FInally started talking to the girl I'm interested in. What to do next?

Question

I'm an college freshman, and there's a girl in my English class I'm strongly attracted to. It's been about 2 weeks since the class started. I've had a crush on her since the first day of class; I am a complete sucker for eyes, and she has the prettiests eyes I've ever seen. At first, I sat across from the girl. She looked at me quite often when I used to sit across from the girl. I wasn't sure if I could take that as a sign of her interest, but I started sitting next to her last week. Since then, I have made some progress little by little. Since she's not outgoing, it has been quite hard for me to initiate a conversation. In each of the last two classes, I asked her one question. For example, she brought a pretty coffee mug, so I asked her where she got it, and then our conversation ended. Today, however, I initiated a conversation after class by talking about her research topic. We talked for just about two to three minutes, but (please read additional information as well)

now I feel that I can talk to her more casually. This girl is my dream girl; she's pretty, articulate, intelligent, and classy. I really really want to make the dream come true lol. I gotta do everything right. So I would like to get some constructive advice from ppl with a lot of dating experiences.
One more thing. Valentine's Day is coming up, and I am worried if some other dude will make a move on that day. Since the girl and I don't know each other too well, I think it will be very weird to do something special, but what's the least I can do?

Answer 1

you should get to class first and set a secret admirer card and a rose on her desk. sit close but not right by her that day. when she gets to class she'll be SO excited, girls love love LOVE secret admirer stuff, especially if its from someone she actually likes. when she gets it she'll most likely look at you, when she looks over at you give her a little smirk. she'll be so happy, and it's not overdoing it, it's just cute

Answer 2

It's hard being attracted to someone and being shy. You don't know her well enough so you not sure how to approach her, don't want her to push you away, and don't want her to reject you.

Honesty is the best policy. Brave up, get your confidence up, and tell her....Name), I'm attracted to you. I would like to get to know you better, perhaps even take you out...how would you feel about that?

This move will do two things for you...1. indicate your interest..2. indicate if she is interested in you.

If she says, no thank you, I'm busy, in a relationship, not dating, focusing on my studies, etc...proceed to say, I can respect that, are you at least accepting new acquainteces or new friends, ...before she can answer let her know, that "no one is so rich as not to need another friend" she would probably be okay with it if not...possibly you will catch her sometimes in a study group. be nice, be pleasant, no sometimes means not now..keep it light.

If she says yes, then begin setting it up and talking about where it is she would like to go, what would be her ideal date...Some people like restuarants, some like plays and musuems. Some like movies..although to me movies and plays aren't good first dates, because they take away from the time you two can get to know each other...they both distract attention away from each other.

A musuem would be nice and so would dinner at a nice restuarant, one without a band...You can't talk over the music.

As far as being the girl of your dreams...."Too many times people look at the exterior" of a person and not the interior.

Forget what she looks like and learn who she is...Where she comes from, her values, religion, her parents, family, her belief systems, her moral values....Is she some one who would care for you should you get sick or become an amputee, can she cook, what are her hobbies, does she go to a place of worship...what are her goals...is there a place for you in her life...Do you just want her because "Mr. Happy in the Pants", is excited by her?

Physical attributes fade...I just saw a movie last night of "Boxing Helena".

Helana a very beautiful woman, but her spirit was cruel and mean, her morals were such she would do any man she pleased with no consequence...

Beauty on the outside....Beast on the inside.

Does she have and believe in a God..who is He and what does he mean to her.

Before you start dreaming up a woman...maybe you want to consider what true and worthy attributes you want her to posses, other than having smart answers in class and being a fantasy for "Mr. Happy in the Pants".

For Valentines Day, you should wait until you get a response from her as to if she is interest in you or not before you spend your money.(make it a single rose..nothing elaborate until you have been together for a least a year)...otherwise you may be considered a fool....and we all know that when you find a fool, you bump his head...

Don't get your head bumped on this one...And if it don't work out...look for the woman who thinks you are her dream man....she would be worth the shot.

Answer 3

I would keep going slow. You need to get to know her more, and she needs to get to notice you more also. Keep sitting next to her...or around her. So it does not make it SO obvious that you want to sit next to her EVERY day. :~) . Just keep talking to her, do what you are doing. Maybe after the 5th short conversation you have at class, if you feel there is something, then just ask her to go to coffe or study together. You have nothing to loose. If she says no, then say thats fine and continue your "short" conversations...because her interest may turn after she gets to know you more. I woudn't do anything for Vday for her....you two are just getting to know eachother. But tell her Happy Vday and ask her if she has any plans...just for conversation. Good Luck!

Answer 4

You could find a subtle way of letting her know that you like her. Maybe just complimenting her on her hair, or clothes or something. You could also try telling her that you liked/admired something that she did at the begining of the course. That way she'll know that you noticed her a long time ago. Try making her feel special, maybe by sharing some chocolates with her one day, or something.
Good Luck!

Answer 5

Well, show some really obvious signs, like staring at her or bumping into her often. Start more conversations, but don`t act like you`re stalking her or anything. Take an interest in her hobbies. Always look good [[not "perfect"]] in front of her.

Hope that helps, and I wish you good luck!!

Answer 6

omg ok ur gonna get tutored by a 13 year old what to do man so listen up good:

alright man if shes ur dram girl u need to make convo with her everyday ask her questions like u've been doing just think bro and also once u start to become more friendly with eachother then ask her out don't go for it now because theres probably a 30% chance she'll say yes so just make convo, ask her if she wants to get i dunno coffee or something and convo there and then ask her out alrite man u do what u say and u'll have a girlfriend and don't ask her for sex either u collage phat idiots

Answer 7

try asking about more interesting things and ask her if she wants to hang out some night after class

Answer 8

That is the longest question ever. I stopped reading after the second line. But anyways........ keep her away from frats and you'll be ok.

Answer 9

A nice signed card with something cute (not overly romantic, you would not like to freak her out) ... and a warm smile ...

Answer 10

Ask her if she wants to hang out wiht you and some of your friends and she can bring some of her friends too so then it wont be so awkward. then slowly get to know her better!
Good Luck!