How do you deal with being adopted?Does anyone feel like i do?

Question

I feel like i just didn't count,why did my own parents not want me

Answer 1

Not everything is as it seems ! Don't jump to conclusions ! Your parents may not have had any faith in themselves to look after you, or maybe they were too young and didn't have a clue ! What I'm trying to say is that they may have loved you more than anything else in the whole world, and wanted more for you than they could ever offer ! Have you ever tried to contact them ? Maybe ask them the question ? put your mind at rest. Good Luck Lovey, and don't let it eat at you too much.

Answer 2

Please don't feel this way. I'm 50 years old and I was adopted, the only difference is that I actually knew my birth parents. My birth father was the meanest man that ever walked the planet. He beat me and my brothers and my Mother. I lived in pure hell until I was 13 years old. My father even knocked my teeth out with a frying pan. So see, just be thankful for what you do have, I'm sure that you're Mother was probably under age, scared, but wanted you to have the best life possible. She did everything that she could do to protect you. I'm also sure that there isn't a day that goes by that she doesn't wonder how you are, what grade you are in, do you look like her, if she met you on the street would she reconsize you. She is bound to have really depressing days knowing that she could not provide for you. Like I said sweetheart, try to be happy with your own life. Hold your head up high and enjoy yourself. You've got a whole lot of fun headed your way.

Answer 3

Don't jump to conclusions. If you ask a parent who gave up a child for adoption I think almost all would say it was the hardest choice of their life and not one day goes by they don't think of that child. As someone already told you there was abortion and your mother didn't go down that road so thought you were so worth bringing in to the world. There are so many contributory factors why a child is given up but really because they think the child would have a better chance in life. If this is really upsetting you there are now ways of contacting your biological parent(s), can't promise a happy ending but worth a try. I do hope you have had a loving upbringing and are close to your adoptive parents. Hopefully, if I was in their position I would be in agreement that for your peace of mind you must attempt to trace the parent(s) who gave you up. If things are good please reassure your adoptive parents how much they mean to you. Just think how real their love for you is and how difficult a time this is for them too. Wishing you all the very best.

Answer 4

I think I can see why you would feel tha way, but you know, that says more about you then it does about your mother and father!
You count as much as I, or anyone else! But don't discount the people who adopted you! Remember, if you feel you don't count, they are going to feel that it's their fault, They will feel they didn't do enough for you. When you come down to the nitty-gritty, it's their love and need for you that counts, and not that of your biological parents. You are a person, and therefore you count as a person. You count because you have people who care for you, including your friends. You count!

Answer 5

Don't think that way, think of it as you were loved enough to find amazing parents who took you in as their own...I was adopted too but it was a different situation. There's many reasons children get put up for adoption; financial stress, family break ups, unsuitable parents due to emotional dependency/drug or alcohol addictions/nervous or mental breakdowns. Lots and lots of reasons...they are the main reasons, not because they didn't want you, it was because they couldn't give you the life you deserve. Because you deserved the best and deserved to be treated like a princess.

Answer 6

Let me put it this way: it is better than not being adopted .... and you have a home and people who care about you, that is something nice.

It is good. You have people to talk to ... do you have pets or some things you enjoy doing in school.... and maybe on the week ends, do you have nice things to do .... do you help cook dinner or set the table .... or make bouquets of flowers for the dining table .... all these things are nice... and you can draw pictures .... and maybe someone will help you make hot chocolate and slice some pound cake and serve it with napkins ........ don't worry .... someone wanted you... and that is very good.


Peace & Love ...

Answer 7

Maybe your birth parents were young, poor or unable to care for you for some other reason. I know a lot of foster kids who are in care for these reasons. The fact that they found you a different family than theirs shows that they wanted you to have a good life. Try to look on the bright side, at least they did not try to take care of you and cause you to end up in foster care when they realized that they really could not do so.

Answer 8

They didn't abort you sweetheart. Too often inconvenient conceptions end up in the abortionists sink to be harvested for your stemcells. They wanted you enough to bring you into this world, and loved you enough to realize that the heartbreak of giving you up was smaller than having you live a good life filled with things you need.

Answer 9

I felt like I was chosen and special to the people that love me

Answer 10

Actually, they did want you (in a way), because if they didn't want you, your mother wouldn't have given birth to you! She could've gotten an abortion, but she didn't. So that's a good thing. :]