did my ex do a dirty on me?

Question

think my ex done the dirt on me. things were ok with us then one night when she was out we argued.

Next day she tells me its over she doesnt feel nout for me no more. so 2 years of our relationship is over

Yet the previous 24 hours we spent the night together ;) ;) and she seemed fine ( we had sex )

realised she aint worth the heart ache yet it bugs me that it seems she cheated on me and is using a lame excuse like she was going off me to end it

she said she been feeling that way for awhile. Yet in the last 3 months I myself thought about ending and didnt know if I wanted to be with her. So i was treating her quite bad and not seeing her etc. I was distant from her-i needed time to think

I asked her about this and why she still txted me and phoned me asking to meet up when I was being distant. she replied she didnt know?

Is this believable as I always thought if you didnt love/like someone no more you didnt want to see them and def not have sex with them

Answer 1

The sex thing is ridiculous because you don't have to like them to use them for sex. But she probably wasn't cheating on you. If you were intentionally treating her badly for 3 months than you shouldn't be surprised that she ended it. Maybe the fight was the out she was waiting for. Just because she waited until then to break it off doesn't mean that she hadn't considered it for a long time before. If neither of you were taking the steps to end it you should feel happy that it could end so quickly. If she says she was thinking about breaking up for a long time than she is probably telling the truth. It doesn't matter who she was with while you were together because its over now and knowing if she cheated isn't going to bring you back together.

Answer 2

Don't be surprised that people find ways to passively end the relationship. It's not easy to tell somebody that the relationship is over right?

Both of you will probably miss the pleasure from the sex, hence, the possibility of constant initiation of contact even after wanting to break up But that's just a sign of weakness, nothing more. The brain and the body are just used to the pleasure from sex and will continue to crave it, but that doesn't mean it's ok to keep indulging.

One of you has to be the stronger one and move on completely, or you might get stuck in a place where you're just having sex with somebody who's not the right one. It might sound cool at first, but believe me, it gets to be a miserable business.

Do you want to be the one to linger and overstay your welcome?

And next time, take some time, find a wife first before you have sex. Otherwise, you'll have these problems throughout your life.

Answer 3

Well, first off..sounds to me like you two are like an old habit..and they die hard. This is probably the reason why you're so distant from each other but had such a hard time telling one another your true feelings since you've been together for so long, you didn't want to hurt each other. Am I close?
Problem with this whole thing is that you didn't explain to her that needed a little time to think so even if you were being distant with her, she's still going to call you or text you. I 'm trying to figure out why on earth she would have put up with the way you treated her for the last 3 months. I would have told you to either fess up and let me know what's been going on or get out. There's no reason to treat someone badly just because you don't know how you're feeling. A mature person would sit their partner down and have a talk with them and get things out in the open and find out where each other is at in the relationship.
Now that you're assuming (?) she's cheated on you, you're feeling rejected. This is the bed you made and now you're gonna have to lie in it. If she DID in fact cheat on you, then shame on her. If you were broken up or at least, she told you she didn't want to be with you anymore, then that's her choice whether she wants to be with someone else and have no guilty feelings about cheating.
I say, before moving on, take time to sort yourself out and be ready for a mature relationship where you feel like you can communicate your feelings honestly with a new partner.
Good Luck!

Answer 4

In a good relationship there should be love, understanding, honest and give and take. Can you see any of it between you too? Relationship is not all about intimacy. There are more to it. So ask yourself is it worth having on and off love affair with a woman who do not have a steady mind. Don't treat her bad. Just explain to her what really happening to you.

Answer 5

You need to be in control of your own life. Cut it off with her and move on. She'll keep trying to get you back, but sounds like a game with her. Change the players and put up a wall. Don't get into any arguments just be done. Good luck.

Answer 6

Break ups are often messy and never really "cut and dry".

I recently split with my partner and we still in contact because it is hard to be heartless and just stop talking all together. It takes time.

Maybe she did cheat, maybe she didnt. You may never know so you just need to try and move on now.

Answer 7

I would tend to think that she did brother. I amsorry for your pain but she doesn't sound worthy of lacing your boots. Keep living life and loving and I'm sure someone better deserving of you will come around. Good luck.

Answer 8

Well to tell u the truth i think it was your fault because you were the one who became distant from her(ignoring her) so she probably felt that you didn't like her anymore but you didn't want to be the one to break up wit her so she had to do it.

Answer 9

You want the relationship to end.
She wants the relationship to end.

Consider the ride over and just step off the train.

Answer 10

u know what they say u never know what u actually have until u lose it. She probably got sick of putting up with your whole distance thing and felt like she deserved better and probably did move on, no offense but u are the one that let her go.