im scared, and i want to have sex with him but being a virgin im worried about it.
just the pain and people say you bleed really bad your first time..??
i love him more than anything and he knows i'd do anything for him.
i've loved him for 3 years and he makes me feel special, like when he looks at me its like im the only girl in the world..
i REALLY want to have sex with him but im scared.
what should i do?
2007-02-10 07:07:09 · 14 answers · asked by Tayalana 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Giving up your virginity, is a big step it opens up doors you may not be ready for yet. He probably knows how you feel about him and whether he's your friend or not he is still a guy and like a guy he's only thinking of himself when it comes to that. So if he really cares about you he will stop asking you. Tell him your not ready to make that step yet,maybe later when you feel more comfortable about it, or maybe you want to wait for the right guy to come along. Either way watch his reaction, and if you find that he starts to distance his self from you because of your answer, then you made the right decision, because that will show you that's all he wanted from you. But if he is true then he will understand. Don't ever feel pressured into doing anything your not comfortable with, because it us ally isn't the right choice it you don't feel right about it. You'll know when the time is right for you. Stick to your guns, there aren't many left like you, so don't make choices that will make others happy,make choices that will keep your self respect. Good luck
2007-02-10 07:23:37 · answer #1 · answered by glorene b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON"T DO IT!!!!!!! I saw that you answered to another girl that she was "slutty for dating a guy so much older" I am not sure why you would say that and then want to lose your virginity to a guy that will be long gone history in a short time.
Of course he likes you and may even make you feel special. I am sure your bond is special. But, you can only give your "V-card" once and only once. Then it's gone.
Is he worth it? Do you think you will marry him? Then why not wait? Will you think it was worth it once you find the man you will marry? Will he think that it was worth it too?
Don't cheat yourself for the momentary pleasure...that leads to pain. I know I regreted it badly when I gave up my virginity. I wished it had been with a guy that I knew better, dated longer, and married first.
I didn't know what love was. I was so young. Love is not just that great feeling you get when he walks by. The smell of him that drives you insane. The cool way he dresses and looks at you... Love is everlasting, love is patient, love is commitment, love is waiting until the time is right for the both of you. Love is respect. Love is wanting the Best for each other and your future's. A man that loves a woman is a man that will do anything to take care of the woman. Including making sure she goes to college and finds out exactly who she is.
Good luck. It's a hard decision. Most making too hastily and look back wondering if it was right. I hope you make the right choice.
2007-02-10 07:18:06 · answer #2 · answered by BellaLuna 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep them legs "closed" do not give him his desert yet, you have plenty of time for that kinda nasty stuff! if hes on you all the time wanting SEX you need to find another guy who wants you the way you are at the current time. do not give that stuff up yet!v and yes it will Hurt Like Hell! if hes so in love with you like you say he is,he'll wait till you two have a clue what kinda problems you'll both be facing down the road if you come up knocked up! just slip him the tongue for now but do not Have untammed sex,it will be a nightmare!
2007-02-10 07:14:15 · answer #3 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAIT
Every guy tells every girl that they are the only girl in the world.
Have sex and you'll be looking for a new b/f only this time you won't be a virgin.
It is very painful and yes A LOT OF BLOOD. Try pleasing him in other ways.
Has he ever done it before and if so ask yourself was she the only girl in the world also.
2007-02-10 07:13:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow 3 years huh? Dating all the way through?
I think if you guys havnt done anything yet then you should wait-maybe your meant for each other:D Who knows, does he see you long term?
Marriage perhaps?
I think you should wait. Thats why people wait until they get married-its suppose to be a beautiful bonding experience.
2007-02-10 07:15:12 · answer #5 · answered by Diana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to say that if you're too scared to have sex, then you're probably not ready. Give it some more time. When you're really comfortable with him, you'll know it in your heart and won't have to ask.
2007-02-10 07:12:50 · answer #6 · answered by jered_gold 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all if you are under eighteen, talk with your parents, if you are an adult, do not have sex with anyone UNTIL YOU ARE READY, if they truly care for you, they will wait. Not every person has the same results after having sex.
2007-02-10 07:13:57 · answer #7 · answered by Ann J 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think a women is better to answer this question, please see the link I specified in my source list, I think it has some valuable information you could use.
Never rush anything you're not 100% sure you're ready for.
2007-02-10 07:21:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk it out with him. Just ask yourself are you willing to take your friendship to another level with him, & also ask him is he willing to do the same, instead of a one night stand? Unless that is what you both want.
2007-02-10 07:22:56 · answer #9 · answered by Razor Snake 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until the relationship has blossomed.. you only have virginity to give only once and the guy should be very very special to you and you should both be old enough to realy appreciate it.and hteguy should be THE GUY youve waited on all yoyr life
2007-02-10 07:11:41 · answer #10 · answered by road runner 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋