My boy cut me loose just about two months ago... it's been hard to get over him, and I'm doing much better, but how will I know that I truly AM over him?
2007-02-10 04:52:19 · 26 answers · asked by lachicadecafe 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're asking, then you're not over him. It can take a really long time to get over someone. I was dumped by someone I really loved and it took me about a year to really get over it. And the day I knew I was over it was about a year later when he said he had made a mistake and that he loved me and wanted me back. I said no and it didn't hurt and I knew in my heart and my head that I was finally okay without him. And in letting go, I was able to see that he didn't treat me the way I deserve. And once I had let go, an amazing guy came into my life and he treats me like a princess. Just give it time. That's all you can do. I know it's hard and it sucks. Good luck.
2007-02-10 05:06:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are doing much better shows that you have got ''over'' him. Other indications are when you are able to smile more often than the time when things were strained, you are able to talk to people, socialise, you dont cry as much as when it happened, and this feeling of something gone out of you, you dont feel lonely or depressed anymore...those are a few, but yea, you may be over him, but yet it looks like you did care for him alot, and perhaps you cant believe it yourself that you have gotten over him, and hence this question.
Look ahead, dont look back, and then time, time is the only factor that heals, and time is the most impossible factor to heal is what I thought. But it does, I found out myself, and I am sure it will or it already is happening with u
good luck
2007-02-10 04:58:26 · answer #2 · answered by arya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down, close your eyes, and imagine this...
You've started dating again. You're in a new relationship, and the guy you're with is great. But suddenly, your ex calls you back, and says he's sorry, he made a mistake in telling you goodbye, he still loves you, and wants to get back with you.
Would you take him back? Do you not KNOW if you would take him back? Or would you actually tell him off, and say "sorry bud, you gave me up"?
If you would take him back, or you're not sure if you would take him back, you still have some grieving to do. But if you wouldn't go back to him, congratulations, you're over him.
However, I wouldn't hold off on dating, just because you aren't over him. The best way TO get over him, is to see that there are still eligible fish out in the sea. Just make sure the guys you date, know what is going on, so you don't lead them on. When you find a guy that you an te, and not COMPARE to your ex, that's probably the first sign that you're ready for serious dating again.
2007-02-10 05:13:55 · answer #3 · answered by ltygress 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It'll take a while - especially depending on how long you were with him. You'll know that your over him when your ready to get out there again. You'll just know by instinct. If your flirting with someone and it goes futher - you'll know then, because if you pull back, you'll know your not ready - and that you might need helping trusting your new boy.
Instinct tells you - nothing else can.
xx
2007-02-10 04:55:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you were in love, you may never fully get over him. I have a few ex's that I still have love for and think of at times. I guess I knew when I was "over" them was a long time after we broke up. (I'm still friends with one) It didn't bother me when I knew they were dating other girls. I think that is the point that you know you are over them, and know that you are fine without them. Hopefully at that time you have moved on too.
If you are still finding yourself sad, or "depressed" then you probably aren't "over" them. Take time for yourself. Get out of the house. Exercise to get your mind off them and to make you feel better. Go out with friends and family. Do things to get him off your mind, (if he is still lingering there)
I guess when you don't think about them all the time, or think about them and get sad then you are over them. It's fine to have thoughts of him, and hopefully someday you'll have good memories, but not look back and regret anything.
2007-02-10 05:01:07 · answer #5 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i liked this guy for 3 years and he didnt like me
i couldnt get over him for 3 whole years
but when i did it felt something like this...............
you get atracted to another person
you have the need to be with someone
and you stop thinking about your ex so much
yea im 13 and that was 3 years gone to waste
wow thats only 10 left
so good luck
and dont be like me
throwing away 3 years at a guy
2007-02-10 05:00:02 · answer #6 · answered by urluvmakesmeweak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, I knew I was alright when I just carried on with my own life and not thinking of him nor anything to do with him.
What is meant to be is meant to be........so be it :)
You are doing much better now, so you are on the way to truly be over him.
Good luck :)
2007-02-10 04:57:35 · answer #7 · answered by winterlotus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably if you hear his name or see him out somewhere and you truly wish the best for him and you no longer wish you were with him, you will feel that you are better off with out him, but you will have no hard feelings against him. once you feel that way, you should be over him.
2007-02-10 04:56:21 · answer #8 · answered by Chrissy C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If everything you see doesn't remind you of him, it's OK to think of him every now and again but if you're thinking of him several times a day, you aren't over him yet.
2007-02-10 04:54:50 · answer #9 · answered by justpeachee22 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When u wake up in the morning and u realize that ur ok being by urself and all ur tears have turned to laughter.
2007-02-10 05:01:57 · answer #10 · answered by Nickie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋