I am 18 I have 2 sis one is 10 and, one is 19, We all live at home and, I have a 9 month old and an other one on the way. Ever since me and my sis were little it has just been her raising us and now she meet this guy and every weekend she goes over there and we dont see her till sunday night. He blocked our house # and I call from my cell phone and, he told me that I couldent talk to her and that if I have a prob I need to deal with it myself. Now my mom has always been there for me and now shes not ya I am 18 but I am a mommas gurl but my mom just keeps tellin me that its her life and i need to grow up. what do i do she use to tell me that no one could replace us but i am tellin ya we have been replaced. what do I do plz help.
2007-02-10 11:07:46 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
honey i feel sad for you are you okay iam a totle mommys girl too i dont know what i would do if that happend to me but im not going to be mean or say that you have a kid so move on, but you need to walk that body over to his house tell your mom that you guys miss her and tell her mom you have me and your other kids at home please take care of us. you are responcible for taking good care of your sister so good for you. and also tell her that you have a 10 yearold at home and that you need to take care of her.
good luck
dont forget to step up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-10 11:24:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her have her time with him on the weekends, try not to bother her too much.....she is probably feeling as if she has earned some time to herself, and maybe you see her as being selfish because of this.
It might be best if you and your sisters sit down with your mom during the week and calmly explain your concerns to her....Do try not to get overly emotional or upset, as this will make her dig her heels in harder..........Tell her how much you need and love her, how much you appreciate everything she has done for you, and that you feel she is distancing herself from her children, if you could work in the fact that she still has a 10 year old that needs her advice and guidance, i think you may be able to get her to realise how irresponsible she is being. Other than that im not sure what else you can do, above all try to be mature and unemotional about that matter with her, she will then see how serious you are.
2007-02-10 19:20:18 · answer #2 · answered by Mintjulip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's tough. Do you think your mom is going through menopause? My mom started to act really differently when I was about 18, and I think it's related to menopause. Our relationship is completely different now than it used to be. If she is going through menopause, she should see a doctor. She may be able to get some sort of medication that will help her to be more like she was before.
It sounds like your mom has been through a lot and has been alone for a long time. Now she's finally getting out on her own, with someone, and that's probably very exciting for her. I don't think you've really been replaced, but think about what it's like for you when you first start a new relationship. For me, at first I feel like I want to spend all of my time with that person, but after a little while we get used to each other and we don't need to see each other as often. This might be what's happening with your mom. Be patient and keep loving her, and I think she will come back to you.
2007-02-10 19:15:59 · answer #3 · answered by cg17 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You live at home as a pregnant 18 who already has a 19 month old?
You have bigger problems to worry about than your mother.
Eventually we are all supposed to leave the nest and make a life of our own. Doesn't look like any of you all are ever going to be able to leave, so she is!
What do you need her for anyway? Babysitting your kid/kids so you can be out all weekend instead of her?
You need to get a backbone and a plan to stand up.
You are someone's mother now - not someone's little girl.
2007-02-10 19:14:44 · answer #4 · answered by Stan W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 18 time to get out and be on your own you have a baby and another one on the way you should not of put yourself in a position of having babies while living at home you should have gotten a job first saved money and got your own place and stop depending on people..Your mom is an adult she has stayed home caring for you and your sisters and deserves to spend time away from home she most likely was unhappy and now she has someone in her life that cares for her and is willing to protect her i am sure she doesn't want to be lonely the rest of her life.
2007-02-10 19:45:01 · answer #5 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, the guy sounds like he's going to be a loser of a stepdad if they get married. That said, your mom does need her space from her older daughters but she really needs to be there for the 10 year old. Give your mom her personal space as an adult, but remind her there's still a younger sister at home. If she puts her bf before her kid, she has issues that I'm afraid you probably can't help with.
2007-02-10 19:17:42 · answer #6 · answered by koovaaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that is entirely rediculous!!! Blocking your number? Nah, what ifsomething happened to any of you? What if the house burns down? No, no, no.... your mother needs a serious reality check if she thinks that's okay. It's one thing to stay at her bfs house but it is another to not have any sure contact with her children while she's away. Why can't her bf come stay the weekend at her house? Sounds like to me she needs someone to make her come back down to Earth. Talk to family, tell them you are concerned about how she leaves during the weekend and you have no way to contact her in case of an emergency and you that you need them to help alk to her. Plase do this ASAP. Get a hold of me and I will set her straight.
2007-02-10 19:16:15 · answer #7 · answered by Jamie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, I can't get past your statement that you're 18 with a nine-month-old and another one on the way.
If I was your mom, I'd be about ready to run away, too.
You and your sister are adults, and should be able to take care of yourselves. But I don't understand your mom leaving the 10 year old. I think she's stressed out with what is happening in her family.
2007-02-10 19:12:20 · answer #8 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any family members close to you call them tell them what's going on maybe y'all can go visit, talk to your close friends or pastor. your not a mommas girl y'all need a mother that's cares. It's OK to have a love life but that doesn't mean to dump your family.Tell your mother to snap out of it and grow up shes not a teenager no more to take better care of her family.your more mature then your mother I'm sorry but its the truth.Please be there for your family and your own little family. Good Luck!
2007-02-10 19:28:19 · answer #9 · answered by TJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, this is really sad. i wish you the best with your mother and hope you two can work it out. if you have already tried confronting her directly then there is nothing you can do but leave her. let her know how it feels to not have her daughter around her, if she is a good mother then she will soon realize how much you mean to her and she'll come back or else she is not worth having in your life.
2007-02-10 19:14:56 · answer #10 · answered by Lynnifinn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you are old enough to start having babies you should be old enough to look after yourself. However, If she has a 10 year old child, she needs to grow up and be a mother! Someone needs to talk to your mother about her responsiblities. Is there any family members you can talk to or one of her friends? Good luck.
2007-02-10 19:16:36 · answer #11 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋