Why does it seem that more & more parents refuse to teach thier children manners and proper behavior?

Question

I've been noticing more often that parents are being very complacent when their children are acting atrociously. Whats going on? Is it too much trouble to teach children right from wrong?
Is it politically correct to look the other way when your child is out of control?

Pro Patria, I do have children and never allowed them to behave badly. Are you saying that all people with children allow them to act this way?

Answer 1

it is not too much trouble to teach kids right from wrong and it is not politically correct to look the other way. the problem is that many adults out there do not have manners. it only files down to their children. people who are like this tend to let their children be the same way. it is not right or fair but that is just how it is as unfortunate as it may seem. it is up to us good parents to teach our children the proper way to act and live that way there will always be a few good people out there in the world. the world will be a better place because of it. hope this helps. good luck.

Answer 2

Parents are leading by their examples. They are yelling and being rude and that's all the children are learning. I have noticed this for a while also. The lack of manners is what made me change my mind about becoming a teacher. Times are changing and people are less genuine and respectful than they were before. My boyfriend and I are two of the very few people I know of that have manners. For the most part it is just adults teaching their children the way they were taught.

I notice the behavioural problems first hand every year. My father has a big yard and he lets the kids play in it. There are hedges that get poison ivy in them every year and I have repeatedly told the children to stay out for thier own good. One time when I asked them very nicely and explained why, this one little boy about 7 years old said "Who the f*** asked you b****?!" If I had done anything like that as a child I would have been in deep trouble.

Another problem is it is pretty much illegal to spank your children now. It is hard to teach discipline by sending children to their rooms where all their toys are or to "time out" which is clearly stupid (in my opinion).

They are learning all of this from their parents and there is a lack of discipline. All I can say is that if you have kids, teach them manners. My first child is due in August and believe me, my children will be raised with manners and respect.

Answer 3

I agree with nimo.

I also get the feeling that a lot of people think they'll somehow damage their children's psyches or repress their natural creativity and exuberance by disciplining them. But I don't at all agree with this. There are plenty of ways for children to experience creativity and exuberance without annoying other people. And has far as their psyches are concerned, I can't imagine what could be worst than not socializing your children (i.e., preparing them for the "real" world). I think sometimes people use these reasons for not disciplining their children, when the root cause is actually laziness.

A few years ago, I was boarding a plane and was chagrined to find I'd be sharing the row with two youngsters (maybe 6, 7 or 8 years old). I thought "oh no!" but they turned out to be absolute the sweetest kids I've ever met! They played in their seats, of course, but they were not rambunctious or bratty in any way. I complemented their parents after the plane landed: I was *that* impressed. So, don't tell me, Pro, that "I'm obviously not a parent." ha!

Answer 4

hi
there are those who are afraid of the system. all of the you can not do this,or that. they have children now who will use the system against their parents. the book writers who give out the how toes of parenting all say there are other ways to control your child. yet they have not been with this child all day none stop. they have not seen that you have done everything passable to not get to the point of no return. and just because they have seen you blow up they consider you to be a bad parent. and before you know it your kid that you spent hours giving birth to is taken way from you. this is my theory on why so many parents have given up on disciplining there kids, so if we can keep the know it all out of our family business then maybe we will be able to control our kids again.

Answer 5

sad thing is when parents of today try and disciplin there child there brought to court for child abuse..im 25 have a 5 year old and been raising my lil bro whose 12 since my mom died 7 years ago..believe me my brother opens doors yes maam no sir,,if i even think hes rude..his video games and tv privlages are gone.. no its not politicaly correct...A parents dont care or B there two afraid because social services step in..ive seen it happen my sis in law spanked her daughter on the butt twice in wal mart for trying to put something in her pocket not hard just to let the girl know 15 minutes later a police officer arrived we had to explain the situation the cop was genrous enuff too see no harm was done but took our names and 2 days later social service shiowed up ..thats why some people do not correct there children because of the system which should mind its own buisness..

Answer 6

I think this is turning in to a "ME ME ME First, screw the rest of you" world. I notice more and more rude people in general, and when adults are rude and disgusting, what other choice do children have? They generally learn what they see.

I'm 32 years old, but when I dress down and don't bother to put makeup on, I look about 16. You would be amazed how many older people (I'm talking 40+) treat me horribly, and look shocked when I open my mouth to tell them how disgusting they are. Even if I WAS 16, what right do they have to be rude to me if I wasn't rude to them?

I was on a flight from Philly to Denver a few years ago, and there was a class trip of 4th graders on this flight. Seat assignments got wacky, and I ended up in the middle of that class, with one kid ten rows in front of everyone else. One of the chaperones asked if I minded changing seats with that kid - of course I didn't! As we were changing seats, the kid said to me, "Thank you very very much!" I wanted to hug him - I said to him, "No, sweetie, THANK YOU!" THAT is a child who's been taught well. =)

Answer 7

I wonder too. Mine are well behaved when we go out, they use their manners and if they don't they don't get what they want. Manners are important and get you far in life.
When mine were 3 i took them to a lolly store to buy for their party bags. They stayed with me and behaved them selves. The woman manning the store said if all kids were like mine she would love having them come in. Then she loaded them up with free lollies for being good. I didn't have the heart to tell her they didn't like lollies. They have so often been given things for free because they behave. I think it is sad that a well behaved child is not the norm and it stands out so much when there are good kids.

Answer 8

I've been noticing this for years. Most adults don't have manners and they are teaching their children to be the same way. I do teach my daughter good manners and try to have good manners myself so she has a good role model. One problem we have is that our society considers it "cool" to be loud and rude, I know a girl who takes great pride in her rudeness, so her son is probably learning to be the same way.

Answer 9

I agree. It seems like no one teaches their kids thank you, please, excuse me anymore. I think this soceity in general has become lax in manners and etiqutte and perhaps it has to do with young parents, parents more involved with theirselves than their children. Its sad. How can we expect that our children will become a product member of soceity when they dont know boundaries as children?

Answer 10

My 3 year old says please, thank you, excuse me, & sorry

I was so proud of him the other day. He accidentally spilled a drink in a store. When they came over to clean it (without prompting) he said he was sorry.