basically me and my boyfriend broke up because i apprently changed we didnt talk for a long time but one day we got chatting and we talked about it and he said that he knows i havent changed he just didnt no what he wanted. he got a new gf tho when we werent together but he cheated on her with me. after this he told me he had a lot of demonds to face but when the time is right he would come back to me and tell me he was finally ready to be with me again. we havent spoken for a while but whenever i do see him we ALWAYS talk and flirt and i can see it in him he still likes me ALOT and visa versa. the problem is i dont know weather to believe him or not!! and if i do believe him, what if hes taking too long to tell me!?? is there anyway i can hurry the process along?? is there anyway that i could persuade him to get back with me asap?? everyone of my friends are saying hes gutted etc but im so confused any help will do!!!! thanks alot x
2007-02-10 06:32:33 · 14 answers · asked by sparkle_love_x 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
also i forgot to mention he broke up with his girlfriend 2 days after he started cheating on her with me, he said he realised he didnt even like her he just thought getting someone new might help him get over the heartache of us breaking up.
2007-02-10 06:55:55 · update #1
First of all, you need to leave this guy and never look back. He enjoys knowing that you are waiting for him and that gives a feeling of power. Don't allow him to have this power. He doesn't really like/love you he lusts for you. If he cared for you, then he would be with you, and wouldn't of cheated on you. Give yourself some credit and take this as blessing in diguise and get out while you haven't wasted too much time.
2007-02-10 06:41:51 · answer #1 · answered by momma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be thinking more of why do you want to get him back quickly??
He obviously has some problems with deciding what he wants, and if you get back with him, especially quickly, it is only going to confuse him more and could lead to you getting hurt by him leaving again.
Try and get him to actually talk to you instead of having light banter and flirting. Ask him if he thinks he will ever be over his 'demons' as if you don't ask i doubt he will tell. You need to think of yourself and your own happiness above all else.
If you think that he is the only way you'll be truly happy then go for it, but if there is doubt, which from your question it sounds like there is, be more cautious and don't back down without an answer from him on what is going on.
Hope this helps, good luck x
2007-02-10 14:45:59 · answer #2 · answered by caz_rabbit_85 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's what is called a "Player" and your being played sweetie. Wake up, I don't know how old you are , but obviously you have alot to learn about men in general.
Oh, and by the way your spelling is terrible,maybe you should spend more time reading instead of dating.I'm not trying to be nasty but I hate bad spelling, and is it just me, or are more and more youth today exhibiting these traits.
And did he have "a lot of demons" or "a lot of demands" to face???
Kick his sorry *** to the curb and get on with your life.
2007-02-10 15:23:15 · answer #3 · answered by EveretteDavid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all it sounds like he is just a big waste of time, you sound desperate to get back with him, WHY? i mean you sound quite young and you are probably 10 times the person he is so dont sit and wait for him to come running back, because chances are my friend he wont and you will be left hurt and waiting. go out enjoy yourself and you will feel a lot better.
2007-02-10 14:41:13 · answer #4 · answered by nick23647@btinternet.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get away from him...once a cheater, always a cheater. AND, you cheated with him, the trust element is gone, so you need to find a new b/f and start over. The world is full of them!
2007-02-10 14:37:15 · answer #5 · answered by Kbear 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is stringing you along - best thing for you to do would be to move on.
One of my ex boyfriends used to say the same things to me, so he would have a "back up" to use if he wanted something (sex) when he didnt have a girlfriend! sounds very similar to your ex!
I wouldnt wait around, if he liked you alot he wouldnt be messing you about
2007-02-10 14:38:36 · answer #6 · answered by Jemmax 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you mad???? This guy is eating his cake and having it. Why would you wait for him? If he can sleep with both of you he isn't that great of a guy. Actually maybe you do deserve each other.
2007-02-10 14:39:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I wouldn't even talk to him
He cheated on you, but now he's crawling back to you! What a selfish pig he is.
2007-02-10 14:38:58 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is keeping you around to get you booty,and you are letting him use you.You said it,HE HAS A GIRL.What part of that do you not understand.
2007-02-10 14:51:10 · answer #9 · answered by junior1108 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sound sconfused aswell. u should try to see and talk to him more so he'll no ur intrested and you seem to have fun with him so stick with him, just make sure he's not a playa - cause then you cant trust him.
2007-02-10 14:38:40 · answer #10 · answered by ▓▒░ ♫ Pump !t up ♫ ▓▒░ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋