Ok i've been with this guy for 21/2 years...And this last month we have had allot of problems....
He wants me to start helpin him with the bills...I live in Tx and he lives in ky;..
Well i kept liein to him tellen him i would send money, but never did.Now he say's he doen't want to be with me. I love him, what should i do to get him back?
2007-02-10 11:23:33 · 20 answers · asked by mixedgurl19 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that maybe you should prove to him that you really do care about his problems, and next time, you will be there standing right beside him.
2007-02-10 11:27:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are not living together...and in separate states no less...what bills would you be helping with?...HIS?...give me a break! Girlfriend...unless somehow the two of you have obtained credit card debt, loans together (or something like this...not sure why you would if you live separately, are not married, and are in different states for crying out loud...but whatever)...then he needs to pay his own bills. I'm sure you must have expenses of your own in TX. If he's already asking you to help take care of him a financial way before you even live together, much less get married...you better tell him to suck it up and get a real job or you need to hit the highway and find a guy who is more responsible with his money.
2007-02-10 11:31:17 · answer #2 · answered by Stealth_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want it to work you will have to work on a better relationship with him. You have to be around more, job or not. Family has to come first. If you are not married, then you'll have to decide what is more important. If it is the job and you can't bring yourself to be honest with him and help him with bills, then let him go so he can find someone who wants to be in a more 50/50 give and take relationship. Now, if the bills he wants help with are only his, then forget it. He's a big boy and should be able to handle his own bills. Good luck.
2007-02-10 11:42:31 · answer #3 · answered by Yomi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you shouldnt have to pay his bills for him, but I would not have lied to him. Keep trying to get a hold of him and be straight forward with him. Now if you were living with him it would be a complete different story, I would expect you to help out a little bit with the bills. Maybe that is something you should bring up to him, having either him live with you or you with him, and split the bills.
2007-02-10 11:33:45 · answer #4 · answered by traveling_soldier6784 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he wants money you two should be in a comfortable relationship,where you aren't in a bustle to truly give each other money,without thinking of what finacial things will come out of it. In all honesty,if he needs the money,opt for you two to live with each other. This is a very tough situation,plus the distance must be a real hassle.
2007-02-10 11:35:34 · answer #5 · answered by Ellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm no Ann Landers but, if he can't take care of his own finances and keeps asking you....hes no man! Hes a child who wants a mom thats not his biological mom(maybe his real mom said- you're grown take care of yourself)...don't lie to him, just tell him that you have all you can do to pay your own bills, period!...after all the 2 of you are not married and you don't owe him anything for his care in this world and why isn't he asking 'his own' family for finincial help?.. who knows what hes up to 1000s of miles away from you.......its ok to love him but not support him!!!! hes playing you now cuz he knows that U love him but that shouldn't mean you should pay his bills!!!! DON'T WORK HARD TO PAY YOUR BILLS AND HIS......hes NOT a man if hes asking you to pay his bills.....move on theres better 'men' out there......
2007-02-10 11:39:11 · answer #6 · answered by willie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Soo bottom line: He dosent want to be with you because you wont pay his bills. Read that reason. Does it sound ridiculous? Yes. He is a grown man and he should be able to pay for his own things. If you want to have a future with him this is a bad start because you would have to be the provider. Obviously he is not your match because if he was, he wouldnt put you in this situation. Theres plenty of fish in the sea and you dont have to beg for him to come back. He should be the one apologizing to you.
Hope this helped & good luck.
2007-02-10 11:31:54 · answer #7 · answered by Mjk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lie. Tell him that your sorry you did. But most importantly make a freakin choice already.....either send him the $ if he deserves it and you really care, or if he's just being a bum, break it off and tell him your not his personal ATM. Why not move there or vise versa. Seems kinda silly to be paying bills at 2 places!!!
2007-02-10 11:46:22 · answer #8 · answered by steph 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, why was he needing money from YOU for? Was he having a problem with work or what? Ask and find this out first before asking if you really want him back!
2007-02-10 11:28:11 · answer #9 · answered by mangamaniaciam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you all share bills? You have your own bills to pay it sounds like game to me he wants you to send him money. Please the man is suppose to be the sole provider. Not saying he is suppose to pay everthing and i understand if he really needs the help but what ever dont be dumb pay your bills and if you feel like he really needs help help him out. And you have to think Would he send you money to pay your bills reverse it on him and see what happens if hes real and you tellhim you need help with your bills he will send you the money. But dont ket him play you.
2007-02-10 11:34:51 · answer #10 · answered by nobody 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope it is not the case but he could only want your money or he may be using you so think it all over carefully. Look around in Texas for a guy.
2007-02-10 11:30:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋