what do girls think when they are involved in this situation?
im not impotent, im just not in the mood everyday
who is supposed to feel guilty? how can a couple solve this issue, and more, i wonder if this is a issue to her? it's not for me and i still love her....... if she didn't want to make love i would understand
im a sensitive guy
tell me for your own experience
2007-02-10 04:43:37 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
there is no reason to feel guilty about that, unless your girlfriend is a sexual addict then she probably is "NORMAL" like you and doesn't want sex all the time either. SECRET: Guys don't always want sex either even though you can't show that to your friends cuz it's not, hence the word, "MACHO" it is true your human there are times that you as a man doesn't want to have sex, there's no reason to feel guilty or embarrassed about it at all.
Well i was finished but i read more of your question, this has happened to me so yes speaking from experience is what i am doing, but you also said that no matter what you still love her, its hard to find guys like you around these days, now men don't care that much about the females feelings, making me wonder who raised them as a child.
2007-02-17 19:42:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly where you are coming from.
If she is insecure in any way, this is just her way of trying to make you happy, she may think that the act of sex is bringing you closer.
What you could do is tell her " Man I just love to cuddle all night long some times ..don't you ? just re-assure her she is important to you. As females some times, if a man does not want sex ..it scares us into thinking " Is he digging some one else?" after all we women are led to believe that men want sex all the time ..or at least twice as much as women do.
I personally like to cuddle more than have sex.
You should not feel guilty, for just being you.
2007-02-17 18:02:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in a relationship for 6 years with a man who had hardly no sex drive at all. i on the other hand could have sex everyday and still get horny. i would never pressure him into having sex with me but i did talk to him about it a few times. see the problem was that i would find playboys and baby oil in secret places all over the house, like he was jacking off all the time. so i gave him a choice he can either be honest with me about it or i would have to move on. he claimed that he was very attracted to me but i am not around when he is horny.... (BULL). anyway things didn't change in the next 6 months after that so i left him. after that fact he tried to get me back and said he was sorry. there were a lot of other factors that ended our relationship but that was a major one.
2007-02-10 12:54:09 · answer #3 · answered by Btieti 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most women I know enjoy being held, kissed, and cuddled by a man.
You'd be surprised how many are totally satisfied WITHOUT THE SEX!
Sometimes a little thoughtful attention is an adequate temporary substitute for a lot of S-E-X!
2007-02-18 12:11:54 · answer #4 · answered by argytunes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two need to have open communication with each other. Talk
about all of your "needs" and "wants", share what works for you
and her. If what you need does not meet what she needs, adapt
your approach--be flexible! Help her (first) to become satisfied
and she will return the favor. Always be on the "giving" end of the
relationship, because giving IS loving!
2007-02-17 11:55:13 · answer #5 · answered by SlownEasy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that even if she's in the mood for it every night, you're not, and that you still want to have sex just only when you want it... If she loves you she'll understand.
2007-02-10 12:50:43 · answer #6 · answered by Makenzie. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy this is a switch. Usually it is the woman that is asking this question. Why not buy her some toys and when she is in the mood and you are not either use them on her or she can use them on herself.
2007-02-10 12:48:54 · answer #7 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its kind of weird, you probally do not get alot of advice from gay guys, but I think you should just try to think about the last time you did have sex, and maybe it could stimulate you. Well you should know, just try to think about it, and then you would make love with her.
2007-02-17 22:47:25 · answer #8 · answered by llopezmunster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, she wants the closeness involved in the act...not the act itself.
All other forms of intimacy are equally important. She just wants to be close to you.
2007-02-18 05:02:31 · answer #9 · answered by sweet doll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell her exactly what you have written here! Talk to her, she will appreciate your honesty. I am sure she is not in the mood every day herself.
2007-02-18 11:58:00 · answer #10 · answered by nurse ratchet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋