My cousin is always putting me down because she is..?

Question

a size 8 and 5ft 7. Whenever there are family fuctions and parties I don't feel like going as all I see is her sitting with her size 8 mates giggling and watching me in disgust. My weight is never steady I often go from a size 14/16 and 5ft 3.

Yesterday it was my mums 45th birthday and I now a size 12 after eating properly and exercising. Finally I feel good about myself I am now healthy with so much energy. So I treated myself to a nice dress and accessories. Big mistake. I walked into my mums party feeling healthy and trim just for my cousin to come over to me with her boyfriend. He said to me you'll never look this hot darling (pointing at her) why keep trying. I just ran out drove home crying.

I miss when my cousin used to be close with me and hate the way she treats me. At the moment I feel depressed as I have no one to talk to and I feel like I cant take it no more. I ain't jelious of her I just want us to be close again.

What can I do?

Answer 1

Dont Take Any Notice Of Your Cousin & Her Stupid Shallow Bf..!!
Size 12 Is A Perfect & Normal Size!
Many Men Love Women With Curves!
Sounds Like She Is Jealous To Be Honest..!

You Could:
Write Your Cousin A Letter Telling Her How You Feel!
Or Have Nothing Else More To Do With Her & Make It Clear That She Has Hurt Your Feelings..!!

Hope You Feel Good About Yourself Again Soon!
Enjoy Life!
Take Care
x

Answer 2

I'm sorry but she sounds a right cow I know she is your cousin but you don't deserve to be treated like this we all come in different shapes and sizes and the world would be a boring place if we where all the same!! That was nasty what was said to you! It was good that you felt good about yourself! No offence but I don't understand why you want to be close to her if thats how you are treated you shouldn't have to take there crap! She must think she is perfect! Maybe have a chat with your mum maybe she will understand how your feeling you could try and avoid your cousin and only see her at family do's and when you have to go to one just don't bother talking to her! I wouldn't want to! But if you do want to get things sorted out send a txt saying you want to meet up for a chat on her own and tell her everything even what her boyfriend said! It sounds like you have been trying really hard by keeping more healthy! But at the end of the day I hope you are doing this for yourself to loose weight and not just to fit in with your cousin and her mates!! You are what you are and thats all that matters! Hope you get things sorted out!! And things improve good luck!

Answer 3

It's obvious despite what you think you have something she can't have. It may be looks, carisma, friends You are an ideal hieght and weight now, even 14/16 at 5ft 3ins some people would die for. I think she knows you are vulnerable and likes being a b****. As for her boyfriend,he's either a puppet doing what she tells him to do as in saying what he did to you or he is absolutely ignorant so what does that say about your cousin keeping company with such a type? Bet you wouldn't give him house room? You've got to accept she is not close to you now. Don't do anything spiteful because you are above that but next time take a girlfriend or male partner of your own to any occassion, smile nice at her, chat if the situation arises but don't go out of your way to have her company. She's knows you are feeling insecure and just loving making you feel more so. When she eventually grows up she may realise what she is missing having you for a cousin and a friend but meantime blot her out of your life, think positive about yourself as you have everything to be positive about. When she see your are happy within yourself, content and have friends she will soon back off. At the moment she knows you are vulnerable and leading you a merry dance. Good luck.........remember..........you are a million times better than her.

Answer 4

You need to stop looking around and look inside yourself. Beauty isn't what size you were, how you fix your hair, how much money you spend on your clothes. Beauty is define by who you are. Don't let her words or her stupid boyfriends words get to you. Realize that you are as beautiful as you want to be. Take good care of yourself, dress neatly and above all be yourself. You'll be suprized at how many guys will like you once you accept yourself as beautiful. As far as your relationship with your cousin goes, don't try so hard. Sounds like she is jealous of something you have. Maybe it's your charming personality or the fact that people enjoy having you around, whatever it is don't let her or her boyfriend change your opinion of yourself. The relationship will get better once you both settle down. There will be less struggle over men in her eyes. Be proud of yourself for loosing weight and working hard. It's a great accomplishment to loose weight the right way. Good luck!

Answer 5

I seriously don't think she's worth wanting to be close to, you need to talk to her about how your feeling, she can't keep putting you down. Maybe she is also insecure so she thinks if she takes it out on you and batters you down then she can feel great about herself. Weight isn't everything a size 12 is good! You've exercised adn said yourself you feel you have a lot more energy. I know it's hard but don't let her get to you, you are how you are and that's good enough. I'm sure you would rather be a size 12 with a good personality than a size 8 who batters down their family and is cocky and overconfident. I think you should tell her you aren't happy the way she's treating you and you wish you could go back to how you used to be, if she isn't willing to be reasonable then I would just try to forget her because she isn't making you happy. You only live once so don't let her ruin your life, go out there and be confident how you are and if they make snardy remarks ignore them, this will only make you stronger. Their words may be painful but it;s only showing what childish people they are. I really hope it works out for you and this helps.

Answer 6

Have you asked yourself why she always puts you down?
Sounds like jealousy to me.
Write her a letter explaining how you miss what you had with her and ask her why she feels she has be so horrible to you.
Personally I don't think a Size 8 is healthy and I bet she's not really happy within herself, which may be one of the reasons she's so hurtful towards you.
If you can't make any headway with her I would chalk it down to experience and exclude her from your life. You don't need her.
Be happy whatever size you are and don't let other peoples opinions drag you down.
I bet you looked fantastic at your mum's party too.

Answer 7

Hiya, What a cow she is, Ignore her, Obviously you must look good for her to get her boyfriend to say that she must be very insecure and jealous of you. I wouldn't even try now to become close to her if she keeps putting you down, because she will just carry on. Dont let her see it bothers you, i know this is hard but be more confident in yourself find lots of friends and just keep out of her way. You have done so well in loosing weight and looking good and feeling good about yourself, dont let her send you back into your old ways.Let her see your confidence in yourself keeps growing. Good Luck you are what you are an individual.

Answer 8

Cousin or not shes a b***h. Move on and get some friends who will appreciate you for the person you are and dont think that size is all that matters. You worked hard to get where you are and thats an achievement to be proud of. Dont let her take your confidence away. Her boyfriend sounds like a total d**k too. The kind who is only with her for her looks, which is so superficial. She may be pretty on the outside but shes ugly inside.

Answer 9

I'm sure you look fantastic. Some people like to make other feel bad as it makes them feel better. It is no reflection on you, they are miserable people that hate themselves deep down and don't know how else to take out their emotions. They may see you as an easy target as you are vulnerable or lacking in confidence.

You know you don't need people like that in your life, even if they are family. Just be civil to your cousin, but you don't have to bother trying to be close to her, she doesn't deserve your precious time.

Take care : )

Answer 10

I know you definetly arent jealous of her because she sounds like a spiteful little tart. And as for her boyfriend he is probably fantasising about you as we speak.

B**ches like that always give skinny girls like me a bad name, we arent all size obsessed and I would love to have curves like you.

Ask her one to one what her problem is, if she cant offer you an excuse then tell her that she shouldnt bother coming to any family functions if all she can do is cause trouble. Other relatives are bound to notice it.

You have done so well sticking to a healthy diet, so keep at it and dont listen to some jealous, spiteful, airhead and her pimp.