its so confusing! and i hate lovin someone i know i will probably never have =[?

Question

whats it mean when i didnt even know this guy but one day in 7th grade me and my friend was going though each others purses and i found a pic of him and i was like whos this and i told her i liked him just by lookin at that pic! then i met him and were really good friends now but im in love with him! i cant help it! i tryed to get over him! i just cant! why wont god let me get over him? even after the way he treats me im still in love with him!! and were in 9th grade now!! and were about to be in 10 grade! and i still love him!! i dont know what to do cuz i know i will never get over him!!

Answer 1

You will....

Answer 2

You said 'after how he treats me'---- How does he treat u???

My first relationship was like this, it is a very innocent thing to love someone like this, and just shows how innocent, pure and crystal clear u are in ur heart- not a regular *****, n if the guy can't handle it then he doesn't deserve it, most guys (and especially at ur age, if any at all are) won't be as nice and good and unselfish as you are or mature enuf to handle someone like that.

So, if he is being mean to u just understand that he is a selfish person and taking advantage of ur innocence. There are tons of such mean, lowly creatures u will meet in life.

Find somebody else and be a little bit more selfish this time, u should always think about ur own happiness first unless the other person really loves u. And if a relationship sucks, just get out of it! It is not ur age to get too serious about someone, I am sure there r tons of other guys around and u will meet tons of others as u grow up- just find a relationship u can have fun in.

And if he is being mean to u especially after knowing that u love him too much, he is just a selfish, nasty and stupid person.

Hope, this can make u understand since I have been through the exact same situation.

Answer 3

You will get over him, and it's probably not love. The best way to get over it is to find someone else. It's the hardest to get over relationships that have never really happened. If you two had been together and broken up there would be some type of closure but this way you always go on with the feelings. You are still so young, there are plenty of guys who will treat you well. You can find one of them that means more to you than this old guy ever could. And if that doesn't work, just make this first guy as insanely jealous as possible. Just because it's fun.

Answer 4

You are just an angel That has been given a wonderful gift.
of being in love with someone you may never get to be with or he may never share the love that you have,
the passion of love is so complex yet so hard to deal with,
i compared it to being lowered into a tub of warm water, its so soothing . some of us as we get older refuse to put ourselves into that position again,
I would just love to have that warm feeling again.
Yes it may hurt and the sting is somewhat cruel but imagine if you were such a cold unfeeling person that you could never feel that way.
Just have patients one day all this will be a good dream, you will never forget him, and you will always call him your first love.
This will be your poem. to him.

Let me make a wish for you.
I was cold and hurting
lost out in the night
wandering and searching
for heaven's light

I saw the night sky clearing
when you spread your rainbow wings
But little did I know
what joy you would bring

From that moment on
a friendship did start
you kissed away my tears
and sheltered my heart

I bless the day God
sent him from above
But then I grew fearful
for I had fallen in love

I told you this feeling
and what did you say?
You said you liked our friendship
and that's how it would stay

I cried for a friendship I thought I lost
But then felt your warm, gentle hand
You then whispered in my ear
that by my side you'll forever stand
as a friend.

Answer 5

were in the same boat love is a very strong word but i know i love my (now) best friend we will never be able to be with each other because we are to much a like but we still see each other every once and a while. If you think you are in love with this guy you should let him know how you feel about him and see what his reaction is... then go from there... if you have feelings for this person you will always have feels for him, just dont let him get to you, "have fun while your young"

Answer 6

This comming from a guy that is glad there are girls like you out there. My current girlfriend liked me for 3 years before I gave her any recognition. We have been goin out for almost 10 months now and it is the healthiest relationship i've ever had. Have faith, I'm not saying he will come around, but you may want to hang on just a little longer.

Answer 7

Yes, it is confusing lovin someone you know you wont never have. Only you have the power to make the confusion stop. Let that idea you have created about him go and soon you will see him vanish from your head. Well he wont but it will be less obsesive and you can focus on a new person. :) been there done that.

Answer 8

Life is too short to live with regret, however if he treats you badly do you really want to spend the rest of your life with someond who doesn't like you? Ask yourself what is most important to you, list the pro's and con's of having a realationship with him. If you have more con's then it will be easier to let him go and be treated good by someone who really cares about you. Take care Heather

Answer 9

i'm going through a smililar thing. u just.. gradually get over him. its not sumthing that happens overnight. it will take a while. maybe if u told him how u felt, it would make u feel better. even if he says he doesnt like u.... at least u'll know its for real.... and that nothing can happen.

Answer 10

First of all, does he have a gf? cuz if he does then its better to stay friends but if he doesnt then you should make a move while he is still available. =)

Answer 11

Keep loving him, but also keep studying and having fun also, I assume loving this guy is not the only thing you can do in your life...