we have been dating for 4yrs and i have become good friends with his family.i hear stories about how great he was with his old gfs(sending flowers at work,boxes for cards,love letters,little romantic gifts ect)in the 4 yrs we have been dating i got flowers once(with me hinting alot) and one card for my b-day with just his name signed.why is this?i don't expect expensive gifts just something to let me know hes thinking about me when i'm not with him.i do it to him all the time.i know some guys just don't do stuff like that but he allways did for his other gfs so whay not me?
2007-02-10 04:38:04 · 9 answers · asked by karenbshy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
guys do those things to get a girl in bed. since you guys are sleeping togather already, he doesnot need to do it.maybe thats why.
2007-02-10 04:45:13 · answer #1 · answered by atahsina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say that your boyfriend is a caring, giving thoughtful, person but not to you. I think that your boyfriend does not think that he has to show you he cares for you because he is used to having you by his side, and he does not take into consideration that he has to give you anything to show he cares, about you. Now, I am going to tell you about my experience with my Husband, if after you read it you decide if that is the future you want for yourself. I have been Married for 48, almost 49, yrs. and not once has my husband told me he loves me, or send me any flowers, but once about 15, yrs, ago when his boss went to buy flowers for his wife for valentines day, and he told my husband to buy me flowers and a box of candy which he did. other then that he says he does not have to tell me he loves me because I know. But that is no comfort to me because I tell him that once in a while he should show some appreciation for me being a loyal wife, and for taking his fustrations from his workplace which he brings home with a sour face. Don't get me wrong I love him a lot otherwise I do not think I could have stand it for not being appreciated for long. Good luck to you and have a long talk with your boyfriend about this issue, tell him that you are not painted in the wall and that you want for him to show that he Loves you and appreciate's you for being his girlfriend, Why if I might add, have you two gotten Married, four yrs, being girlfriend/boyfriend? What is holding you back you, or him. I hope that what I told you helped some.
2007-02-10 05:08:08 · answer #2 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not right. I think it's time for him to show you he loves you and not just say the words. You deserve to be treated like someone special in his life. This is something to think about before you let the relationship go any farther. Work this out before you decide to get married because if it bothers you now, it will bother you even more then. Be sure you are getting what you want out of this relationship.
2007-02-10 07:26:35 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see this is a hard question for any one who doesnt know you personally to answer.. quite simply it ould be alot of things maybe he really got hurt with his past girlfriend maybey he just doesnt uderstand you want those things too or feels more comfortable with you not to have to "woo" any more many men dont realize that to feel thought of we need that and many time woman think that the men should or do know when they have no idea of our wants and needs think carefully at what you want and need and sit with him and talk casually with him and open up. put it on the table and dont beat around the bush tell him to do some thing sweet and creative everyonce in a while when he thinks of you and your love.... we cant expect someone to know what we are thinking or feeling and you arent doing yourself an injustice by telling him this like ruining the surprise or feeling like you "did" the romantic gesture and he really didnt think of it. like i said just talk to him with out anger or frustration in your voice or body language and do it lovingly.i can not stress that enuff cuz most we all know what most guys think of a "talk" sit down with him and just describe your feelings.... he may just not know what you want hope this helps some
2007-02-10 04:52:25 · answer #4 · answered by patricia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is possible he was very fall in love with his old gfs,and when he finished the relationships,he was hurt badly, with some of them.So,now he does not want the same behaviour as before,avoiding to had another disappointment with you.He does not want to make another mistake as before.This behaviour is typical in women and men,when they broke up and got hurt badly.But for sure if you have 4 years with him,he is the man for you.Good question.
2007-02-10 05:09:24 · answer #5 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either he's gotten very comfortable in the relationship or he doesn't really like you that much.. Or the family could be lying to you. Why would they be telling you about his ex's in the first place?
2007-02-10 04:45:59 · answer #6 · answered by Delphi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe because u have been thier for 4 years he knows that you will be forever so he doens't have to do anything to keep you... you are just always going to be thier...
2007-02-10 05:07:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask him why, i know he ain't broke if he did that for the other chicks , ya dig?
2007-02-10 05:03:02 · answer #8 · answered by twiggy_vienna_love 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the other girls probably didn't appreciate it. they probably expected it. so now he thinks, why bother? she wont appreciate it.
2007-02-10 04:41:40 · answer #9 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋