Every thing i do, every move i make, my paernts are in my business.For once i want them to know im not a kid anymore, i am fully responsible for myself.I don't tell them anything because they tell the whole family your business, and them kind of things are not for everyones ears.Somethings are better of left unsaid.
2007-02-10 07:21:39 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Haha, I'm sorry but at 16 you can BARELY live for yourself, despite what you think.
You should never tell your parents to butt out of your life. For one thing, they've never said that to you. They've kept you for 16 years and provided you with every need and want. If they can do this surely you can put up with them. Trust me, you're more annoying to them than they could ever be to you. You rack up your parents bills. Do your parents make you spend your hard earned money on them? I thought not.
If you feel that your parents are not giving you enough freedom, that's another issue. ENOUGH freedom, however, does not mean that all of a sudden you do not need your parents at all. For as long as you still live with them, they are still responsible for you.
If you want more freedom, talk to them. Calmly and decisively. Tell them what sort of things you wish they allowed you to do. Explain to them why you feel it is important for you to do them. Also explain to them that it hurts your feelings when they tell others your personal business. Ask them to stop.
Really, your issue is not that you want your parents completely out of your life. You just want them to stop doing one thing. There is a huge difference between that.
If you prove to your parents that you are indeed responsible by acting like an adult, then they WILL let you make your own decisions by yourself. You WILL get the freedom you deserve.
If you feel your parents are restraining you from something, it's because they see something you don't: That you are not mature enough (yet) to attain whatever it is that you want.
Communication is the key to any relationship. It's no different with the relationship you have with your parents. Rather than screaming at them to get out of your life, talk to them. Explain how you feel. Your life and their life will be made so much easier.
2007-02-10 07:29:53 · answer #1 · answered by Basiate 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not morally wrong to ask for your privacy in a mature and respectful way. It is wrong, however, to tell them to "butt out." Let them know that it's hurtful to you when they gossip about you and that it makes your lines of communication suffer.
If you want to be "fully responsible" for yourself and "not a kid anymore," you have to reflect that in your behavior.
For example, when I came home with a new car one day (which even I didn't expect when I left the house), I had to sit with my parents for an hour going over fuel efficiency, my budget, different cars I considered, and so on. I know they were just looking out for me and making sure that I had thought it out. In the end, they congratulated me and the only criticism they had was that if I had talked to them they would have referred me to a friend of my father's who's a manager at a dealership. All it took was to be mature about the whole situation.
2007-02-10 15:47:35 · answer #2 · answered by calliope320 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has nothing to do with morals, it has to do with privacy and I think you're entitled to some.
However, you are still a kid until you are 18. You are not responsible for yourself yet. Annoying as hell but still true. And you parents are either checking up on you because either you 1) give them reason for alarm 2) Are worried that you might get mixed up in something.
A solution: Give them reason to trust you by being responsible. Don't stay out past curfew, get decent grades, don't crash your car, do your chores, don't hang out with troublemakers or potheads, don't get in fights at school, etc.
You still have two years left at home so make the best of it.
2007-02-10 15:30:01 · answer #3 · answered by jennifer e 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dude... You`re only sixteen o.O... Your parents are still your best guidance. Sure, they can be over nosy, just tell them gentley that. After all, they`ve spent thousands of dollars raising you, and this is how you show them that you`re grateful?? Be nice ot them, and remind them every once in a while that you need your space.
And as for the telliong everyone else part, just tell them that it`s your own personal business, and no one else needs to know about it.
2007-02-10 15:27:47 · answer #4 · answered by Yuki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like my grand daughter.
She is a flake, so I'm happy she no longer has a conversation to share.
Your just stupid enough to burn your bridges.
So why are you asking questions here?
Do you think we care?
You had better check into that teenage emancipation thing soon,, your parents ARE responsible until they file the paperwork that your incorrigible.. I would boot your fanny out now. You are a kid,,, NO a child, spoiled rotten.
(if you think this is an abuse and report me. HAHA prove my point)
What does this have to do with singles & dating?
2007-02-10 15:42:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear that your parents gossip about u to the rest of your family. I would say no you're not outta line if that's the case. Although b/c u r 16 your parents have a right to know your business for the next 2 yrs....so i would sit down and tell them Y u don't want to talk about your personal affairs to them.
Maybe they're unware you are embarrassed about their seeming unharmful gossip to the family about u.
2007-02-10 15:26:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
well you are a young adult your not a adult yet...and as long as you live under their roof you should respect them.....it depends on what kind of stuff your keeping from your parents.if they are watching you like a hawk because you have been in trouble in the past than you have no right to keep them from your bussiness more so if they are only trying to protect you.If they are doing it to be noisey and have gossip to talk about well sit down with them and tell them that you would like to have a little privacy,let them know your not doing anything that is breaking the law, ask them to give you a chance to prove that your on the right road...and track.....best wishes
2007-02-10 15:27:01 · answer #7 · answered by rebelicious_angel228 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not wrong to tell your parents to bud out of your personal life but also understand that their just trying to look out for you, give you the best they can as parents.Let them know that you are glad their wanting to help cause shows they love you but if i need help then i'll come to you and please don't go off and tell the whole family cause if i wanted the entire family to know about it then i would of went to them. let them know that yes i'm only 16 but it's time for me to learn from my own mistakes, let me leave my life like i want to and see how well i turn out. good luck cause it doesn't matter how old you are your parents are always gonig to be aorund and sometimes in your personal life.
2007-02-10 15:30:39 · answer #8 · answered by Elizabeth C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should respect your parents. It is their job to be in your business, it means they care. You could however, ask for them to be more discreet and let them know how you feel about the family finding out about every one of your mistakes.
2007-02-10 15:25:51 · answer #9 · answered by pearl28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some things you just keep to your self,but others you need to tell your parents regardless they will tell the whole family or not
2007-02-10 15:27:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋