2007-02-10 04:45:12 · 10 answers · asked by Rajalakshmi R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Focus your attention on your spouse. You made a committment that should not be taken lightly as it often is nowdays. Our society is so infatuated with romantic *feelings* and *being in looove* that we feel if we are not *in love* with our spouse anymore that it must be over. This is so false! You will not always feel those romantic feelings toward your spouse. They will come and go. Just like your feeling of being "in love" with this other person. I assure you that if you were to leave your spouse to be with the other person, and ended up marrying them, you would find yourself in the same situation years down the road.
What made you fall in love with your spouse? What are some of his/her best qualities? Are you best of friends? Focus on that and healing your marriage relationship as necessary. This also means cutting off all contact with this other person. Try to take steps to rekindle that romance with your spouse. Good luck!
2007-02-10 09:24:43 · answer #1 · answered by Melody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you fell in love with someone else after you got married then you shouldn't have gotten married in the first place! Life isn't endless but you are being selfish. Did your spouse know that you were looking for somethingelse?
You need to be honest with them now!
2007-02-10 04:51:12 · answer #2 · answered by KJ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You made a commitment, you need to stick with it. Love is a choice you need to stay away from the person. Divorce is to easy You obviously love your wife otherwise you wouldn't have married her. And as far as life is short do you want to go through life as a lire and a cheater marriage is a promise. Life is to short to be hurting people forget the other person.
2007-02-10 04:53:54 · answer #3 · answered by firshizel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a commitment apparently one you weren't ready to make. We can love many people romantically throughout our life but they may never be the one we are to settle down with. I think you made the mistake of choosing the wrong person to start a life with.
2007-02-10 04:53:25 · answer #4 · answered by Gen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would stay with my husband and my commitment. I would forget the other guy and do what I could to find the love and romance I once had with my husband. Go on a vacation, remember the good times. Do whatever it takes.
2007-02-10 05:43:22 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, divorce is not uncommon in India also now a days (I feel you are an Indian). So, if you really can't help it and if the other person (whom you love) is ready to wait, ask your husband to release you through a divorce. However, if he is not willing to oblige, you will have a tough time.
2007-02-10 04:56:07 · answer #6 · answered by Swamy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow hmm? well why get married to the first person if you werent in love should be the question...and being that you were married you already should had been dedicated and not messing around in order to fall in love with another...but if this were to happen because you were out trampin around well i guess you would just move on!!
2007-02-10 04:56:24 · answer #7 · answered by ELIZY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell my husband and give him a chance to change what was wrong. If he didn't work on anything then I would move on and that is just what I done when it happened to me and I am still with him.
2007-02-10 04:48:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce ASAP,because your marriage will not last !!!
2007-02-10 04:57:08 · answer #9 · answered by RJ2K1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell your wife so she can make the decision!
2007-02-10 08:22:29 · answer #10 · answered by pamcake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋