My boyfriend's not a Christian?

Question

My boyfriend, whom I love endlessly, isn't a Christian (anymore). What do I do? Obviously it hurts, but I don't want to lose him...

Answer 1

he will be saved if you are a christian

Answer 2

I hope hearing from a gay atheist doesn't bother you...

My girlfriend is a Christian and I'm an atheist and we've been together for close to a year. The topic of religion can be contentious between us, but we do love each other and respect how the other person believes by keeping an open dialogue on the subject. Personally, I don't see it as a problem for us because she is free to believe what she wants to and so am I.

Answer 3

He was born a human being, not a Christian. He's still the same person. If someone dies, do you ever really stop loving them? If someone's religious beliefs change, it's still the same person, just with a different outlook on life. Christianity states that when you die and go to Heaven that you will fear no remorse for those that you knew that could possibly go to Hell. Worry not, because all should be well in the end.

I'm an atheist, so it makes no difference to me. Christian, Islam, Hindu, we're all the same on the inside.

Answer 4

Regardless of a couple's religious beliefs, they need to share a common spirituality. Without this, it's very difficult, if not impossible, to make a relationship work for any length of time.
Sorry to say this, but I think you have to let your b/f go. He has chosen his own path. He has to decide for himself whether to continue on this path or turn back & return to you. In all honesty, I have to wonder if he was really sincere from the beginning. Let him go with your blessing & by all means, pray for him.
Good luck & happiness to you.
BTW, pay no attention to those rude answers.

Answer 5

You just need to decide how important him being a Christian is to you. I married my husband knowing that he wasn't a Christian. Because you know that he isn't it isn't fair for you to try to pressure him...it will only cause problems in your relationship.
My husband eventually started going to church with me. I invited him once but never pressured him to. It worked out great for us but I wouldn't stay with someone hoping that he will become Christian. If it is really important to you, find another guy.

Answer 6

If you can't live with his right to believe what he believes, leave him. You'd be doing you both a favor. I am an atheistic agnostic and the one thing I truly resent is a woman who knows it and enters into the relationship with a covert conversion plan. DO NOT try to convert him to save the relationship - you and he will regret it. Your children will never forgive you for burdening them with your baggage.

Answer 7

For now as long as he follows your moral conduct I think you're OK. However for a long-term relationship in most cases it's best to find someone who believes as you do.

Also....if you're under 18 your parents may have some input in this situation.

Answer 8

I am Christian, so don't get at me, but it sounds like nazi's theories: A good German can't love someone who is not a German. You don't want to make any connections between Hitler and Christ, do you?

Answer 9

Why does it hurt? Everyone has their own preference and he's no different. Sounds like he grew up and got his knowledge on. Many of us have. How can I worship a god that allows so much pain and murder to continue? Besides, can you prove to me that there is a God?

When you can, come back and we'll talk.

Answer 10

If his faith really concerns you, and you want him to come back to the faith, you need to ask him to come back, not as his girlfriend but as a friend. Because the cause of him coming back may be for you, and when/if you break up that could shatter his faith.

Answer 11

The Bible says do not be yoked to unbelievers. Try to bring him back to Christ. If that fails I suggest you break up with him but remain friends if possible. If you keep dating an unbeliever it could become very easy for you to be led away from God.