Me and my older brother never got along when we used to share a room. Now if I do something right he criticizes me and If I do something wrong I'll never hear the end of it. What is wrong with him, does he hate me?(he is 19 and I am 16)
2007-02-10 09:48:57 · 10 answers · asked by Bobby23 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He is very JEALOUS of you!! He thinks you are the golden child and that you are the perfect one. He wants others to see that you are not as amazing as you are. He wants to make it so he is better, it is a rivalry thing. It is how it goes in families.
2007-02-10 09:57:14 · answer #1 · answered by Kinka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two are brothers, but there is no reason why you have to be 'friends' too ... and because he's three years older than you, and he's 'been through what you are going through now' he thinks that his 'criticism' and 'putting you down' is going to 'help you.' If I were you I'd simply tell him that you are 'different' from him in every way, and while you don't like each other as friends the least you can 'do' for your parent's sake is 'try to get along' without fighting all the time. Then simply IGNORE HIM and if possible go into your room and close the door if he starts to 'criticize' and 'put you down' again. That way eventually he'll see that he may be 'older' but you are 'smarter' ... although, to be honest, he may NEVER change. But at least YOU will know it, won't you?
2007-02-10 17:58:11 · answer #2 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore it.
I spent my whole growing up years being put down by my sister, being blamed for things she did (she never once came forward and admitted to any of it, she told lies about me and seemed to make a habit of pocking fun because of the way I chose to live my life.
Well, I am 50 now and I decided it was time and I had had enough. I was always the compassionate one growing up. Always wanted to make things nice and make everyone happy. My compassion died. She no longer has a chance to do any of the above because I will not allow myself to be done that way any longer.
Don't wait until you are 50 to come to the realization that you do not have to put up with anything you do not want to put up with.
He is old enough to no better and don't let anyone tell you that he will grow out of it.
Make your goals for your life and meet those goals. Do what you need to do to be happy and successful within yourself.
make a point to let your family and him know that you do not have to subject yourself to it any longer. Stand up for yourself.
Life will be easier for you because you did and you will learn a valuable lesson when you get out on your own and encounter other bullies!
2007-02-10 17:51:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure. It sounds like he wants you to do better. He maybe unhappy with something in his own life. I have found that people usually yell at someone else when they have their own problems with the same issues and they can see you doing wrong and not their own mistakes. I hope this helps.
2007-02-10 17:53:37 · answer #4 · answered by Miki M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its a combination of his need for power, his envy of you for some reason or the other and entertainment. You could try a different angle and say something on the lines of "Thanks for your advice and concern but I'm a big boy now and can take care of myself. If I need you, I know where you are."
Or something like that...
2007-02-10 17:52:49 · answer #5 · answered by JJ88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just the fact that he is older and he feels 'threatend" that you wont have that respect for him anymore....my boyfriend had the samething going on with his lil' bro and he told me that...just tell hime you love him and he'll prolly stop
2007-02-10 17:53:34 · answer #6 · answered by Angela 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be jealous. Sit down and talk to him, you don't want to go thru the rest of your life hating each other.
2007-02-10 17:51:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is probably jealous because you are the baby and he is not getting any attention.... It's just a sibling thing... it will pass in about a year or so.... kill him with kindness... just be extra nice to him and in return he will either leave you be or cool down with messing with you
2007-02-10 17:52:13 · answer #8 · answered by Shonda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes just older, and thinks hes " more mature" probably
2007-02-10 17:51:33 · answer #9 · answered by Rebecka lovebug 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like he may be gay and wants to come out of the closet. tell him you know he wears your mums dresses when nobody is about..if he leaves you allone you know its true.
2007-02-10 17:52:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋