3 years ago I moved in with my boyfriend and his 4 children...who call me by name. Now my children call me by name to...how can I break the habbit..PLEASE HELP MY SANITY
2007-02-10 10:36:37 · 13 answers · asked by butter_cupgirl2000 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I call myself mommy as does my boyfriend...the other kids im not making them call me mommy its not right im not and I dont feel thats right..they tell my children to call me mommy ...ex. take that to mommy.
2007-02-10 10:50:50 · update #1
I agree with some of the answers here.
HOWEVER
The bigger a fuss you make over something, the more of an issue it can become. Your babies are just that, babies. It is your actions that make you Mommy. They know who you are. I hope it is not malicious but they are being used to tease you, to provoke a reaction and they are getting it if you worry about your sanity.
I lay you odds, if you do not press the issue and just love all the kids, at some point you will find they are all calling you mommy. But, don't count on it. That is always a great way to jinx something.
However, make sure you refer to yourself as Mommy and have alllllllll adults call you mommy for awhile. Well, maybe not the pizza delivery guy. The message will get throughl
Do not acknowledge you hear the wrong name is another way to deal with this but it can back fire. The time of blending two families is tense but rewarding. How you deal with things now will help set the pattern for future interactions with the clan. You do not mention the ages of the other kids btw. The younger they are the greater the chance of them switching over.
If they are brought up WITHOUT a sense of entitlement and have been taught to express gratitude, they will soon appreciate who takes their temperatures and drives them to soccer practice. This is actions more than words. It may be trying but just flow with it and do what you must do and trust it will come. By the way, home made cookies can go a long way with kids!
Just loosen up a bit. Kids are like hawks, they miss nothing!
Unless these other kids have an axe to grind, if their poppa sits down and talks to them, then you have one of those family talks.
Just keep it light. Daddy and you can tell them how it makes you feel. Ask them if they have any ideas of how to make you feel better. Kids are often more empathetic than we realize.
2007-02-10 11:07:50 · answer #1 · answered by Noor al Haqiqa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You actually may want to think about having the other kids call you mom. In 3 years you are certainly mothering them. This would help your children. But, FIRST talk to both your boyfriend AND their natural mother. If it is not OK with her then you should not pursue it further. As a mother I am sure you can understand that this may not sit well with her. If the adults are OK, ASK the kids, no telling them, simply ask.
You can correct your 2 year old, "Don't call me Ann, you call me Mommy."
You should know that this is normal behaviour though, most children go thru a stage where they test out the labels. They might try "honey" and "babe" too, as that seems to gets dad attention from you. Don't sweat it, it is not a big deal.
2007-02-10 13:21:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
It is disrespectful for children to call their mom by their first name. With that said the children in question are to young to realize that it is wrong. I would gently correct them when they call you by your first name. In time it will stick and they will again call you mommy. As for your boyfriends kids you are doing the right thing to not force them. When correcting the little ones, if questioned about the other kids just simply state you are not their mommy. You love them, but you are not their mom. In time it will all work out. You sound like a great mom. Good luck.
2007-02-10 11:41:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My older son called me by my first name for the longest time. I made my husband and everyone in my family call me mommy and I also made it a point to refer to myself as mommy a lot. It sunk in. It was a little weird for my aunt to call me Mommy but hey, it worked.
2007-02-10 10:41:20 · answer #4 · answered by Sylvia 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I went through a level like that with my now 3 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous son at the same time as he grow to be 2. My husband and that i made it a aspect to call one yet another Mommy and Daddy round our son and basically saved our little guy that "certain, my call is Air yet you call me Mommy." The area handed and now we are basically mom and dad. youngsters are so smart and inquisitive about their worlds and your daughter has picked up that "mom and dad" are not any further suggested as that through anybody. do not forget that that is necessary that your daughter understand your fairly names, too.
2016-12-04 00:31:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They hear what everyone else calls you so it's natural. Just simply and kindly remind them that your name is Mommy and they are to call you Mommy. They'll catch on.
2007-02-10 11:08:10 · answer #6 · answered by Rayca 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard situation. I would suggest not worrying about it so much. They are quite young and don't understand the concept yet. As they age you will be able to explain why you prefer "Mommy" over your given name.
2007-02-10 10:44:26 · answer #7 · answered by rustybones 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you could ask your boyfriend if he can have his kids call u mommy for a while then mabe your kids will do the same
2007-02-10 10:46:22 · answer #8 · answered by meme 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first person's answer, at the very least, you can refer to yourself as mommy, and maybe even your boyfriend... the other kids shouldn't be forced to if they are not comfortable with it though.
2007-02-10 10:42:44 · answer #9 · answered by Cyndi Storm 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you guys want to live together and have a family relationship then I would have his kids call you mom and your kids call him dad. If you 2 cant do this then you need to tell them evertime they call you by name NO it is MOM and stick to it.
2007-02-10 12:06:54 · answer #10 · answered by Sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋