I think yes and no, and here's why.
Love is patient.
Love is kind.
It does not brag.
It is not proud.
It is not rude.
It does not look out for its own interest.
It does not keep track of wrongs.
Love is not happy with evil.
But it is full of joy when the truth is spoken.
It always protects.
It always trusts.
It never gives up.
Love never fails.
2)
Do unto others as you would have done to YOU.
3)
A parent will make mistakes, as you~ the child will. I will not let my pride deny my mistakes.
4)
You will NOT hide your mistakes, because you NEED NOT FEAR ME.
5) WASH YOUR HANDS FREQUENTLY to PROTECT against the things I can NOT protect you FROM.
Love, MOM and DAD
2007-02-10 09:13:31 · 13 answers · asked by Tiffany 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Children Learn What They Live (1993)
If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to be shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn what envy is.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
2007-02-10 09:14:02 · update #1
If children live with tolerance, they learn to be patient.
If children live with encouragement, they learn to be confident.
If children live with praise, they learn to appreciate.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to find love in the world.
If children live with recognition, they learn to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn to be generous.
If children live with honesty and fairness, they learn what truth and justice are.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those around them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn that the world is a nice place in which to live.
If children live with serenity, they learn to have peace of mind.
With what are your children living?
2007-02-10 09:14:14 · update #2
Spanking is abuse, because it can lead to mental and emotional harm when used incorrectly. I believe in spanking as a last resort, but so many parents abuse that right you know... Sometimes parents hurt their kids without realizing it. Like when I was growing up my parents criticize me a lot. I knew they loved me and wanted what was best for me, but... I had a very hard time seeing the good in others, having faith in others, not feeling guilty when I had no reason to, and loving and accepting myself, etc. I was very unhappy; it took a lot of perserveance and energy for my parents to finally understand that we were hurting me. I was so confused.
2007-02-10 09:15:36 · update #3
Spanking isn't a bad thing if it's used responsibly. My husband and I do it, but very sparingly and only as a last resort. Don't forget, the BIBLE also say "Spare the rod and spoil the child." There is a difference between spanking and beating. If your kid throws a rock and hurts someone just simply putting the kid in timeout doesn't do anything. There's no real consequence. Now, if the child knows ahead of time that the consequence for hurting someone or breaking something is a spanking, and chooses to to it anyway, he has chosen the spanking. Just like if an adult vandalizes someone's property, he's CHOOSING to pay a fine or go to jail. I'm not saying to beat your kids, but "No, don't do that" doesn't always cut it. At some point, they may decide to do it anyway.
2007-02-10 09:36:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should but in reasonable moderation. Not in an abusive way. Just a good enough spanking to keep them in line and to let them know you are the Alpha Wolf. The kids that never got spanked have those type of parents who spoil their kids and have no sort of control over them. Fear will lead to respect. Its all a psychological thing in the end as the result of the physical. Reinforce you are in control of them.
People need to get this religious B.S. out of their heads like Rod and Todd Flanders from the Simpsons (even though he does spank them, so maybe not.... haha).
Just watch those Nanny tv shows on ABC and other networks or daytime TV. All the kids who never got spanked had weak parents who bowed down to the wants of their children and now they walk over their parents.
2007-02-10 17:23:06 · answer #2 · answered by sirpsychosioux 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you've included much truth in your post.
Spanking is using fear and power instead of wisdom and love. Spanking is punishing after instead of guiding before (even if it's before the next time!)
Spanking is a technique that lowers the IQ and self-esteem.
Many people mistakenly think not spanking means not parenting, and I suppose in some households it does. Typically, tho, not spanking means you much put much more energy into knowing your kids, expressing your values, guiding and teaching your kids, and being consistent. Hitting's easy. and wrong. and abuse. It's always always always abuse and there is no way around that.
Just ask your grown up self how you would feel about anyone laying a hand on you.
2007-02-10 22:13:22 · answer #3 · answered by cassandra 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
So what is your question, just sounds like your giving your opinion. If you want to know how others feel about spanking, its a personal decision for each parent to chose their form of discipline and whether one person thinks its right or wrong doesn't matter, its what works for them. I mean you get frowned on for not breatsfeeding your child, you get frowned on for smoking during pregnancy, you get frowned on for everything you do cause there is always a person out there that thinks its wrong. This world is so judgemental, nobody does anything right, so just accept your own opinion on this matter and accept how others feel.
2007-02-10 17:21:03 · answer #4 · answered by Proud Mother 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Parents have a large responsibility in raising their kids to be Exceptional adults. I believe the bible is the TRUE guideline for disciplining children but we need to do our part and understand the importance of being consistent and not being abusive and controlling.
Proverbs 13:24 He who spares the rod hates his son,
but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.
Proverbs 29:15 The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.
Hebrews 12:11 Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby.
Ephesians 6:4 And now a word to you fathers. Don't make your children angry by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction approved by the Lord"
2007-02-10 17:22:00 · answer #5 · answered by iso chronous 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
My parents spanked me and I am fine. today I was at church all day cooking. I think I was raised right. people like you are the reason tht kids run all over their parents today. when I have kids I will spank as needed.
2007-02-10 21:33:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
How old are you? Parents should not spank their kids? this is not a question it is a statement, do you know the difference?
2007-02-10 17:43:10 · answer #7 · answered by mil414 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
RANT MUCH?
Spanking your children is a personal choice.
2007-02-10 17:35:00 · answer #8 · answered by ChrissyLicious 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Spanking should only be used as a last resort..
Amen.
2007-02-10 22:20:43 · answer #9 · answered by lakemom 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Too often the people I have talked to that believe in corporal punishment, when you talk to their kids, the kids display symptoms associated with abuse. Draw your own conclusions.
2007-02-10 17:22:03 · answer #10 · answered by Clown Knows 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋