i'm in high school and i've never had a bf is something wrong?

Question

i've never been kissed
never been in love
i have a problem.
whenever i know i guy likes me i try to play hard to get (withoput even thinking) and then i push them far away when i'm trying to pull them closer.


i'm not afraid of relationships and i would love to love

the closest thing i've had to one was a summer fling, which was nice but i want more.

there's this guy i really like and we can connect on so many levels. i don't know what to do to tell him i like him.

every time i try to flirt i wind up pushing guys further away.

is something wrong? how can i fix it?

Answer 1

Don't worry. Some people are late bloomers. Focus on your schooling and continue as you have been.

Answer 2

Bravo for being the way you are! First, you do not have a problem. Desperation is a problem but moral standards are valued. Second, consider that males generally mature at a rate slower than females. Maturity takes time. Perhaps you are ahead of the crowd by not being part of the high school train of thought to do as others do. Independent thinkers are less likely to be taken advantage of. In this case where a desperate female will do anything to secure affection on any level, will not be happy with the long term results. You however, may be temporarily unhappy with your current status, yet as a mature, independent woman, understanding the need to hold out, will be ready mentally and emotionally when Mr. Right (now) happens along. As for your guy pal, have a heart to heart and lay it all on the table honestly telling him how much you value him as a friend, how he enriches your life, makes you smile, think about issues, etc...Then ask what if anything he would change about your friendship. What direction does he see your relationship taking in the next 6 months. Viewpoint questions work wonders in spilling what's in a persons heart. Guys may be afraid to talk about their feelings. So, try asking, "What do you think about..." or "Where you you see this going in the next 6 months." Try it and see.

Answer 3

You are just fine and nothing is wrong so there is nothing to fix. If more people spent their high school years more focused on their education and enjoying what the world has to offer there would be a lot less unhappy people in this world. You will find your love when the time is right. Go on with your life and do not let others try to tell you anything is wrong with you. When you meet your love you will have something to bring to the table if you have lived a life of your own. I did not date at all in High School, I did not find my first reall love until I was 21 but it was the love of my life and we married shortly there after and it has been wonderful

if you like someone let them know but never give up and never think that anythin needs fixing.

Answer 4

I know you said that you aren't afraid of relationships but it kind of sounds like you do. I have never heard of a relationship or sex therapist that specialize in teens, and I'm not going to say the cliche thing such as you still have time, you are young. I will tell you, evaluate and really think of why you are pushing the guys away. And when you figure that out, try to fix it so you feel more comfortable and if you need to talk to a trusted friend or adult.

Answer 5

i dont think anything is wrong. many gorgeous and nice people go through high school without love, either because they don't want it or a situation like yours.
i think you should tell your friends that you like him, not some big mouth blabbers but some besties that will give this situation a little nudge. they will help you hint to him, and then see how he responds. if all goes well, go ahead and flirt. but if it doesn't in the end, just remember that there are heaps more opportunities ahead of you for the right guy to come along.
have fun!

Answer 6

I would relax about it babe, you might not feel it but you are still young and have a whole life ahead of you. I can tell you now that most of the kids whom where not popular at school turn out to be pretty damn awesome when they grow.

Those 'popular' girls at school are nearly all preggo and living in some dull suburb with their loser husbands (or divorced!) by the time they are 22.

Honestly - you have heaps to time to explore life and find many guys that like you for you. Most high school boys are morons anyway.

Answer 7

There is nothing wrong with you, a large number of ppl havnt had boyfrends/girlfriends in highschool. Dont think too much about flirting etc. Simply go and talk to him about anything. If you want him to know that you like him, tell him you like him. Often the bst way is to just be outgoing and upfront.

Answer 8

dont think too much about it..you will slowly learn how to connect with other guys or someone you like without pushing them away..for now you may be focused on some other things and that's a good thing cuz most girls just think about how to get guys and dont care about other things...it could be that you want someone who will care enough about you as to not give you up but rather try to have you...hope i helped

Answer 9

there is nothing wrong with you! i know lots of people who haven't had a BF so don't worry!

Answer 10

No! Nothing is wrong with you. So what if you've never be kissed or been in love. It's better for focus on SCHOOL when you're in high school, rather then boys. Love and everything that goes with it will come for you! I'm sure! Good luck!

Answer 11

chill, hang time is what i would want, ask him to hang out sometime, if he comes up with a lame excuse dont take it personally, just remember there are many fish in the sea, BUT do not go from one guy to the other, it might make u look whorish and that is a major turnoff.