we're both 19, and been together for 4 months and we fight every week. 2 months after we started going out he made me say i love you but he never said it back. He said if i didnt say it, then he will walk out. I did love him so i said it. When i asked him why he made me say it, he said its because he knew that i loved him and he had another good reason why but he forgot what it was. Since then, we keep fighting everytime we talk about our relationship because he doesnt like to talk about our relationship. He also said that he will never remember the reason why he made me say "i love you".
Also, he tried to break up with me 3 times already because he hates choosing between me and his friends. I told him that if thats what he really wants then he should do what he wants to do. But he said that he cares about me and he wants to take care of me and he wants to give it another try. Idk what to do, sometimes he is really sweet, then he will ruin it by hurting me bad and making me cry.
2007-02-10 07:14:26 · 18 answers · asked by Nina_678 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are 4mths into this relationship. Take this wasted time as a lesson well learned and LEAVE. He is trying to controll you through emtional black mail. He has convinced himeself if you love him then the ball is in his court. Every relationship has it's ups and downs, but you both are still in the new relationship phase, and this really shouldn't be happening. Why are you crying? Does he hurt you? If he is physically hurting you, you need to contact the police. There is NO MAN IN THE WORLD THAT GETS TO TELL YOU HOW YOU FEEL. Those are your feelings and no one can ever change that. Relationships are about give and take, comprimises and it isn't about choosing between his friends and you. Why can't you all go out once in a while? You need no man to take of you. You take care of yourself and leave, then you can be there for you!!!! He doesn't deserve you!
2007-02-10 07:25:25 · answer #1 · answered by momma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is up to u to know what it is that u want... From what u have said i assume that u like him a lot, otherwise i doubt u would be on yahoo answers questioning ur relationship and what to do next. He seems a bit immature, as if he isn't fully committed, u need to openly talk to him about ur feelings and have him tell u what he feels and thinks as well. You cannot have a good relationship unless u are able to tlk to each other with out confrontations. Also u need to know if he is serious about u, if he is more worried about spending time with his friends to the point where he feels he has to choose, i say let him go... you need someone to care for u, fully understand what u want and need and someone who treats u nice. I do not understand why one would have to "make" u say i love u... and then not say it in return or even know why he asked u to say it in the first place. This is odd and well it seems as though he knows u will always be there, that he can treat u any which way and nothing will change, well u aren't desperate and u don't need him to make u feel that way. You need to think things through, know what you want from him and ask urself if he makes you happy. Ultimately its ur decision, dont let others tell u what u should do... be wise and hopefully things will turn out to be okay.
2007-02-10 07:30:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I would only give him a couple more chances, but if he keeps on and on, I would say that it would be better to just cut the relationship off. I don't think I could be happy in a relationship with someone that wants to break up then try to make up for it. If he makes you cry frequently and doesn't show any signs of changing his ways, I would definitely not stand for it. You deserve better than having to ride an emotional rollercoaster every week, not sure if things will work out or not or if the two of you will get into yet another arguement.
2007-02-10 07:20:02 · answer #3 · answered by Mizuki 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Even though I am a guy i wouldn't stay with him if I were you. I would tell him like what my last girl told me I had enough of it and I can't take it anymore and she just walked out. But before you say anything whos is paying the rent or what is going on. If you pay the rent I would tell him to get out a girl shouldn't be treated like that. You know. If he goes to work wait untill he leaves and if he pays the rent just leave when he's at work.But if you pay the rent and your at work just find away to leave and when he thinks your missing wait untill he walk out of the house or leave the hous and go inside lock all of the doors. Don't leave no hidden keys anywhere. Make him say he loves you and for him to prove it then if you beleive him let him back in.
2007-02-10 07:24:00 · answer #4 · answered by Hashnugget 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nina nina nina, just chill babe, i'm Randy aka big R, I've solved more problems such as yours that I can't even keep count of them.....Now 1st do not flaunt yourself all over him like you've been doing just chill and ignore him He's a class A Jerk! you deserve much better hell if i wasn't took by my 3 babes ide meet up wuth yeah. but since thats never gonna happen i'll just give you rock solid advice, he is a boy! not a real man. real men regardless of how they're friends feel a Real Man will always put you up front, so Ide say its time to look for a new love! hurry go now and do not look back it will only hurt you more!
2007-02-10 07:23:23 · answer #5 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should stick around for anymore of his rubbish. He sounds a little immature. A 19 year old needs a MAN not a BOY. He's acting like he's five and unsure of is own feelings.
I think you should tell him how you feel about the relationship and if he maks you say I love you and forgets the reason why again, he's SOOOO not worth it.
Good Luck.
2007-02-10 07:20:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he made you say it? if so then it wasnt you saying it to tell your love just his control of you. i wouldnt stay but thats me. best thing to do is think about your life in the next few years or 20 yrs down the line do you still wanta be controled by this guy and have him keep walking out unless he gets his way. i would split for awhile and see how he reacts to the split and what he does during the split and how you feel durning the split. i think hes having fun controling you but anyways good luck
2007-02-10 07:22:36 · answer #7 · answered by marynew8 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
use ur heart to analyse the whole issue together(fighting each day)it means u are not meant to be together,if he's a kind of person that makes u cry all time just leave him without causing any havoc.
2007-02-10 07:30:25 · answer #8 · answered by olawale michael 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't walk away RUN AWAY
This guy is a mental case and it's contagious. If you stay you'll be a mental case also.
Don't be a Ninny Nina find somebody that will love you and treat you right.
2007-02-10 07:19:46 · answer #9 · answered by Johnny 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can do so much better than this. Any moan who forces his will upon you, or "requires" you to do anything against your will, or who is controlling or demanding is too selfish to be an appropriate mate. Seek someone who is kind, gentle, caring, compassionate of your wishes and needs. They are out there. My wife found one......
2007-02-10 07:19:46 · answer #10 · answered by Kerry 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋