Committment? LOTS of SERIOUS answers needed please!?
I just got out of a relationship so I am not really looking to go straight into another relationship, especially one like my last one. My last one was too serious too fast, and there was a lot of emotional abuse going on. I have been sort of dating this guy recently and he is such a gentleman. He is so nice to me and he treats me so great, but I am worried that he will never look for a real relationship with me. Like I said, I do not want to get into another relationship right now, but I would like to be able to have the possiblity open if the time arises. He is going off to college this year not too far away from me, an hour and a half maybe. (he already lives an hour away from me so distance is not a big deal). I don't really want to just be upfront with him about it in fear of scaring him away because from what I have heard most guys are just "looking to have fun" and do not want committment. I really like this guy, and I am not
2007-02-10 06:30:27 · 13 answers · asked by GirlInMassachusettTOWN 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, it looks like you need to give him some time to think. like you said, you didnt like the other guy who wanted it serious sudden. approach him calmly, and give him some time to think about what you're asking him. yes, there are lots of guys in this world that just want fun and no committment. but if he is a gentleman, maybe he's different. you said hes going to college and that's a LOT of stress. dont add on to his stress and catch him at a relaxed time to tell him your feelings. good luck girl!
2007-02-10 06:36:33 · answer #1 · answered by bugsandtweety 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I say wait a while before you do anything. I am a guy, and I am looking for committment more than just fun. So don't judge all guys the same. Trust me, there are a few guys out there, you just have to choose wisely, or wisely let them choose you.
2007-02-10 06:36:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I know why your last relationship was too serious too fast. I'm an expert at NOT SERIOUS, and you are headed right for it, unless he has the good sense to stop you. You over think, over emote, and probably over do.
So, slow down, enjoy your time with him but quit putting yourself so far into the future with him and probably everything else. Just get to know him, play, enjoy the moment.
2007-02-10 06:39:05 · answer #3 · answered by Ande 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, if he doesn't want commitment and you scare him away because of that, is that really the kind of guy you want?
But I agree, it's generally a bad idea to go into another relationship too quickly.
2007-02-10 06:35:14 · answer #4 · answered by musiclover 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
mmm confident i'm in a honest relationship... we are residing at the same time... which makes us understand each thing approximately one yet another and prefer one yet another even moree... I <3 my relationship... :) good success getting particularly some answes
2016-10-01 22:23:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its cool i know how u feel but u can't close the door on yourself or anyone else because u were hurt once thats the way u learn to turst again by opening up to someone esle who knows maybe he'll be the one maybe not but what if he is that one u don't want to push he away trust me god only knows your future to if that what u want pray on its n he'll send it to u so go for it girl
2007-02-10 06:36:37 · answer #6 · answered by nekke3 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him how you feel. You'll never know unless you take the chance. Speculating about the reply is just going to give you anxiety and sleepless nights. Go for it.
2007-02-10 06:34:47 · answer #7 · answered by Julia Sugarbaker 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
since you has a feeling for him then slowly continue this friendship until a relationship can be developed
for guys to think of commitment we also needs to finish schooling
2007-02-10 06:39:58 · answer #8 · answered by kimht 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think youll be lucky to get a guy that is that gentle and caring. you should keep seeing this guy and make sure youre not pushed to do anything you dont want to. get to no him even more and be sure hes genuine and ask him out on a date and see his response.
2007-02-10 06:35:17 · answer #9 · answered by ▓▒░ ♫ Pump !t up ♫ ▓▒░ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there's lots of fish in the sea....go fishing and stop worring about it. when ur 30 you'll either be married to THIS guy or have forgot about him.
2007-02-10 06:36:28 · answer #10 · answered by superman0094 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋