How Do I Tell My Mom That I Want to Move in With My Dad?

Question

My name is Blake Denstel I'm 14 Yrs Old.
Right now I'm getting really depressed and upset about not having the guts to tell my mom that I want to live with my dad, but no matter how hard I try I can't because I don't want her to get upset.
I've even tried talking to my school councilor and she told me to sit my mom down and talk to her about it and if I want it bad enough I can do it. (BUT I CANT!) Please I'm desperate Someone Help me.

My Mom Will Let me move in with him but I Just cant discuss it with her.

He will let me move in with him too.
But I wont be able to see my mom upset.
Like say I Talk to her about it and I wont be able to move in with him that second, and I will have to suffer from seeing her upset then my brother will get mad at me and will nag me about it because he doesn't like my dad.

Answer 1

YOU MADE A DECISION. STICK BY IT. TALK TO HER YOU NEED TO TALK TO HER. JUST DO IT. YOU WANT TO MOVE IN WITH YOUR DAD, YOU DIDN'T DO ANYTHING WRONG. YOU JUST NEED TO TELL YOUR MOM WHAT YOU WANT TO DO. GOOD LUCK

Answer 2

Blake, I understand where you're coming from and I'm glad that you're sensitive enough to take your mom's feelings into consideration. What you're also feeling is a bit of guilt leaving her behind. You don't need to feel guilty though. It's a decision many youngsters your age come to and if you write your mom a nice letter (don't mail it until you actually are "on your way out of the house for the trip to Dad's") and explain why you feel the need to make this change, she'll understand at least part of her will. She'll regret your going and miss the heck out of you, but we parents have to make these adjustments for our childrens' sake so they/you can grow up too.
First of all, if your Dad says it's fine with him, make arrangements with him a.s.a.p. to do this. Then ask him to speak with your mom (if they're not warring) to alert her that you've decided to move. Pack you bags, kiss Mom lovingly and promise to write and mean it.
Mom's gonna be upset no matter what, so is it better to stay and be upset with her or is it better to leave and let her heal??? Perhaps you can set a particular holiday for your return visit with mom so she can see for herself just how you've blossomed into a man.
Be courageous, Blake.

Answer 3

If your Mom will let you live with your Dad why are you getting so stress about it? If you aren't happy living with your Mom and brother she would want you to try living with your Dad. Talk it over with both of your parents and maybe together you could work out what good for all. Living with your Dad and maybe seeing Mom on weekend or Holidays. Doing nothing isn't going to help just make you more depressed. Good Luck

Answer 4

My question is why doesn't your brother like your Dad? And what are the reasons you desire to move in with him? Are they focused around getting to do whatever you want or because hes protective, kind, wise, and disciplined. Of course you need to have and spend quaility time with him, but 1st, examine your motives. If you do find them not because you'll be free to live a looser life-style. You'll have to say mom I really have a need to talk to you about something thats hurting me deeply, can we discuss at a time you feel you can talk? I love and need you in my life, your my only mom forever,but I have only one Dad as well, please try to put yourself in my place when I tell you I really feel I need to live at least for a while with Dad. Mom, I love you and am asking you yo please pray about it, or to take some time to talk to my counselor, or get some quality advice from a family tharapists or someone who we can talk to as a family unit, me, you, Dad,and my brother, so we all can have a better understanding and show stronger love and respect for each other, please mom, I love you alot, please help me with this it hurts and troubles me and my heart so much! Kiss her, hug her, than give her some time to think on it, ok? And reading John and the Psalms and Proverbs in a easy to read bible (The message) or another would really start to plant some wisdom , knowledge,and understanding in your own life and mind and heart, it never grows old or wares out. I personally don't know how any human makes any sense of life without it. You can purchase a Bible like this at Wal-Mart, K-mart or Bible book store. Also listen to Christian radio call in shows and help lines that will give you sound advice and pray with you and give you a support system (family) a teem of helpers there for you day or night. Here are a few: TVU..877-949-help, or Z-Jam with Dawson McAlister-1800-395-4673. These will help to begin your journey into a rich life.

Answer 5

Start off telling you mom that you love her, I doubt that she would think otherwise but let her know you moving is not because you dont care for her or anything she does. Tell her the reasons you want to live with you dad, and it may help. My little brother chose to stay with my dad so he wouldnt have to change schools and because my dad could teach him things my mom couldnt ( like hunting, fishing, working on cars ). My brother loves my mom very much and still stay close so basically be honest with your mom. Honesty and being open can possibly make your relationship closer.

Answer 6

i went through the same thing when i wanted to move in with my dad. It was really hard for one thing i was scared to upset my Mom then i thought about my friends and boyfriend. I would have to leave them all. Seeings how i was moving from Indiana to Oklahoma and the life i had known all my life. I found that i would be gaining many other things too. I would have all my brothers and sister too. It was worth it and i still see every one over summers. Just think about what you are going to say and say it to your mom.

Answer 7

maybe the question should be: "why do you want to move in with your dad?" Usually the court awards the mother the guardianship for the child, but with visitation from the father. Which means in plain english he might be the better provider but she is the best person to guide you because he's too busy to do that. Why are you afraid to discuss this with her? (the important word here is "discuss" not "tell").

Answer 8

Your Mom wants you to be happy. MY children moved in with their Dad and have come back. They had to see for themselves what it would be like. She might be a little sad but will be just fine. Have Dad and Mom discuss it together with you. Their divorce was their choice, not yours. I'm sure it'll work out. I wish you the best, just be honest and do what makes you happy, not Mom or Dad will hate you for it.

Answer 9

First you need to examine your reasons for wanting to move. Do you think you father would be more inclined to let you do what you want to do? Be sure that your reasons are worth what you plan to do? You do know that your mother will see this as a slap in the face so you had better be prepared for that. IF you want to go so badly then you owe it to your mother to just be honest and tell her and then take your lumps. You cannot have your cake and eat it too.

Answer 10

get in touch with your dad and see if it ok to move in and get your dad together with your mom and have a talk tell her it just for a little while and you really love her and you will talk to her every day good luck

Answer 11

I hate to tell ya this but no matter how/why/when you talk to her she is gonna be upset. You had better think of this real careful and the reasons why you want to go live with your dad.And if its worth hurting the woman who loves you gave birth to you nurtured you when you were sick.Its gonna hurt her pretty bad.She loves you.