This 'friend' of mine (who turned into a ****) is pressuring me to invite her to my wedding...i don't want her to be there but that's all she talks about with me!! how do i tell her that she is not wanted at the wedding?
2007-02-10 11:30:23 · 18 answers · asked by Starry Eyes 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
"do to financial constraints we had to limit the numbers to famlymemberd and close friends only"
2007-02-10 11:33:38 · answer #1 · answered by drjen 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. I say if you could stand to have her there and she would be unobtrusive, then just invite her anyway. But if having her there would really bug you, then you have no obligation to invite her. I guess you could tell her that it's just going to be a small, family ceremony--but not if that's a huge lie and it's really going to be a big ceremony with lots of other friends invited, that she might find out about.
If you aren't even friends anymore, why do you still talk to her? Unless you work or live together and have to see her all the time, just don't talk to her about it.
That's my advice--I'm sorry I'm sort of a coward so I can't think of a way to actually confront her about it, because I wouldn't, myself.
2007-02-10 19:36:00 · answer #2 · answered by cg17 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe she still thinks she is your friend. Obviously you still talk to her all the time, and maybe you are too nice to tell her that she is not wanted. Just tell her the reasons that you don't like her anymore, and stop talking to her. Either that or try and resolve your differences. Whatever you do though, remember, in the end it's YOUR wedding, and if having her there is going to ruin it for you, then its not worth it. Don't give into pressure! be strong!
2007-02-10 19:35:44 · answer #3 · answered by Valleyvall 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you talking to her? Just tell her that you no longer want to be friends and why. Then tell her that she is not invited to the wedding.
2007-02-10 19:57:35 · answer #4 · answered by smiley 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a shame you've been put in such an awkward position! To get out of this one, I wouldn't tell her she isn't "wanted." Maybe say that while you'd love for her to be there and appreciate how happy she is for you, but your families are comprising the majority of your guest list, and unforutnately you and your FI are limited to the friends you can invite. Then say you'd be happy to have her over as soon as you return from your honeymoon to fill her in on all the details. Be gentle but matter-of-fact, and she's sure to get the hint without being too hurt.
2007-02-10 19:36:37 · answer #5 · answered by Catherine B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK I'm confused here. She is your friend but you don't want her to attend the wedding. Its not like she is bride maid or ring bearer or flower person, etc, etc.
Or perhaps you are confused to call her friend? And perhaps you may need to re evaluate that issue and please by all means... share your findings with her. Be that it favourable or non favourable. It might hurt her for a while but far better hurting her in one swoop than drag her along and not have her with you...AS A FRIEND at your most memorable occasion of your life.
Seems there need be some soul searching on this issue.
2007-02-10 19:39:47 · answer #6 · answered by Kill_Me_Now! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly where you are coming from. When this girl calls me all she talks about is if or when I get married I want you to be one of my bridesmaids which I know is a complete lie and she just keeps saying wheres your wedding and what time.. I am afraid she will just show up there. I dont even know what to do either, but........
I think I am going to do this and maybe it will be a good idea for you too. I think that I am just going to avoid her calls and just not talk to her. apparently they have done somthing to us and that makes us not want them there right? So we should get a backbone and tell them straight up!!
2007-02-11 05:42:05 · answer #7 · answered by kamdens mommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that invitations are being sent out for your wedding due to the desire to have a small intimate wedding. Thank her for her best wishes and refuse to discuss it further.
2007-02-10 19:50:43 · answer #8 · answered by kms40719 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are not afraid of her making a scene-- Forgive and forget-- It will make you feel so much better and you can be friends again-- If you feel that she will be a problem there--Just be honest with her and tell her you would rather she would not come- But give her the benefit of the doubt- Be at peace especially at your wedding hun--Mom of Many
2007-02-10 19:42:22 · answer #9 · answered by ebsscsc55 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell her you need to keep the guest list down.
If she is a real witch, just say "I'm not inviting you because you are a witch, stop telling me who to invite to MY wedding".
2007-02-11 09:18:20 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the only reason u dont want her there because of her sexual preference or is she permiscuous?
If there is another reason, then be honest with her. Whatever reason u have, the day is yours and you have the right to disinvite anyone you choose.
I dont think there is an easy way to do it, that it wont bother her or u. Its simply a decision of yours, and if you dont want her there, then hun u gotta be straight with her. No point in beating around the bush.
Good luck to u.
2007-02-10 19:40:21 · answer #11 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋