I work with my best friend's boyfriend, and he didn't have his car today, so I drove him to and from work today, and when we got to his house, he told me to come in for a snack, and next thing I know, my phone rings in the middle of us going at it and it was her, thats when he got off me and I put my clothes on and called her back...I couldn't tell her what happend, but I know I do. But right now me and him decided not to tell her quite yet...when I do tell her, what do I say...P.S....I'm 16 and me and the guy are ex's from freshmen year. I know it was wrong, but everythinh brought back the memories from when me and him used to do it together and it just all came back to us before my phone rang.
2007-02-10 11:52:59 · 32 answers · asked by Angela 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
alot of you have been asking....and no we didn't use a condom...i know this makes it much worse...but it just happened...I got caught up in the moment
2007-02-10 12:05:07 · update #1
Angela .. I told you not to do anything that you would regret 10 mins b4 you left work...then 1hour later your f*ckin Steve...I promise not to tell anyone, but you have to do something, how is Carm gonna feel if she finds out from him?...trust me when I tell you not to worry about telling her, she knows how "close" you and steve were, but I think that you and him have to tell her together, that way neither one of you gets the short end of the stick...and if you read this tonight, call me if you want to talk about it, I can talk to steve too for you....but you have to tell Carm on ur own
2007-02-10 12:26:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, if she was your best friend, u wouldnt have slept with her bf. So apparently she isnt or wasnt. U see, when u have a best gf, there isnt a guy in the world that can come between u. So, u werent her best friend....u were the opposite.
Second, she has a right to know that the two people she trusted most, have now decieved her in the most unforgiveable way.
The two of you deserve each other, and she deserves better.
So, dont wait. Tell her exactly what happened so that she can move on with her life and find a man and a new bf to share her life with.
With friends like u, nobody needs enemies. Its a real shame.
2007-02-10 12:02:11 · answer #2 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
all three of you should be very ashamed. you obviously cant consider this girl your best friend because bestfriends dont date each others boyfriends (point blank). that was the first mistake. then you and the ex get a quickie in behind her back. thats wrong! and you dont know if you should tell her.........if i were in that position i would tell her straight up. i feel she really cant be too mad due to you and the ex's previous relationship. but if you say she's your best friend and this guy is real about his manhood then the two of you will fess up. you all f*cked up in some kind of way so you get whatever comes to you as repercissions of it. what is everyones intentions after all this anyway. you all better get to talkin and straightening that out too!
2007-02-10 12:07:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not listen to the people telling you to not tell her because that is not right, and you will be 30 years old, and STILL feel guilty.
This IS probably going to end your friendship with this girl.
If MY friend did that will my boyfriend, I would never speak to her again.
This is the point of no return. You have no way to go back in time, and change everything. But, don't waste your do-re-mi and buy her something fancy, because she probably won't wan't it.
You must have not liked your friend very much because:
FRIENDS DON'T DO THAT TO OTHER FRIENDS BOYFRIENDS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I hope that was clear enough for you.
2007-02-10 12:08:31 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Heather♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to come clean with your best friend and the sooner the better. The best way to do it is when the two of you are alone and nobody can interrupt. Don't go into details about what you did in bed, but be upfront and honest about what led up to it. In addition, be honest about how you feel about this guy. It's going to hurt her deeply, but it's better that she knows the truth about everything. Many blessings.
2007-02-10 12:04:33 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys can't wait to tell her, otherwise you are lying. However, I heard on an episode of doctor Phil that if you know you are not going to do it again, that it would only be hurting her in order to clear your own consciences. So, I don't know. I still think honesty is the best. You two will have some serious consequences, but then you two have earned them. Take it like two kids responsible enough to be having sex, which I doubt you are, but who am I to judge. Fess up and take what's coming to you. Hope it was worth hurting your best friend over.
2007-02-10 12:00:14 · answer #6 · answered by Yomi 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Back in the hippy days we used to say "if it feels good - do it"
Of course, that was before AIDS & Herpes.
After several decades of experience, I have to admit that my biggest regrets were the opportunities that I didn't explore.
If you really knew it was wrong you probably would have been more hesitant to get into it wtih him again.
What does he have going on that gets you so excited that your mind doesn't say no?
2007-02-10 12:09:19 · answer #7 · answered by woodmark52 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont really use condoms that much either so I understand that. but I always say slutts start at an early age. So what you want us to do about it. My guess is that you'll do the whole football team if they force themselves on you. Also what age did you START having sex if he was you're ex & you used to do it with him?
2007-02-10 20:32:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lame lame lame. obviously you don't think its wrong if you would then you would tell your friend. not keep it a secret. that is so rude of you. GO TELL HER! you make me so mad even thought i don't know you. especially the dude. i am 15, a year younger than you. WHY ARE YOU HAVING SEX AT THIS AGE!!!!!!
hopefully your children wont end up like you.
poor friend of yours you must tell her now.
oh and someone else said "A true friend would forgive or calm down''?'' that is so not true a true person would get mad. who wouldn't get mad? unless she didn't like the guy or she did the same to you when you were going out with him.
2007-02-10 12:01:24 · answer #9 · answered by Female 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You're so screwed... lol. You really should've thought about what you were doing, not only are you more at risk for having children, but you've shown that you can't be trusted too.
2007-02-10 12:05:14 · answer #10 · answered by Goose Feet 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋