend time with the child probably not. It all depends on how you raise them
2007-02-10 20:15:34 · answer #9 · answered by j_allan0918 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
in some way i say yes.....only children tend to be really spoiled because they are the only one and they are the one little prncess or whatever so i would have 2 or 3
2007-02-10 20:21:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋