we ave bin 2getha 4 ova 5 yrs now r stil v much in love but now n then he will say he doesn't want 2b with me!! we have made serious plans 2getha lik travelling n mortgage n then he says its al my idea n doesnt wan2 b pressured in2 stuf. he lies now and again about silly things, i do trust him but he confuses me wen he contradicts himself. i dont think he actually wants to split up with me but just has man mood swings now and again! but he hurts me in the process. He has had a difficult up bringing n child hood kinda disrupted he took drugs 4 quite a few years aswel he bottles stuf up then explodes i try different ways of retaliatin but its so frustratin. pls help xxx
2007-02-10 05:09:43 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dump him.
2007-02-10 05:14:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so that you're genuinely purely sound asleep with him. His situation with his children won't be able to change. if you're having a situation with it now.....it is going to purely worsen. i count on case you want a lengthy time period relationship and not in any respect only a fling.....you should flow on. i in my opinion do not imagine it really is a petty grievance. inspite of the actual shown actuality that it really is authentic he's an outstanding guy, and an spectacular father, he's in a situation in his existence the position he's unable to be that spectacular guy to you complete time and once you've a baby with him...do not assume that he will by some potential write his different children off. it really is going to take a lady in an exceptionally spectacular situation to be able to have a relationship with this guy. i trust you want more effective than this....and also you deserve it...and this won't in any respect be a placed down for him. that's in basic terms 2 good those who've situations in existence that won't be able to get replaced and frequently you should make alternatives on your existence for the existence you want to stay.
2016-11-26 21:31:41 · answer #2 · answered by chamberland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it sounds like he has problems commiting to your relationship. Which is a shame as you have been together for a long time. Perhaps it might be worthwhile considering going to a councillor together to help you get things out in to the open and understand each other's point of view? But at the end of the day, you should be with someone because they make you happy and if that is not the case in your relationship perhaps it is time to move on. I hope things work out for you whatever you decide.
2007-02-10 05:46:46 · answer #3 · answered by walkeygem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why you always up in the man's face, when he wants to talk he will do so, i know you care but asking him so many questions when he's not in the mood will make him fustrated. take a step back an maybe in time he may tell you what's going on in his head, don't you know men are thinkers. stop asking him about buying a house/travelling if he was going to do that with you he would of done it by NOW! as you say you've been together for five years. backoff a little make him come to you
2007-02-10 06:01:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's got commitment issues maybe as a result of his difficult childhood. Whether that makes it acceptable to hurt your feelings though I'm not sure. I think communication is the key and if you can't have an adult conversation about why he behaves like this then maybe he's not for you. Relationships shouldn't make you sad.x
2007-02-10 05:20:30 · answer #5 · answered by Katy W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... i think ur bf may be trying to tell you something. y dont u try talking to him face to face about everything? if he's really into u, and doesnt want the relationship to end, he'll understand and want to work it out wit you... then again, if u dont like him anymore, u should tell him... it all depends on ur feelings... if u feel that maybe he's pushing u into not liking him anymore, ask him to really tell you wats goin on... why he's having all these mood swings, and if it has anything to do with u. the main key is talk. just each of u tell ur feelings... ur true feelings for one another.
2007-02-10 05:20:17 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk it out tell him you arent comfortable and if he loves you that much if you say your gonna leave him unless he gets his act together......make sure though that he has let his feelings out but if he isnt willing to tell you them make sure you are in a right relationship and that you shouldt wait for an open one. Good Luck!
2007-02-10 05:16:35 · answer #7 · answered by Vixz06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should talk to him and tell him how you feel. it may seem difficult and pointless but maybe thats what he needs - a good talk with someone. let him know how you feel about all that and that you dont like what he does and his changing mind and moods.
2007-02-10 05:17:13 · answer #8 · answered by vamy189 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you know what you have to do if you feel that he is full of broken promises than leave if you feel he is hurting your feelings than leave but if you want to stick it out to the end than stay.lol
2007-02-10 05:16:44 · answer #9 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I sometimes tell my bf I want to break up. I think it's when I feel bad and I need him to notice I'm there and I need him!
Just tell him that it hurts you when he says that and let him know that you want to be with him. Personnally, that's what I want to hear: Sweetie, please don't say stupid things, you know you don't really want to break up with me, we're great together!!
2007-02-10 05:15:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is manic depressive. Maybe you need to reconsider this relationship. It will not get any better.
2007-02-10 05:13:26 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋