i keep asking a million questions all the time and its driving me as well as him up the wall......its like i find thats the only way i can believe him.....he didnt cheat or anything....it wasnt major issues but he did betray me in other ways and hes is now sincerely sorry for it [ or so im lead to believe] and io cant help but feel paranoid now.....its been 2 weeks
2007-02-10 05:47:06 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Environment
Learning to trust again after even the smallest form of betrayal is often very difficult. It is a slow process. Unlike destroying someones trust which takes only a second, rebuilding trust can take years. You must first truly forgive that person for the wrong that they did. You may think you have forgiven them, but in most cases, people have not let it go deep inside. And that is what eats at them. Give it time and really work on this whole forgiveness thing. Think before you speak and start with the accusations and this will help with the fighting between the two of you. Just try to take control over your emotions. It really takes time and it takes work and communication. But it can be done. Good luck to you both.
2007-02-10 05:59:17 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Crickett 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have lied to or betrayed him or anyone else in any way, try to conjure up those instances so that you can understand what he did, why he may have done it, realize that both he and you are human, and forgive him.
Tell him that you need to keep talking it over until the trust between you is regained. If he's like most men this will drive him crazy, so maybe you two could settle on a time to discuss it once a week or so...that way he won't keep getting irritated, as no one likes to be continually reminded of her / his mistakes.
I hope you work it out.
2007-02-10 06:20:23 · answer #2 · answered by H. Scot 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people should not be trusted. If you want to get along, you simply compromise. Accept that you are being cheated in one way or another and just live your life.
2007-02-10 05:51:44 · answer #3 · answered by the Boss 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you need to be asking yourself millions of questions, trust isnt something he will give you. It something you will find in yourself, so maybe the trick is to not put yourself to far beyond your comfort zone and take it step by step, but as they say nothing ventured nothing gained.
2007-02-10 05:55:33 · answer #4 · answered by Belgrakk 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋