can some men/women be to afriad in life to be loved by another due to past relationships
2007-02-10 08:06:33 · 14 answers · asked by precious_52803 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YES!! Its hard to forget a bad past relationship! Experience is something we are supposed to learn from aren't we? Well some of us learn its better to be/feel lonesome than burnt to a crisp again. Another thought along this line is... If you feel that someone is afraid to be in a relationship with you, then take a close look at what 'comforts' you bring to the relationship. This might help you to work on areas that are lacking. What comforts would this person bring to you? Are you too needy for their abilitys? Get to know both partys better and maybe you will improve your 'comfort zone' :) or.. start looking for somebody who enjoys your company in a nice non-possessive way. Friends is a good way to start a lasting relationship. I have made many friends taking classes at our local community college.. one class at a time. I don't get burnt out studying, I take only the classes I think I would enjoy, and I meet so many nice people there.. and yes I have had a few passes but I like being single (translation.. being my own boss) so I let them know I am flattered but not looking for a date or relationship yet. Other commnity groups might offer single people too. Remember married friends might have a single person in their family that they might match you up with. My brother wasn't ever in a singles group but he was active in our church. A married couple gave a bbq and invited him and some other church family and friends along with some other single people to their house and he met his present wife in a non-dating circumstance. It can and does still happen. :)
2007-02-10 08:28:31 · answer #1 · answered by ricketyoldbat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. When the love of my life broke up with me, I vowed never to love anyone as much as I did him. I stayed true to that, however, we were lucky enough to get back together and get married. If we hadn't, I know that would have never given anyone else my heart and soul like I did to him.
2007-02-10 16:10:59 · answer #2 · answered by Shene from Illinois 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, sometimes very much so.
It is irrational to assume all men/women are alike, that if one was abusive then they all must be.
Also to consider, what are they forming their idea or concept of love by, or on?
Some people are pretty messed up.
2007-02-10 16:12:09 · answer #3 · answered by Jed 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes because if they loved and didnt have love returned it probably hurt them or they could have been crushed at some point and might be afraid to love again and some people might not want to be loved because they dont want to hurt the other person and they dont want to commit or many other reasons.
i dont know if this answers your question. and im sorry if it dosent
2007-02-10 16:10:27 · answer #4 · answered by Shannon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
afraid of what?
love is so natural and it is a key element to living a fulfilling life.
we need not fear love but rather be careful not to love the wrong person. as this can be a very costly mistake.
2007-02-10 16:14:23 · answer #5 · answered by nonmisogynisticAL 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, yes, my b/f and I do this all the time. Both had baad relationships, now we're cautious and suspicious... we really aren't helping the situation.
2007-02-10 16:09:54 · answer #6 · answered by Leigh K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course its perfectly normal. it took me four years to be even comfortable around enough around lads to commit because of past mistakes(putting it lightly). dont worry it happens to most and you dont even need to do anything to change the way you feel it will happen on its own.
good luck
2007-02-10 16:13:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heck yes.
2007-02-10 16:08:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, yes. They may be afraid because their momma dropped them on their noggin when they were little or because somebody walked in on them when they were in the wc. It doesn't matter. It just doesn't matter. Just get on with your life.
2007-02-10 16:11:44 · answer #9 · answered by Reo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no....but failed relationships in the past make you more careful about letting someone get close.
2007-02-10 16:12:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋