They dont drink!!U always did drink.Now they dont want you to drink.What would you do?
2007-02-10 09:21:36 · 21 answers · asked by only me 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
truly your life is your own it is your choice, If your drinking is not controlling your life, then make your choice, but you know and he knows that alcohol is poison.
2007-02-10 09:33:30 · answer #1 · answered by VALERIE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well what is more important to you the alcohal or the relationship. If it were me i would throw the alcohal away. I come from an alcohalic family. when i was younger it was all happy as i grew older i saw the damage it was doing to the family. eventually my parents split. and yes it had a great deal to do with the alcohal. as akid my sister and i were never abused. I married a man that came from an alcohalic family even though we had different upbringings the emotional hurt is the same, it will and can haunt someone for their entire life. The damage stays with you. We are very fortunate to not carry on the drinking in our lives. you dont find that to often. But there was no way in hell was i going to put my kids through that or live that kind of life or do that kind of damage to the people that do love us. You may not think that it is a problem but obviosly it must be to a certain extend if your partner is asking you to stop. People who drink do not think or admit that it is a problem. Well guess what if it is not one now it will be later one way or another. all you really need to do is sit in sessions of AA or the sessions that are meant for the people that live with alcohalics you will have one hell of an eyeopener on what alcohal does to the physical body and the mental body. there is no good outcome to what alcohal does. Keep in mind that alcohal is a depressant. There is nothing wrong with alcohal kept in moderation but normally it is not kept in moderation that is the problem. in turn that is what causes the problems in ones life. If your going to keep on drinking i would advise you to end the relationship know because eventually the alcohal will end it for you, and in a very messy hurtful ending.
2007-02-10 17:49:56 · answer #2 · answered by jhdjkhblpk;mvhyf nbjhghbmnbjgb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation, my fiancee drinks and I don't like it and I wish she would stop, and she knows it. However, she drank when I met her, I knew it, and I fell in love with her anyway, and to make her quitting drinking a condition of our continued relationship would not be fair to either of us. I'd be trying to make her change into someone else, and that's wrong.
It's okay for your partner to tell you that he/she doesn't like your drinking, and for them to say they wish you would quit, but it's wrong for them to *demand* that you stop doing something that you were doing when you guys first got together. If they had that big a problem with it, they should never have gotten into the relationship with you.
Now, if you hid it from them in the beginning, and they didn't find out until later, that's different; but then you have bigger issues than whether or not you drink.
2007-02-10 17:31:48 · answer #3 · answered by pookieb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends...how much do you drink? The partnet should repect that you want some drinking time. If you go out every night or even twice a week and get smashed beyond belief- it is time for you to grow up. If you go out once or twice a week to have a few beers- but are sober enough to drive home legally- perfectly fine.
2007-02-10 17:27:35 · answer #4 · answered by D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't drink regularly then it's an easy change. If it is really important to the relationship, and the relationship is important to you, then try it. I am sure if you have a few slip ups along the way I am sure you'll be forgiven. As long as you are not hurting yourself or anyone else by drinking, either way you should be fine.
2007-02-10 17:27:01 · answer #5 · answered by principessajordan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I gave it up for someone I love. I have a solid relationship and he is very giving. You have to give a little to get alot. Think about it, is it the alcohol that you love to cuddle up to, that makes you feel good about who you are and holds you when you're scared. If so, then keep on drinking, if not then maybe you should give a little?
2007-02-10 17:26:50 · answer #6 · answered by inkinheaven 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on which you prefer--the alcohol or the partner.
I personally do not drink and don't want to date anyone who does, 'cause I can't stand how it smells on their breath. If this is a big deal for someone, they certainly aren't right for me!
2007-02-10 20:28:23 · answer #7 · answered by Helen W. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your partner shouldn't tell you what you can and can't do. although this subject is a little tricky because if your partner sees that this is endangering your health (meaning your wasted all the time/driving drunk) then yeah thats a problem. But if you're just a social drinker and playin it safe, then whats the big deal? good luck
2007-02-10 17:32:35 · answer #8 · answered by kim g. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't drink but, its ALL your choice. They want to help because they probably see it as a problem for you or for them because its disrespecting their priorities. You can tell them to accept it or do it secretive, or quit. Most people quit for the ones they love but some need to make a sacrifice.
2007-02-10 17:33:27 · answer #9 · answered by smoke_frm_apple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no other way .Because my parterner is i# Marriage & Divorce# Marriage & Divorcemportent than alchol.and alchol friends.because my life is twined with my partner
2007-02-11 07:18:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋