is it right to tell a child you dont love her?
Even if you said it because you mad?
2007-02-10 05:21:49 · 39 answers · asked by ken 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
it is never right 2 tell anyone that.that makes a person fell bad.but people these days say anything when they r mad.he probably didnt mean it at all.u really shouldnt take it 2 heart.u should talk 2 him about and work out ur differences so u guys can have a better relationship.i dont think he meant it but he still should of never said it
2007-02-10 05:28:13 · answer #1 · answered by â?¥Ms.ToP nOtCh ChIcKâ?¥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be harsh- i don't exactly like hearing the fact a father that tells his own child he doesn't love her-breaks my heart emotionally. I suggests go get counselor and see if they can help work out this problem, because it is not really right for a child to hear those hateful words. I hope you know that even if your father said that- there are others that will love you no matter what! I hope you find a way to talk to him and see if he will never to say that again!
2007-02-10 05:26:57 · answer #2 · answered by greenhousethugz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it isn't right for him to say that to you, but we all say things in the heat of the moment that we really don't mean. Just give him a chance to cool off and then talk to him calmly. Tell him that you love him very much (even when you fight or disagree) and let him know that he really hurt you when he said that. I'm sure he is really sorry and just doesn't know how to bring it up without getting you upset again. Give him a chance to make it right. Parents are NOT perfect. I know, I am one and you may be one too some day!
Good luck hon. I know it's hard, but things will get better and rest assured, HE DOES LOVE YOU!!!
2007-02-10 05:35:02 · answer #3 · answered by F-1 says KISS IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think it is appropriate to judge your parent until you are a parent your self. If that time comes you will not be making a value judgment but a judgment about your own behavior using your life experience. Some things are right or wrong, others are better or worse. How do you distinguish between these?
It does hurt that a parent would possibly use the presence of their love as a tool to correct your behavior because love it suppose to be unconditional and rise above all things. If they do not love you it is spiteful to tell you this, I am sure this is not the case.
2007-02-10 05:28:58 · answer #4 · answered by Ron H 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No No,NO!! That is Wrong, Wrong, WRONG! This is called verbal abuse. A child is born into this world with NO ONE to love them but their parent(s). Once the fear of not being loved by their only security in this world, it can scar them for life. I am so sorry you had to hear this from your father. I'm sure he said this in moment of anger and was not thinking clear. We all say and do things we regret later when we speak in anger. That's why it's better to walk away from an argument until you have time to clear your head and cool down. I hope and pray you and your dad can make amends. Please don't let this be a scar on you. Please be mature enough to know your father does indeed love you unconditionally.
2007-02-10 05:31:17 · answer #5 · answered by Vida 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. I consider that mental and emotional abuse. Even after the father apologizes, a scar still remains. That is why we have a mind and in this case, the mind should rule over the angry heart. When the family situation treads through difficult waters, angry regrets seemed to have gone through this father's mind. Did he regret bringing forth a child? As a father, and parenting is not always easy, he should have handled his anger in a positive way and not a negative way.
2007-02-10 06:05:58 · answer #6 · answered by feminine feline 1953 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people say things they don't mean when they are upset. It isn't right to tell that a child you don't love him/her, but every parent makes mistakes. Give him some time and see if he will apologize.
If he won't apologize, don't correct him and tell him he was wrong, instead tell him how it made you feel when he said that.
2007-02-10 05:26:22 · answer #7 · answered by inkantra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never right to use hurtful words in anger or in any emotion. That is lack of self control and it shows a very immature man in my opinion. My husband and I may fight (as ALL people do in relationships of any kind) but I would never say hurtful things just because I was angry and neither does he. You need to talk to you father as a mature person and tell him that it hurts you and that it is wrong of him. You also need to know, that although it hurts you, that he doesn't mean it and you are a very mature person to recognize that doing that is not right.
2007-02-10 05:26:13 · answer #8 · answered by Barbara C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not right, but first of all you need to walk up to him and ask him if you can just stop what you guys were fighting about and talk about how you did not like him saying that he did not love you -tell him that it hurt you very bad!
2007-02-10 05:26:19 · answer #9 · answered by Natalia 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In no way shape or form is it ever ok to tell your child that you dont love them no matter what your child may have done! Shame on him for acting so immaturely and making you feel the way he did.
2007-02-10 05:29:42 · answer #10 · answered by Sherrie D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋