A very annoying problem. I am REALLY shy around guys. I've been like that for years, and I'm starting to get a liiitle better, but not much. It's really starting to become a problem...and it's driving me crazy. Any suggestions? Am I the only one like this?
2007-02-10 08:20:22 · 12 answers · asked by ~*~Starchild~*~ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
btw...I'm not asking cuz I think I need a bf or anything,...it's just that, I know alot of guys that I think are really cool, and I'd like to be freinds with them, but I have a hard time talking to them. And most of them happen to be really good looking...which only makes it worse...
2007-02-10 08:33:09 · update #1
I use to be that way when I was a lot younger. Then one day I just decided not to be shy. Sounds too good to be true, but it works.
Believing you're really shy around guys further makes you act that way when you are around them. And if you believe yourself to be really shy then you just have to decide to not be that shy anymore. By decide, I mean you have to really in the pit of your mind make that decision and stick to it. It may be hard to go along with it at first, but the more you do it, the easier it gets until you no longer think about it anymore.
Lots of girls are this way, so are guys. In fact, grown men have a community called the PUA community in which they teach this and other social interactions to eachother.
I know, go figure :P
Good luck!
2007-02-10 08:31:35 · answer #1 · answered by Jess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no everyone goes through being shy. I was shy for the longest time and now the guy i am seeing now used to be shy too. You just need to take a chance and show them who you really are and you will become less shy. you will be happy with the results. just don't open all yourself up real quick because you want to keep somethings quite so that they want to find out more about you and you will be more able to open up and be happyier with yourself and won't be shy to say hi to a guy the next time you see one. Just remember take a deep breath and just take the step and you will be great.
2007-02-10 16:26:53 · answer #2 · answered by beepbeep_gone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no ...you aren't the only one like this. it's just not easy for you to talk to them. it will get easier. is it just guys you like or any guy? you have to be confident with yourself (major turn on) but not cocky...ya know. a lot of people are shy and there isn't anything wrong with it. when you talk to the guy you like...you may find out that he is a little shy too!
2007-02-10 16:25:39 · answer #3 · answered by pamcake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's alot of people out there that are not confident enough to talk to the oppisite sex, dont worry its normal ! i read a article once in a magazine that said before you can be confident in talking to the oppisite sex you must be confident in yourself. once youe happy with yourself in and out you will find it easier to communicate with people. also you could just try simple things like saying hello and how are you and then slowly over time add more and more into the conversation until you are happy with talking to guys. good luck !!!!!!
2007-02-10 16:27:42 · answer #4 · answered by vicki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so self criticle. Us guys really don't like girls that think they're all that anyways. I'm sure there's a lot for a guy to like about you so just be yourself.
2007-02-10 16:27:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to reconsider is the shyness result of a low self esteem, if so, there is a professional help ... if not, it will fade with time and experience ...
2007-02-10 16:24:54 · answer #6 · answered by Vesna G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need let your self feel free to do what ever and live life in a fun way,what do you have to loose??!!!
2007-02-10 16:27:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys are humans too! Who cares what they say or how they feel.
love yourself frist and everything should fall into place.
2007-02-10 16:25:21 · answer #8 · answered by SARAH D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
huum...... sounds just like me! my advice is to try to relax, and b yourself. if u r nervous dont b they r probaly just as scared! have fun and b your self
2007-02-10 16:29:20 · answer #9 · answered by shy girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur not the only one! tons of people r like that!! just be urself..... and there's always someone outhere
2007-02-10 16:30:15 · answer #10 · answered by beachbum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋