my bf broke up with me about 5 months ago, now he has got a new woman who is pregnant (posibly with his kid but the timing is off so personally i dont think its his) and he has only known her for four months now they are getting married on the first of march, (like 2 weeks from now) i still love him with all my heart and it hurts so much to know that he is marrying the wrong person, how do i make him see that i am right for him, we were together for two years, and they were great, he doesnt even really know this woman. i still talk to him for at least an hour a day, and i have told him i still love him, what else can i do??
2007-02-10 08:32:31 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's the right person in his mind. You don't live in his mind. Stop talking to him. Move on. If he loved you, he would be with you. He's with her.
2007-02-10 08:35:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-04 00:23:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well number one you have told him she is wrong for him thats his decision not yours. im sorry that you are still hung up on him, because this does not make it easy. He is the one that has to figuere it out for himself. I dont think that your persistance at him is going to any good for you or him. If she is really not right for him i dont think he will listen to you. But he might listen to someone one else that is totally neutral. doesnt matter if it is male or female. His relationship with other girl sounds like a rebound to me. just let him know that you still care and love him leave it at that. Go on with your life as hard as that is it is the only thing you can do. If you try to turn him against the other lady he will not think much of your tactics, and in the future if he does decide that this lady is not right for him you wont be a consideration. question do you phone him or does he phone you. If he is phoning you, then tell him that he isnt over you yet so he needs to get off the fence and iether be with you or leave you alone it is to hard for you to pick up the pieces and move on. If you are phoning him everyday and he is willing to take your calls then i would say he is playing with you and is keeping you at he end of the rope incase this new relationship does ot work out. You deserve better. As much as this hurts you need to go on with your life, once you start to do that the better off you will be. I know you dont want to hear this but eventually you will find someone that wants and will be with you.
2007-02-10 09:00:19 · answer #3 · answered by jhdjkhblpk;mvhyf nbjhghbmnbjgb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's time you moved on and stopped keeping contact with him. Babe as much as it hurts you need to let go. Unfortunately, he's already past the being with you part of his life. And who knows maybe that's not his baby but you don't know that. You're obviously very hurt so you're finding everything you possibly can wrong about this other female (it's ok I did that too once upon a time ago). Just don't speak to him at all or for a while. You need to keep your distance from him otherwise you're only hurting yourself. Maybe some time in the future you guys might be able to be friends (yes it is possible to be friends with an ex- my best guy friend happes to be mine- we were together on and off for 3yrs 7 years ago and now he's been in my life for 10!) But for now babes you need to let him go and make some time for you!!! Good luck! It is going to be so damn hard but try to keep your head up.
2007-02-10 08:44:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he broke up with u and within five months, found another girl, possibly got her pregnant and now he's marrying her
did ever ask him why he broke up with u?
if hes not sure if its his baby, then why in hell is he marrying her?...
and so ur saying that it could be another guys baby?
no way if i was him i would make sure that it was my baby first then if it was i would marry her....
so how long did it take her to find out that there was a baby in her stomach?....
a couple of days wont do it.... because the earliest u could find out is like a few week like 3 weeks...
if u think the timing is way off then i trust that the timing is way off and its not his baby...
who knows how many men she had sex with? i mean that could be almost anyone's baby...
hes marrying that woman for the wrong reason
maybe u could invite him over and have a candlelight dinner and dont tell him and be like i want u to come over and help me move my stuff to the moving van...
if he asks if u are moving be like yes.... i mean u dont care about me anymore so i am moving to buffalo or like san antinio or so place really really far...
no a better one would be like i want to start a new life away from all this clutter... mess is a better word....
if u want to u could mention u have someone else... but i am not so sure how thats gonna play out...
"i will come tomorrow".... "no i am moving to night and if u dont want to help i could get his friend (Jack) to help me"...
and actually have boxes when he comes in...
and when he tells his finacee she gonna think oh thank god, shes moving away....
if he asks u when he comes in after a while (lock the door) be like yes until u make a move on him...
first ask him why is she marrying her... and then whatever the answer is....
then kiss him...
tell him hes marrying her for the wrong reason... whisper in his ear...
u should be in love with someone to marry them and hes not in love with her and just tell him to imagine waking up every day next to the person u really dont like....
u dont have to get that techincal
or u could pretend u are moving until he says he doesnt want u to go... but what if he doesnt say it?
the only thing i am afraid is that it might turn out like my best friends wedding... sorry if that scares u...
and wat if he finds out thats not his baby.... is he going to divorce her....
but if this doesnt work... maybe the best way is too move on...
2007-02-10 09:32:51 · answer #5 · answered by sweetangel16175 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just move on.He may doing this just to get rid of you.Maybe if you left him alone he could see for himself that this isn,t right.You guys sound very young to be getting married anyway.It doesn,t take long to know if you have found the right person.My husband and I met in April and were married in July the same year.Were still very happy after 8 years cause we knew it was the right thing to do.Only him and the other girl knows if it is right or not.If it isn,t it won,t last long and he may come back to you after all.Does his new girlfriend know that he is talking to you every day.I would make sure she knew this.
2007-02-10 08:44:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he feels like there is something between them, and if you try too hard to tear them apart, you are just going to look like a creepy stalker...however, if she truly is the wrong girl for him, there's a chance he will find himself single before too long...maybe then you can dazzle him and show him that perhaps he should have been with you to begin with.
2007-02-10 08:41:01 · answer #7 · answered by josephine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is really nothing you can do . if you want to be a part of his life it sounds like you need to try to be happy for him.
when he gets married to this girl he doesn't even know and they have the baby he later finds out isn't his....he might want to come back.
until then...don't stress...go and find someone else and you will probably forget about it anyway. je is probably walking into a springer episode.
2007-02-10 08:42:50 · answer #8 · answered by pamcake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not really much you can do. It seems he has his heart to this new woman. I personally would just let it go and move on. This will probably hurt you but you'll get through it. We always do.
2007-02-10 08:37:01 · answer #9 · answered by Firas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is scared to me. Ignore him....then he will realize that this marrying thing aint for him!! If you talk to him, he will not "need" you as much. Brush him off and let him know if he marrys her.....then its over for you and him. If he loves you, he needs the chance to think hes loosing you.
2007-02-10 08:40:40 · answer #10 · answered by HappyGirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋