How can I ask him without sounding like his mom?

Question

Hi, my boyfriend just got the privilage to change his hair color and style to whatever he pleases, so he is. It's been bleech, blue, and lavender (but it turned his hair blue again, oddly enough) in the past two months. I don't like him changing all the time, I know he's the same guy, just different hair, but it's so extravagant and constantly-changing that it's driving me crazy!!! When I told him last time (he was asking me how a mohawk would look on him (OMG)), i said "plz don't do that, I like yer hair as it is now =)." and he's like "you sound like my mom, Akii."
ACK!!! him changing all the time is a little too much for me (I'm not good with sudden change). I love him still, I'm happy that he's happy with his looks, and I can ignore his obnoxious styles. The colors even begin to grow on me after a while... but a lavender mohawk?!?
How can I ask him to be more stable with his hair without sounding like his mom?

I honestly really, really, REALLY do not want him to get a lavender mohawk..... i don't want him to get ANY mohawk....

And the worst part is.... he doesn't tell me about his changes until like.. the day before he does them.
*sigh* what to do? -.-

Answer 1

This answer is coming from a mom of a son who had blue hair and bleached out hair and long hair.

There are three parts to this really.

1. It is probably just a phase and he will settle in to his style. I would encourage him to try out as many styles as possible (this way you are rushing him through the process). He may be doing this right now because he can - when he gets into the "real" work world he may be in the situation where he is required to have a normal haircut - unless of course he goes into rock and roll and if that is the case you would have to get ready for a life full of sudden change.

2. As a mom we learn to pick our battles. If your boyfriend treats you like a queen, as you should be treated, then it would be better to personally work on your dislike of sudden change than his hair style. If he treats you with disrespect and lets you know that he doesn't really give a rip what you think, then that is a clear sign that it is time to start looking for a new boyfriend.

3. If you want a boyfriend that looks great in a tux and never changes his hairstyle then a good place to go is your nearest young republicans organization (don't get me wrong... I love republicans - but I did date a couple in college and the pictures from those dates are great but I ended up marrying a libertarian).

Anyway you look at it, life is an adventure. Embrace it.

Answer 2

he was asking me how a mohawk would look on him (OMG)), i said "plz don't do that, I like yer hair as it is now =)." and he's like "you sound like my mom, Akii."

That's what you typed. Ok, the problem here is that HE ASKED for your opinion, and when it wasn't what he wanted to hear, he cut on you. Nice. So, he's a manipulative control freak? You've got bigger issues.

Answer 3

Well, if he needs permission from his mother to change his hair color, I think you guys are a little to young to be saying, 'I love you'. But, that's just my opinion. However, I think should just keep telling him your feelings, and if he keeps saying no, then he obviously doesn't respect you enough to get your full opinion, and do as you say, because he needs you more then you need him!!!!(especially if he's dyeing his hair all these outrageous colors!)

Answer 4

Just say hey sweetie I like it when you keep your hair the same color..give him a possitive reason why..and if he wants to make you happy he will may not be immediatly but he will.

Answer 5

ask him to change his shirt instead of his hair if he wants change.
so he's using his hair as a blank palate as would someone who does tattoos. it can become a habit or obsession. its probably less expensive for him to change his hair than it is to change his wardrobe. take him to the local thrift store. maybe he's into fashion some? good luck peace

Answer 6

just let him be.its normal.he will outgrow it.