well my mom is pregnent and i am going on 16 soon and my sis is going on 19 and my bro is 20 and they kid will be 16 when i am 32 and do you think that is a good thing or a bad thing and i really don't no what to say or do
2007-02-10 06:38:43 · 12 answers · asked by gus13 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
A baby in a well adjusted, happy, healthy family is always a good thing. I know for me change is a scary thing. The good side to this could be that this will give you experience for when get married and have kids. I was the youngest in my family and I had absolutely no experience with kids so I did not feel comfortable around them.
This will also help you to decide when in life you want to have children...after college....after career.
Being pregnant is not always a joy so your mom might need extra patience from you. By the time you are 32 and you sibling is 16 you will already be established with you own life and this child will not be the burden that you feel it will be.
You cant change what is happening so be a positive force in this child's life and help to make it a happy life.
My older brother died almost 2 years ago from cancer and I miss him each and every day. It's one of those "if I would have known" things. I wish I would have spent more time with him cuz I never would have known the pain that I have now missing him.
Embrace the new baby.
2007-02-10 07:04:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 13 when my mom had my youngest brother. It was awesome, because I could help her and did help both of my parents out so much. My brother is still my buddy- I'm 25 now, and have a 16 month old son... and my son absolutely adores my youngest brother, so it's really neat.... My brother when my son was born was like, "How do I be a good uncle?" I replied, as long as you love him, you'll be a great uncle. So I will say this to you. :) Any help you can give your Mom would be wonderful, and you'll take pride in helping her. Don't let all the responsibilities of taking care of a younger sibling by yourself - just help out when you can- you still need to have your own life. But seriously, this will be a wonderful experience, and the love you have will be as you have for your older siblings. My youngest brother and I are very close and always have been, so it's really up to you and the kind of relationship you want with your brother or sister :)
Good luck, and congrats!
2007-02-10 14:50:17 · answer #2 · answered by m930 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well congrats to her i guess, its not bad but you wont really have a strong relationship with the baby because when baby is growing up you will be in college or having a life and career and not talk much i mean my husband has a brother who is 35 ish and my hubby is 24 and they really dont talk one because of different states the other because his bro wasnt at homesince like 17 and with me and my sister we are 8 years apart we talk some but i dont see her very much they live 2 hrs away and i work evening when she is out of school and i have 2 kids and my own life so anything with a firly good distance in ages is hard but just be supportive of your mo and baby it kinda sounds like baby was an accident most kids at this age are i mean if your 16 and your mom had your bro at 16 it means your mom is around 36 if not older she might have thought she was in menopause or couldnt get pregnant anymore so talk to her about great but why now was it unplanned just give her someone to talk to and let her know you care try to be happy
2007-02-10 14:50:26 · answer #3 · answered by sexy b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, all you can do is love the baby. It is a little weird, but it happens. I mean your sis or your bro or you could even have a baby the same time as your mom(not that you should). Just support your mom. Love her and the baby. Offer to watch him/her while your mom showers.
My father is 17 years older than his middle brother. And the middle brother is 17 years older than the little brother(who at 9 is still my uncle).
Good luck hun! and congrats!
2007-02-10 14:47:19 · answer #4 · answered by michaellandonsmommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a sister 16 years younger than I am. Because of the age difference, we have just never really gotten to know one another. This may not be the case with you, however, and you might love a kid brother or sister. so, wait and see and love.
2007-02-11 09:33:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 30 and my brother is 15 and we are so close, its like hes my little one as I've watched him grow and helped him with all his needs when he was young, he will tell people now that if he ever needed to talk to someone he would come to me which is so sweet, I also have a 20 yr old brother, I love being a very old sis ;)
2007-02-10 15:27:29 · answer #6 · answered by mumoffour 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my baby sister is 20 years 1 month younger than me and I have three neices the same age. Equals Mother, Two Sisters , and one sister-in-law all preggers at the same time. What a concept huh.
2007-02-10 14:47:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents had their sixth kid when I was 10. The oldest was 24 years older than he was. In a way you will be very special in his or her life --- it's a very good, positive thing. Talk with your mom!!!
2007-02-10 17:26:47 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your mom will have plenty of help with the new baby. Try to be supportive of your mother.
2007-02-10 14:48:47 · answer #9 · answered by LadyDeathStryke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have a new brother or sister so it will be a good thing. IT dont matter about age differences
2007-02-10 15:26:26 · answer #10 · answered by Reality Has A Libertarian Bias 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋