My ex who is the father of my 5 year old daughter is balking at paying $100 a month in child support, because he now has a newborn with his new wife and is supporting her 3 year old child from a previous relationship. I make more money than he does, so he figures he shouldn't have to pay for our daughter. He is obligated to pay $25 a week in child support or he gets supoenaed to court. He hasn't paid anything since December and the court has sent him a letter to appear in court. He had the gall to call me and accuse me of filing paperwork against him! I didn't file anything - the courts are just following procedure. Why does he think he shouldn't have to pay support anymore!
2007-02-10 05:09:31 · 11 answers · asked by Pink1967 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
He still says I am trying to soak him for all he has! He says because he is working at Target that he can't afford $25 a week taken out of his pay. His wife doesn't work either. I work 50+ hours a week just to make ends meet!
2007-02-10 05:49:24 · update #1
To all those who are bashing me for this question, I am not saying that all men are deadbeats! I was merely venting my frustration and I have NEVER used my daughter as a pawn!! I just want my CHILD to get some money from her dad. I use this money for her and NOT for me. I have $50 in her account which won't pay for even a day of daycare. Geez next time I won't even bother to ask a question.
2007-02-10 11:59:57 · update #2
Well, $100 per month is a very small amount of child support. He should have paid it and gone on b/c he's gotten himself into more trouble than he's going to want at this point.
His obligation, as would every mothers obligation would be to support each child of his/hers. Pretty simple stuff.
If the courts have noticed that his support has gone unpaid since December than you are obviously on some type of state or government assistance. Otherwise, they wouldn't know and no action would be taken unless you chose to file a motion.
He needs to grow up and you should probably not worry about his irritation. His consequences are a result of his own actions or lack thereof.
2007-02-10 05:24:01 · answer #1 · answered by ~Me~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me answer this way. I am a man and I got custody of my daughter when she was a year old, and I raised her alone until she was married and moved out of the home WITH NO HELP of any kind from her mother or anyone else, and I use the term loosely, (mother) or anything else contributed by her. She did not even send my daughter birthday cards, Christmas cards or even acknowledge she even had a daughter. I told my daughter where she was at when she was around 25 years old, and she went to see her mom, and she told me that she wished she had NEVER seen her as she could see what she was after around 15 minutes. I told my daughgter that is why I told you where she was, so you could form youir own opinion of her, and see how she was. I know some will say 15 minutes is not long enough to know someone, but her *mom* was working in a bar, unkempt, filthy, and was even picked up for prostitution at one time. It is in the Public Records in the city where we lived at the time. That woman was a piece of trash, and she COULD have been a great mom, wife, and all around great person, but you cannot make a HO into a housewife. I took care of her mom and gave her love, attention, care, and just about anything else she wanted within reason. She is the one who screwed up, not me. I have Lied, Robbed, Stole, Broken into houses and stores to feed my child and would do it all over again if I had to. I am not proud of some of the things I had to do to survive, but I did what I had to for MY CHILD. It took along time to get on my feet, but when I did, I never looked back. I now have 4 wonderful and great Grandchildren who I love with all my heart and soul.
2007-02-10 06:20:16 · answer #2 · answered by Ex Head 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The situation should be assessed in a court. I believe [I'm not a judge or lawyer so I don't know for sure] that child support does depend on the father's financial situation. That was HIS responsibility to figure out. HE should have talked to the courts if he felt he shouldn't have to pay as much or was in a financial crisis. While he should have to pay child support his financial status should also be a consideration. Unfortunately he didn't think of that before he had a new child. You are right. He still should pay child support but you'll have to wait for the courts to decide the amount. I hope it all works out for you and I'm sorry that all this stress is in your life. Best of Luck!
2007-02-10 05:18:44 · answer #3 · answered by .vato. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do people assume this? I don't.
I faithfully paid my child support for over 11 years.
I would argue that just as many women use their children as pawns to control the ex-spouse and make demands or try to control things they have no business being involved in.
Some women should try being in the father's position to find out how unfair the court system really is. My ex-wife has lied about her income, why about our daughter's medical treatment and lied about many other expenses in an attempt to gain even more child support. While it's easy to discredit these claims it's still very expensive to always include attorneys and court fees to do so.
Don't generalize or make blanket statements. There are many responsible fathers in this world.
2007-02-10 08:31:47 · answer #4 · answered by elmar66 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men, especially when in a situation like yours where you earn more, think that's their ticket to freedom. It's sad but true. They figure they can pick and choose which children to support and which ones to neglect. I'm glad the courts stepped in. One thing he has to realize is if he isn't paying they will keep on him till he's caught up. If he continues not to pay he could spend time in jail. Believe me, even if you had filed, it wouldn't move as fast as when the courts do it themselves. Heck this guy and his new wife probably spend $100 a month eating out. It wouldn't kill him to take care of his daughter.
2007-02-10 05:25:06 · answer #5 · answered by Melanie A 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nobody, men or women, should expect kudos for taking responsibility for the children THEY choose to bring into this world. On the flipside, both should expect criticism if they don't. When you bring a life into this world, you struggle and skrimp and do whatever you need to do to give them the best quality of life that you possibly can. If a non custodial parent of either gender is not putting the needs of their children first on their list of priorities, then they are deadbeat parents.
2016-05-25 02:15:32 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, this is also being driven by the new wife. She does not like the money going to support your daughter. It means less money for their budget. Expect them to start trying to get partial custody so he does not have to pay. It will start with visitation then gradually be worked up to 1/2 and 1/2. Seen it too many times.
2015-09-15 15:26:48 · answer #7 · answered by beenthere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men who assume this are deadbeat dads. there is no other way to describe them. this issue needs to be addressed in court, that is the only way this problem can be solved. hope this helps. good luck.
2007-02-10 06:07:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
count yaself lucky u will get that much!! I have 2 daughters, and for each child i get 2.18 a week!!!
2007-02-10 05:31:10 · answer #9 · answered by em_19792000 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
because he's a lazy good for nothing father. it happens. as long as your daughter gets her money, let him be pissed.
2007-02-10 05:20:21 · answer #10 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋