hi, okay, im 16 years old and u could say i like huys...a lot, but recently ive been thinking for a while, when i looks at girls, i dunno something happens...it feels weird, does this mean im bi? or lesbian? ive never had a boyfriend either and u could say that im a little tomboy but i dont think that matters, i find that girls attract me at times, im so confused though! HELP ME PLEASE, and i thought about it for a while so im not ready to tell my mom after im fully sure about, even though sometimes i wanna tell her, is it just a stage im going through? okay thank you!
2007-02-10 10:02:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Languages
Males tend to realize same-sex attraction early, but females tend to realize same-sex attraction later on. Sometimes, females will develop attractions to boys early on and then realize that they are also attracted to girls later on. That is why more females are bisexual than males. If you are serious, then this probably happened to you. (this is a modern fact, so if anyone tells you otherwise, they are either ignorant or in denial)
Being a tomboy doesn't affect it, and sexual attraction is not a phase. People can't just decide to be attracted to someone on one day and not on another.
Only you know what these "feelings" are, but if they are a form of physical/sexual attraction, then you are bisexual.
2007-02-10 10:17:41 · answer #1 · answered by Rabbityama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all woman are attracted to the same sex at times... sexuality manifests itself in all kinds of human relations, there is no clear boundary between being straight, bi, or gay, except if you're telling your parents...
Anyway, I think the best way to test your sexual orientation is through your sense of smell. Do you feel thrilled when you can smell a handsome man, or a beautiful girl, from up close? Or when you brush arms? if you do it means you are attracted... for the time being....
But, I'd like you to consider that you are very young, these things may be unsettled... your feelings will change a lot with time....no matter what...
just pay attention to your emotions, after a while you will start to realise clearly what attracts you and what don't....
2007-02-10 12:56:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dear, you are 16 and this is young. at this age, you can have some temporary tendencies ... .
at 19, i had doubts on my sexuallity ... specially i that i had a bad experience with a girl ...
i mounted ideas and ... but when i tried ... i realized i was not homo, clearly not !(in fact i did not even try )
i just spoke with a friend who is homo, he said that he discovered he was homo being 28 and actually felt bad in front of woman all his life ! but felt it was the way ! without understanding. until he tasted other man and ... he felt well (fully).
Yet be carefull, do not do what you want ... for the sake of doing what you want. I still believe that their are some doors (like drugs) and opening them can have consequences for your life. So do not engage in any sexual relationship with a girl unless you are certain that you like girls (she may be good at pleasuring you and you may just understand that you like girls), the effect could simply be inversed than the girl being raped and not loving man anymore so be carefull young lady.
plenty of potential drug addicts were saved by a first (bad trip !), while the ones who finish hooked had initially a very good experience !
Because sex is, at the end, to reproduce. and if you love girls you will or enter into a non reproductive life or be sheating your future husband !!
having a non reproductive life is not a problem if it really is your destiny and your attraction, but do not fall into a trap just because you had a very good door opening ! it could change your life.
may God be with you.
2007-02-10 13:52:24 · answer #3 · answered by tomcat 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think all girls get attracted to other girls at times! I look at a girl and can think she's very attractive and beautiful but it does not make me a bisexual or a lesbian. I am as straight as they come and I doubt you are a lesbian as your first sentence was 'I like guys.....a lot.' The thing is is that you are so young that your hormones are flying all over the place and it's very natural for you to be confused. I doubt you are a bisexual but you just have to wait till you get older and your hormones settle and then your sexuality will become clearer to you.
2007-02-10 22:41:51 · answer #4 · answered by don't stop the music ♪ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Think before you act. I can say that children don't come from same-sex relationships... but ultimately it all comes down to finding your other half. Know that coming out can hurt people who aren't ready for it. There are many problems that can result from choosing to be with someone of the same sex.... some countries kill people for such acts whereas other cultures throughout history have believed that same-sex relationships should be embraced over heterosexual relationships. I can't say what is right and what is wrong. My mother turned gay after having three children... It was extremely difficult for our family. Talk to your family about it if you think that it will help in your decision. But, know that there are consequences to being gay. There are also consequences to making that decision at such a young age. Wait until you are older... I wish that I had waited for that special someone. But to each their own. Man did not continue through gay relationships... but maybe some people aren't meant to contribute their genes to the human race. I like to think that we are all here to contribute. It's not up to me though.
2007-02-10 13:05:49 · answer #5 · answered by J P 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Right now, you could just be naturally curious. Don't experiment right now- Give yourself some time to grow into the feelings to see if it is something you really want. As you get older, you may have a more appropriate place (than school) to hook up.
Even if you have a best friend that you trust, you may not want to disclose your sexuality at your age- It could cause ridicule, mean jokes, unwanted sexual advances from the wrong people.
You have plenty of time to experiment LATER!
2007-02-10 10:16:46 · answer #6 · answered by juicy13500 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You don't need to label yourself. You find other human beings attractive, some of the opposite sex, some of the same sex - everyone does. You are a sexual being so you entertain thoughts of sexual activity with both sexes. This does not make you lesbian, bisexual or straight, it makes you human.
You can have sex with boys or other girls and still not have any need to attach a label to yourself. Putting labels on restricts you, don't do it. At 16 you don't want restrictions.
Take your time, explore your sexuality, try different things if you want to. If at a later date you find a need for a label, give yourself one but it is your choice, no-one can do it for you.
2007-02-10 10:14:30 · answer #7 · answered by tentofield 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i think you have had bad interactions with boys most bi girls have so try hard to find a good guy take it as far as u can (sex) and see if you still like girls more.
2016-05-25 04:45:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its not all that simple my friend is bi and he says that hes not just gay or straight because male and female are such beatifull creatures.Be what you wanna be gay or straight or lesbian or bi- doesnt matter! YOU GO GIRL!XXXXX
2007-02-10 11:18:36 · answer #9 · answered by emsi_n_kiki 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋