Have I Really Lost My Way?

Question

Hi Ya"ll,
I am a homemaker with one kid,i take good care of her and love her more than anything else in this world,but my problem is i had some dreams in my heart and i am not doing anything to fulfill those dreams,i feel guilty for not fulfilling my dreams.I have lost interest in doing anything.I sacrificed my career for my family, i dont feel bad abt that,but the only thing that keeps disturbing me is why am i not planning things and following it.I always keep thinking abt my mother-in-law who keeps on saying idiotic things abt me and teaches my kid that whatever toys she has got ,she got his from his dad and not from me.and she keeps on bringing expensive toys for my kid and i think my kid is turning against me.
last night when i asked my kid whom do u love ur granny or me ?she said she loves her granny ,i know she is small doesn't understand somethings but i cried a lot last night,i cudn't sleep well.I really get frustrated and feel that i m good for nothing.I get mad at myself

Answer 1

A small child is always going to change there minds daily. whe she gets older she is going to remember who was there when she was sick, who gives her a kiss when she was sad, who reads her a bedtime story and tucks her in at night, who is the only person that loves me all the time, my mom....she is too little for this, don't take it personally, she will realise all you do for her and how much you care and are always there for her. She will also realise how the mother in law talks bad about mommy and this will not go over very well when she starts asking questions. Your child is not against you. she just doesnt understand the difference yet. Take care Heather

Answer 2

Give yourself a break. Your not ready to be serious about goals when your adjusting to your situation and have other things on your mind.
And be the better person when it comes to the in law. Mine were real shity in front of my kids but I just kept smiling. and sometimes I would give her a look like "gee, that's not nice" still half smiling.or say "Oh, that's silly".
Now at least the put on fake smiles too(lol)
they quit after a while. Especially when the first thing the kids say to them is "what did you bring me?" I would look excited too.The kids think of them of nothing but trip to the toy store.
good grandparents, like my mom, spoil but don't go overboard.

You should never asked your kid who do you love more. She probably feels bad for hurting your feelings. She meant she has MORE FUN with granny, (and what kid wouldn't) that's all.

Answer 3

I know being a "housewife" isn't the most self esteem building title. But you need to forget the title and focus on the job. Do things you would like to do if you were stuck at work. I was the same way.
I found getting up with my new husband early and getting all the chores done before noon (even sometimes dinner 1/2 ready) gives us all day to play and be spontaneous.
Your little girl loves you more than she knows. My mom was depressed and my grandma spoiled me (her job), but I loved them both the same . Most of the time I wanted to be with my grandmother. Not for gifts, just cause she played with me, and would miss my mom if she was gone to long.
My ex and his family tried "buying" our 2 children with gifts at every visit. and I cant afford to go to Disneyland twice in one year.They also say mean things about me. But they would rather live with me than them any day. I know (and they start to see and figure who's the real "meanie" on there own)
When my daughter went through some behavior problems at school I asked her if she thought it might be better if she lived at her dads and she immediately looked upset and said NO!
There are children who have lousy parents and still love them and would be devastated to loose them.
No body loves you like your mom
So snap out of it mom.

Answer 4

You need to do soemthing to improve your self-esteem and you need to do it fast.

A) Go get a nice hair cut and your nails done.
B) Buy a nice new outfit.
C) Start a list of goals
D) Make the goals attainable and set a time limit for completion
E) Mother-in-laws have been a pain in the *** since the beginning of time. Don't worry about what she thinks.
F) Love your daughter and husband and yourself

Answer 5

I agree, time to take back your life, get rid of the regrets and start thinking positive. You can do and be anything you want to be, don't let your daughter know that you feel less than what you feel you should be. Why subject her to such negativity, don't you want her to pursue her dreams, to be anything she wants to be, so then you have to be her first example, register for classes, take an on-line course, do something for you, you will feel better about your self and I will keep you in prayer. God Bless.

Answer 6

sounds like it is tim,e to take back charge of your life.. nioght schools or online schooling is an option and not too expensive. and keep the child awway from granny too.. she has no right to say bad things about you....take charge and just do it...good luck