Has someone every died in your presence?

Question

If you had this experience, share with us how this person effected your life...........

This will help others understand many things about loss............

What was the one thing that could have changed that outcome.

(Perhaps this is a lesson for all of us)

Answer 1

A man hit by a train. Not much anyone could do.

Answer 2

Yes, I've been present when a couple of people have died. One was a friends brother, in a horrific car crash. A buddy and I tried to help him, I have never forgotten it, but it is hard to say what the effect has been on me or my life, life goes on for the living. I also sat with my father as he died, again I will never forget it, and it was the best thing I have ever done, it has left me at peace with the loss. The outcome (their dying) could not have changed. My not being there may have made me different somehow, and if that is the case I am glad to have been where I have been, 'cause I like who I am.

Answer 3

Yes, my father died at home (was terminally ill) - I held his hand and read A.A. Milne (author of Winnie the Pooh) poems to him. One second he was breathing, and the next SECOND (or less) --- he was yellow, and his soul was indescribably missing. His cat appeared to understand that my dad died and she jumped on his belly (which she never does) and curled up in a ball.

Prior to his passing it seemed as if the Angels sent the "Hospice people" like a producer would send ppl on stage for a Broadway Production. I was so blessed to have the right ppl at the right time show up. I couldn't have planned it better.

The only thing I would change is that I wish my sister were there to share the moment; however, she may not have been spiritually or mentally ready to witness this --- so it may have indeed been a perfect moment for the time. It was a very peaceful & holy moment.

Answer 4

Yes, riding a bus on a New Year's Eve, there was a drunk guy in sitting by the emergency door. He was talking to much and making jokes that made many laugh. The bus got stuck in a mud and while trying to move the bus out of the mud, the emergency door opened the drunk man fell out and somehow his head fell infront of the back tire. But he was drunk and just laid there as to sleep. The driver had no idea, and with the noise of the bus' accelerator the driver couldn't hear the passengers trying to let him know the drunk guy was under the bus. When the bus finally moved forward, the drunk man's head was crushed by the back tire of the bus. I never did see the remains of the dead body, but it affected my appetite to eat meat. I don't know what could have changed the outcome, people like to drink to excess on holidays and many times are not aware of anything.

Answer 5

When I was 16 years old me and my uncle was in a car accident in which he was instantly killed. I only got bruises from the safety strap and a busted lip. The accident could have been avoided if he hadn't been trying to keep pace with an 18 wheeler. The car just bumped and went flying, tumbling three times through the air and crashing into the median. It took over an hour and the jaws of life to pry us out. Three days later after my uncles funeral He came to visit me in my dream. He seemed very comfortable with the fact that he is dead. He even joked about the flying trip we took throug the air in the accident. He seemed happy that I wasn't severely hurt though and sorry that he couldn't take us for any more joyrides. I promised he could ride with me when I started driving and he has several times. I am a little more careful when I keep pace with eighteen wheelers though.

Answer 6

My grandmother fell and got a spinal compression fracture, we set up a hospital bed downstairs for her and she had physical therapists come in every day, and all they wanted was to get her on a walker and able to get around downstairs. The day after they were done with her, she had a stroke. The hospice nurses (bless them every one) came in and one of them told my mother "I hate saying this to anyone, especially the first time I come over, but I don't think your mother is going to last through the weekend."
But Granny was related to us, and we're stubborn, and she wasn't going to do what this woman expected her to do, oh no.
Hurricane Irene was brewing up, and a week after hospice started coming in, Granny finally started on her way out. Her parents were out in the field picking corn. Her brothers and sisters came to visit her (She was the last living one, though).
Granny was born during a blizzard in Ohio. Hurricane Irene made landfall. It rained and blew. Uncle Mike, Aunt Cathy, and their kids drove down from Georgia, said it was easy going because everyone was going the opposite direction.
If it wasn't thundering, this wonderful old woman would send us grandkids out into the rain whenever we were at her house. She'd join us. She let us know that they hit a big muckhole building new apartment buildings down the street, and just laughed and hosed us down when we came home covered in the black mud.
Mom realized something was off. We could tell Granny was ready, but something was wrong.... what could it have been?
The window over her bed.
Hurricane Irene was passing by, just the fringes, a lot of rain, some wind, we never lost power. Mom opened the window, the wind and rain came into this peaceful room where everyone had been able to gather and say their goodbyes.
Granny smiled and was gone.
There's a bell hanging on the gatepost on the west side of our yard. It hadn't made a sound throughout the storm. When Granny left, that bell started ringing. We all looked at each other and knew that she was out there playing in the rain one last time.

Who would want to change this outcome? Death comes to us all, all we can hope is that it is peaceful and we are surrounded by people we love. Open a window for me when I go.

Answer 7

Yes, my mother-in-law and father-in-law and one of my sons, died in my presence. Just as it is overwhelming to be present at a birth, so it is to be present when someone passes away.

Life is precious, we all embrace it, try to hold on to it, but the truth is that at that point of death, we cannot add anymore to the story. It causes all kinds of thoughts and emotions to rise within us.
When a person who is dying, is a Christian, there is a wonderful sense of the presence of God, and although loss is heart-breaking, there is also triumph that that person is with the Lord Jesus.

Answer 8

I've seen a few hit the floor. The effect on me was non existant, they died, that's all. What could have changed the outcome would be that they lived, but they didn't. Makes me wonder, if they were so freaking smart how come they ended up so freaking dead. Oh well, that life for You!

Answer 9

My mother. She died of liver cancer, and we were with her to the end. I can't explain it, but it was very healing to be with her when she died. I think, through the morphine and pain, she knew she wasn't alone. And my belief is that she went home to a much better place.

The only thing that could have changed it was for her cancer to have been detected much, much earlier. It was too late by the time we could get her to see a doctor.

Answer 10

well , i was 6 years old when my aunt died ,my mom leave me at her home to spend time with her , she went to pray and while she is kneeling on her prayer mat , she died on that situation . i didn't give her that attention (i didn't even know what the death means ) and i continue playing until my uncle try to get into the home hardly because no one opened the door for him . i went also with her to the hospital when i saw her for the last time .
she was 22 only and the reason was unknown . i think nothing changed on me , but i didn't forget her not even a one day and may Allah cover her soul with his mercy .

Answer 11

Yes, I was present when my Father died. It was a beautiful experience and as I was crying, I was praising and thanking God for his life. He was laying there with his eyes closed. There was no heavy breathing like they get (I guess they call it chain-stokes breathing) anyway he just all of a sudden opened his eyes and the look on his face was priceless because you knew someone very special was there with him and he halted his breathing for 30 seconds and then took one more breath and then he was gone. It was so beautiful!!.