We've been together 6 months. We just moved into a duplex together, honestly it was more so our living situations weren't working that we live togther now. He totalled my car in Nov. and he gives me grief when I get upset because I have to be nice to his friend so I have a ride to work everyday. I work full time, my boyfriend doesn't have a job. And days like today (I'm working on a Saturday because I couldn't make it into work on Monday or Thursday) he is at the mall with his friend and turns out he is going to be late picking me up again, like every day. I'm really sick of taking care of someone who I feel doesn't do much for me. I almost feel like I'm keeping him around for my amusement or something crazy and messed up like that. I feel like I'm going crazy because of this man, though I need his help getting to and from work so I can't be without him. I'm stuck in a rock and a hard place and I'm consistantly loosing my mind. I don't know what to do anymore.
2007-02-10 07:54:42 · 7 answers · asked by Michelle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We've been through alot and he has been there for me. I feel like I'm making excuses to myself for him, but than I love him and I know he loves me. I almost feel like its an out of sight out of mind kind of thing and I can't help but get offended. He isn't trying to be a bum or anything and I feel like its worth it most of the time. Ahh, I just find it so frustrating that I can't even go home after work cause. I have no car cause of him and than when I get upset about it he says "Well hey, I'm on someone else's time, no much I can do." Ahh, its not like I asked to be screwed over for being nice. I feel like all I do is compromise for him and well this man can't even give it up when I want. I feel like such a hater now. Blah
2007-02-10 08:56:25 · update #1
like he says..he may be a hustler. but he dont hav 2 hustle u any more. drop the bit34
2007-02-10 08:03:59 · answer #1 · answered by zoot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is draining you of your spirit and energy. You have both checked out of the relationship. What you are doing now is excruciatingly difficult!
Find a way to get a car or transportation. A car donation charity? Friends or Family? If you don't resolve this, you will be paying hospital bills when your health starts to respond to your emotions.
2007-02-10 08:04:22 · answer #2 · answered by GoodGuy53 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to move out and move on. Or throw him out and move on.
He doesn't respect your needs or your things, and you are clearly very low on his priorities list.
Talk to all the folks who you work with and find out if any of them live close enough to trade out rides for gas money. Check out the bus and other public transportation in your area, and car-pool groups. If you work for a big company, they may have arrangements for van-shares. It doesn't hurt to ask.
g'luck!
2007-02-10 08:05:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do i ever know how your feeling...i been dating a guy since Oct he moved in with me.i have been only one supporting him and his bad habbits...he treats me like crap.he told me yesterday i didnt have a nice bone in my body well excuse me, im the one supporting your butt,he doesnt work,and doesnt have a DL,he smokes and wants to drink i dont allow drinkin in my house anymore,i pay the rent not him..i bring in food not him etc etc so maybe we should become friends and we will kick both their butts out on the same day !!!! im ready now ...good luck
2007-02-10 08:03:32 · answer #4 · answered by rebelicious_angel228 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you might enjoy the sex, but if you are losing the connection the sex will start to suck too! trust.. Get rid of that loser ande find a real man, one who loves you physically, emotionally, and spiritually! and find a man who has a damn job and respects your belongings. Im a loan officer(wink!)
2007-02-10 08:05:42 · answer #5 · answered by Miklo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you fill that your guy is bad to you then think do you love him does he love you and can you live with him treading you bad if you can stay with him if you cant then tell him ether you me nicer to me or I'm not going to be with you
2007-02-10 08:03:51 · answer #6 · answered by honeyklynnzamarripa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you don't need advise, you need a new boyfriend.
2007-02-10 08:12:25 · answer #7 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋