2007-02-10 08:26:38 · 18 answers · asked by Alisa B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
like a rose in a fisted glove
the eagle flies with the dove
and if you can't be with the one you love
love the one you're with
2007-02-10 08:29:43 · answer #1 · answered by T Time 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By "with someone" I will assume you mean not married. And by "with someone" I will assume you mean living with someone. By "with someone" I am assuming that the one you are with, is living with you agreeably right now. You leave so many stones unturned.. my immediate thought is.. DO NOT MOVE OUT. You may be moving Out of the Frying Pan and Into the Fire!! So now I will ask all the questions that a good grandma would ask.. 1. has the new person said he/she loves you? and do you believe it. 2. has the new person asked you to live with him/her? and has a suitable place you both can live? 3. will the new person be able to support you and if you have a child.. care for that child too in a proper step parent manner? 4. do you know for sure that this person is free and clear of any spouse or lover that may come blasting in the front door? 5. have you seen any papers that say your new person is actually SINGLE or are they running from an old flame. 6. is your new person on a drug or alcohol recovery program? beware if the answer is yes and you have a small child. 7. is your new person the same religion as yourself? this causes things to go wrong at the most loving times of the year. 8. is your new person improving him/herself at work in some way? or looking into a night class? 9. what is the longest amount of time your new person has worked at one job and why did they leave? 10. why did your person leave the last job that they had before this one.. and I am ASSUMING your new person is working here. if not.. you are wasting your time. 11. do you like the new person's friends? or do you even know who and what they are? 12. can you take your new person to your church every week for two months and not miss a week? or are there excuses after two weeks? I think I have given you enough to work on here so do not make up your mind until you have GOOD answers to all these questions.. not just answers from the new person.. real answers that you have ferreted out yourself. Give yourself time to consider the pros and cons of leaving someone who gives a damn.. to be with someone that you can pick up in any bar for the wink of an eye and the cost of a drink. orrrrrr.. is that how you got the old person.. lol lol.. Keep the Faith ((hugs)) from Rickety Ole Bat
2007-02-10 16:50:05 · answer #2 · answered by ricketyoldbat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to the one you are with now that you don't think things are working out and that you would feel guilty if you weren't honest with them about it. Be sweet and sincere when you break up and let him know that it was nothing he did wrong. I'm sure you would rather be with the one you like and I'm sure he would rather be with someone that likes him. So it's a win win situation. Good luck.
2007-02-10 16:30:44 · answer #3 · answered by Mystic-scorpio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does that "someone else" love you back? if so, you should talk it all out, and break your current relationship off, so it doesn't go too far. but first, make sure that this is what you really want. make sure that once you make you choice of who you are going to be with next, you won't regret it. but most of all make sure that you feel comfortable in any relationship that you are in, so that something like this won't repeat. good luck! hope you figure things out!
2007-02-10 16:43:46 · answer #4 · answered by Tam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the grand scheme of things it's probably irrelevant, it won't last, best advice is learn to love yourself then loving other people will come easier. Hearts are precious be careful with them!
2007-02-10 16:31:58 · answer #5 · answered by King Solomon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not married ( & if you are you should try to fix it up )
you should break it off before you turn out to be an awful lying cheater
a person not to be trusted
A person you wont even like
2007-02-10 16:32:40 · answer #6 · answered by ausblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go where your heart leads you. If you love this other person, you should be with them. Even if it may be hard to break up, you'll regret it if you let love pass you by.
2007-02-10 16:30:46 · answer #7 · answered by Simple Love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not engaged or married to your someone, you can stay friends. If the someone asks to get married, tell him the truth.
2007-02-10 16:30:49 · answer #8 · answered by Yafooey! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does this other man love u too? are u cheating on your current man with the other guy? are you sure it's love and not lust?
regardless, if you don't love ur current guy and can't envision a future with him then you should break up with him.
2007-02-10 16:30:55 · answer #9 · answered by enroute_bc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alisa! Oh you bad little girl! Come here so I can give you a good spanking I'll turn your butt cheeks nice pinkish red.
2007-02-10 16:30:19 · answer #10 · answered by Believe me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋